What do you tell a wavering fat friend?

I've lost well over one hundred pounds, and a fat friend came to me (I never proselytize for weight-loss surgery) and asked me for information. I gave her all my favorite websites, including this one. At first, she was very positive about it and I was hopeful that she was headed for the surgery, which she badly needs (she's in the superobese category, and a smoker). Now she's coming up with the sort of objections I'd expect from someone who's done no research on the topic: 1) "My friend's cousin's friend's boss died of that operation." 2) "That same friend told me that if I overate after I had that operation, I'd bust open my staples and die in the emergency room." 3) "It's not just my stomach that gets hungry, it's my head. Even if I got full after a few bites, I'd still want to eat and I'd be miserable." 4) "A friend's friend went on Paxil, or Effexor, or whatever, and stopped being depressed and lost xxx pounds." 5) "I went to that AMOS website you told me about and I read about somebody who had that surgery and gained back all the weight." My friend never exercises and is as likely to drop two hundred pounds dieting as I am to drop ten years. Should I face the fact that anyone who really isn't committed to this surgery will find 1001 reasons not to have it and just say, "Die fat"?

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