WHY DO FRIENDSHIPS DETERIORATE AFTER WE LOSE THE WEIGHT?

I had my surgery on 03/04/02 and today I lost 100 pounds altogether. However, the friends that I had when I was heavier no longer exist. I had lots of so called friends, I had friends who I dieted with and friends who I worked out at health clubs with also. I am hurting inside because I can no longer share my success stories with my old friends and I cannot share positive things that I encounter since losing the weight either. I tried to make friends with WLS people in my hometown and they seem to be extremely busy or have no room in their life for new friendships. I know that I am a down to earth person with a pleasant personality, so I don't feel that my lack of friends has anything to do with my personality. However, I did have depression problems because of the obesity that I suffered with for so many years. Since losing the weight I don't suffer from depression anymore. I do feel melancholy sometimes because my old friends dismissed me from their life after I lost the weight. Do anyone have any suggestions, advice or comments to offer me? I feel that I need to be able to communicate with other WLS people on the telephone or through email, but I can't seem to meet WLS people whom I can offer support to or vis versa! It seems that people only call me when they want something from me, people don't seem to want honesty or true friendship anymore. I am going to start going to support meetings when the weather get better and hopefully I can meet other WLS people and we can share eating tips and WLS stories, etc. Thanks for sharing and good luck to you all. S.M.

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