Revealing WLS to a Significant Other as a Long-Term Post-Op

I am 21 months post-op, down 172 lbs, from 355 to 183, from size 32/34 to 12/14. Life is grand! I have begun dating the most wonderful man over the last couple of months. Now that I am such a long-term post-op, wls is no longer the focus of my life, and I try to live as a normal person. He was not in my life at the time I had surgery. He has never asked about the scars. I have always been a "roof-topper" about my surgery, but have been totally hesitant to tell him. All my friends, family, coworkers know about my surger. My close friend whom I work with (and whose date is 02/27/2002!) had been encouraging me to tell him before someone else mentioned it. I really didn't want to! I'm not sure why - fear of freaking him out, rejection, or whatever. We were on a date about a week ago, I finished my meal, and he said, "Man, you eat like a bird!" My heart started pounding, and I knew I needed to tell him. So, I blurted it out, asked him how he felt about it, and he said it made no difference to him at all. He laughed and said we could start splitting a meal or for me to order from the kid's menu! I have the restaurant card, just never used it. I usually box up leftovers, but we were out of town at a concert, and shrimp fettucine wouldn't have fared well in the car for 3 hours! I'm glad I got it off my chest and that it made no difference to him. Anyone else have this experience?

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