Attn Single Posties!

Hi, all! I'm pre-op--awaiting a surgical consult. Like everyone else, my primary motivation for having this surgery is for my health. But I'd be lying if I said that I wasn't also wondering if perhaps I may finally find my "Alpha Male". Have any of you fellow singletons ever been rejected POST-OP by men because of 1) sagging breasts, thighs, upperarms, abdomen, bottom, 2) stretch marks, or 3) plastic surgery scars. How did you handle it? Did you date before you had plastic surgery? Did you wait until after you had your plastic surgery before dating, and for how long? How did you explain the scarring/sagging once the relationship progressed to the intimate phase? (NB: I have no intention of telling anyone I date that I had WLS...at least not until the relationship has progressed well into the serious stage.) My weight has impacted greatly on my past relationships, and I'm totally anxious thinking that I've finally found a wonderful tool to get my weight under control, I'm feeling great, my health's great, I'm exercising regularly because I'm no longer in pain...but I'm still rejected by men. I won't be fat anymore, but I'll still be physically unacceptable to the male of the species. Your words of wisdom? (and PLEASE--I beseech you---please don't say "you have to love yourself before anyone else can love you" or "beauty is only skin deep" or "it's the person inside that counts", or any of those other lovely platitudes that we tell ourselves in order to deny the truth. I live in NJ, ladies--the sibling of NY and the coastal complement to CA! Physical appearance is PARAMOUNT here! Yes, true, it IS the person on the inside that REALLY counts...but no one's gonna be able to SEE that inner person if they can't get past the outer person...)

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