WLS Success-through Powerful Positive Attitudes
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Topic: RE: Please support Yvonne
OK So..... I just went to vote and voting is apparently over. I am NOT happy with the outcome. I find it sad that negativity has won out over positive success! I think to keep the high road here I shall say no more, except Again Yvonne will ALWAYS have my Vote!!!
Topic: RE: Please support Yvonne
Yvonne will ALWAYS have My Vote!!!
Just when the Catipillar thought the world was over
....She became a Butterfly
300+ /260/ 140 Current BMI 22.4 /No Longer a #, just were my body is Happy
Highest Weight/ at surgery/ current /Goal
Topic: RE: Endoscopy
Fortunately no! Please let us know what they said. That's a new one for me. Hope you feel better really soon.
hugs, Y
hugs, Y
Open RNY 3/30/01 260lbs - 130lbs 
Yvonne McCarthy, CLC. Health & Wellness Coach (full time volunteer). I am happy to help if I can. Visit www.bariatricgirl.com and see the Bariatric Girl blog! Also check out my Facebook Bariatric Girl Page. Photography site www.yvonnemccarthy.com .„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨
Topic: RE: 1 year
I'm glad Molly. If we "believe" things that may not be exactly right we cannot see another way. That's why it's key to discuss anything that comes to mind because if you don't ask or talk about it you can never see another angle or possibility.
I have told this story many times. I didn't see another post-op for 3 years after surgery. I "assumed" that I was supposed to have the surgery and keep the weight off so every time I started to regain I fixed it because it is what I believed was supposed to happen. I literally didn't know better. If I had met other post-ops that regained I would have automatically believed that I was certainly not special because I failed so many times before. The same thing happened with the dating. I did not know that had stopped others because I never talked to anyone before that. Sometimes our minds can put us in a prison...just like the obesity did. I hope that helps.
hugs, Y
I have told this story many times. I didn't see another post-op for 3 years after surgery. I "assumed" that I was supposed to have the surgery and keep the weight off so every time I started to regain I fixed it because it is what I believed was supposed to happen. I literally didn't know better. If I had met other post-ops that regained I would have automatically believed that I was certainly not special because I failed so many times before. The same thing happened with the dating. I did not know that had stopped others because I never talked to anyone before that. Sometimes our minds can put us in a prison...just like the obesity did. I hope that helps.
hugs, Y
Open RNY 3/30/01 260lbs - 130lbs Yvonne McCarthy, CLC. Health & Wellness Coach (full time volunteer). I am happy to help if I can. Visit www.bariatricgirl.com and see the Bariatric Girl blog! Also check out my Facebook Bariatric Girl Page. Photography site www.yvonnemccarthy.com .„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨
Topic: RE: Please share your absolutes.
My dearest Molly,
You have repaid me a million times over for your participation on this forum!! I can always depend on you and JEllen to be here. Traci has been so good too. It is truly family here and I love it when someone drops back in that we haven't seen in a while. I have a hard time recognizing some of them!
Also Molly it makes my day when you repeat to me something I shared with you earlier and you remember it! I just LOVE it. That means my words were not wasted. I think it is very important for you to weigh every day especially where you are in trying to get back on track. I would also suggest you write down your weight in your journal as well. You'd be surprised how that helps. By the way....one of our members (nurse Gina) had a 70 pound regain. She is about to hit her 9 years surgiversary. She is probably within 10 pounds of goal for the first time ever. She lost most of her weight, regained 70 and has now gotten that off plus more and she's about to celebrate 9 years. IT IS NEVER TOO LATE! I'm soooooooo proud of her...just like I'm proud of you. Once you get that regain off you have to stay right here with us so that we can keep you right where you need to be. I know November is tough for you so don't feel like you have to answer so much. I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving and tell your mom not to tempt you too much!
Big Hugs, Y
You have repaid me a million times over for your participation on this forum!! I can always depend on you and JEllen to be here. Traci has been so good too. It is truly family here and I love it when someone drops back in that we haven't seen in a while. I have a hard time recognizing some of them!
Also Molly it makes my day when you repeat to me something I shared with you earlier and you remember it! I just LOVE it. That means my words were not wasted. I think it is very important for you to weigh every day especially where you are in trying to get back on track. I would also suggest you write down your weight in your journal as well. You'd be surprised how that helps. By the way....one of our members (nurse Gina) had a 70 pound regain. She is about to hit her 9 years surgiversary. She is probably within 10 pounds of goal for the first time ever. She lost most of her weight, regained 70 and has now gotten that off plus more and she's about to celebrate 9 years. IT IS NEVER TOO LATE! I'm soooooooo proud of her...just like I'm proud of you. Once you get that regain off you have to stay right here with us so that we can keep you right where you need to be. I know November is tough for you so don't feel like you have to answer so much. I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving and tell your mom not to tempt you too much!
Big Hugs, Y
Open RNY 3/30/01 260lbs - 130lbs Yvonne McCarthy, CLC. Health & Wellness Coach (full time volunteer). I am happy to help if I can. Visit www.bariatricgirl.com and see the Bariatric Girl blog! Also check out my Facebook Bariatric Girl Page. Photography site www.yvonnemccarthy.com .„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨
Topic: RE: Checking in...
Who is that man????? OH MY GOD GREG!!! You look fabulous!!!! I just love love love it!! I swear I need to do a before and after for WLS Success peeps!
Welcome back and it's great to hear from you. NOW the serious stuff. I'm so glad you brought up the subject about the bad stuff. Wow....I really wanted to get involved in that thread but to tell you the truth I was afraid. There are many stages of how people get in those "places". First I will give you the golden ticket on how not to get there. Make absolutely sure you take your vitamins and have labs done. Weigh every day once you get to goal and settle on a number that you "cannot" go over. Weigh every day and the moment you go over a couple of pounds...FIX IT. Fix it while it is small. Make it an absolute as Molly posted about and you'll be fine.
The reasons people become unhappy are:
- they regain a small amount (or a large amount) and feel defeated and a failure again so they go into a self destruct mode and gain even more, don't take vitamins and get angry.
- some are non-compliant from the beginning and suffer due to vitamin deficiencies.
- some have cross addicted to drugs, sex, alcohol, gambling or all of the above and they don't want to admit it or seek help or cannot get help.
- some were horribly depressed and are still depressed (and angry)
- some were expecting the weight loss to make life perfect and it didn't so they are still looking to find something from the outside to make them happy. The ones that are unhappy often do not want to be unhappy alone. Misery loves company. Many of them seek out and attack the ones they "assume" are happy. Again misery loves company.
There are many reasons and many combinations of reasons. There are some that have absolutely legitimate complications and pain. Let me repeat that. There are some that have absolutely legitimate complications and pain. They are the fewer however. I know hundreds of people that have had this surgery and only a few have had serious complications and many of them were fixed. Even some of the worst tell me they would do it all over again. The truth is there are many different ways to have problems but again the majority are mental and/or non-compliance. The thing is...both of those are in our control. If you do what you are supposed to do you will have a much better chance of having no problems. And let me say again.....There are some that have absolutely legitimate complications and pain.
I'm repeating that sentence because someone might try to take my words out of context to hurt me. So Greg....enjoy your beautiful life and don't worry about things that have not happened. SEE yourself as a success and you will attract it into your life. See it, believe it, receive it. If you have any questions, please ask me but don't worry.
Can't wait to hear about your honey bunny.
Also...yes you do settle into normalcy. The way to do it is to set your lifestyle and stick to it. Again, read Molly's post about absolutes. I absolutely will not eat over 8 grams of sugar. I don't eat things I want to stop eating because you will lose the craving if you stop eating those things. I was addicted to Coke and couldn't stop drinking it before surgery. I can't even remember what it tastes like now. Give yourself some time. It took me about 3 years to get accustomed to seeing myself in the mirror. It took about 3 years to quite dreaming "fat". You'll settle into it...just make your decision to be healthy and stick to it. NOTHING IS WORTH eating that will make you feel guilty and ashamed later. We don't need that junk stuff. Again....if you stop eating it you will lose the cravings.
Let me know if anything I said is confusing OK? So glad to see you. You look MAAAHHHHRVELOUS!
hugs, Y
Welcome back and it's great to hear from you. NOW the serious stuff. I'm so glad you brought up the subject about the bad stuff. Wow....I really wanted to get involved in that thread but to tell you the truth I was afraid. There are many stages of how people get in those "places". First I will give you the golden ticket on how not to get there. Make absolutely sure you take your vitamins and have labs done. Weigh every day once you get to goal and settle on a number that you "cannot" go over. Weigh every day and the moment you go over a couple of pounds...FIX IT. Fix it while it is small. Make it an absolute as Molly posted about and you'll be fine.
The reasons people become unhappy are:
- they regain a small amount (or a large amount) and feel defeated and a failure again so they go into a self destruct mode and gain even more, don't take vitamins and get angry.
- some are non-compliant from the beginning and suffer due to vitamin deficiencies.
- some have cross addicted to drugs, sex, alcohol, gambling or all of the above and they don't want to admit it or seek help or cannot get help.
- some were horribly depressed and are still depressed (and angry)
- some were expecting the weight loss to make life perfect and it didn't so they are still looking to find something from the outside to make them happy. The ones that are unhappy often do not want to be unhappy alone. Misery loves company. Many of them seek out and attack the ones they "assume" are happy. Again misery loves company.
There are many reasons and many combinations of reasons. There are some that have absolutely legitimate complications and pain. Let me repeat that. There are some that have absolutely legitimate complications and pain. They are the fewer however. I know hundreds of people that have had this surgery and only a few have had serious complications and many of them were fixed. Even some of the worst tell me they would do it all over again. The truth is there are many different ways to have problems but again the majority are mental and/or non-compliance. The thing is...both of those are in our control. If you do what you are supposed to do you will have a much better chance of having no problems. And let me say again.....There are some that have absolutely legitimate complications and pain.
I'm repeating that sentence because someone might try to take my words out of context to hurt me. So Greg....enjoy your beautiful life and don't worry about things that have not happened. SEE yourself as a success and you will attract it into your life. See it, believe it, receive it. If you have any questions, please ask me but don't worry.
Can't wait to hear about your honey bunny.
Also...yes you do settle into normalcy. The way to do it is to set your lifestyle and stick to it. Again, read Molly's post about absolutes. I absolutely will not eat over 8 grams of sugar. I don't eat things I want to stop eating because you will lose the craving if you stop eating those things. I was addicted to Coke and couldn't stop drinking it before surgery. I can't even remember what it tastes like now. Give yourself some time. It took me about 3 years to get accustomed to seeing myself in the mirror. It took about 3 years to quite dreaming "fat". You'll settle into it...just make your decision to be healthy and stick to it. NOTHING IS WORTH eating that will make you feel guilty and ashamed later. We don't need that junk stuff. Again....if you stop eating it you will lose the cravings.
Let me know if anything I said is confusing OK? So glad to see you. You look MAAAHHHHRVELOUS!
hugs, Y
Open RNY 3/30/01 260lbs - 130lbs Yvonne McCarthy, CLC. Health & Wellness Coach (full time volunteer). I am happy to help if I can. Visit www.bariatricgirl.com and see the Bariatric Girl blog! Also check out my Facebook Bariatric Girl Page. Photography site www.yvonnemccarthy.com .„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨
Topic: Let feelings be feelings and facts be facts.
Weight Loss Surgery Support: Daily Inspiration for November 22, 2010
Katie Jay, MSW
Let feelings be feelings and facts be facts.
One of the biggest mistakes human beings can make is to base certain lifestyle decisions on feelings. When you are in the process of changing to a healthier lifestyle, you will feel uncomfortable with the change, so you may make decisions to do certain things based on your feelings—like drinking with your meals because you enjoy the flavor of the beverage.
When creating a healthier lifestyle, it is wiser to base your decisions on facts. Exercise, for example, is critical to long-term success. So, not feeling like exercising is irrelevant. You have to look at the bigger questions: What are my long-term goals and what will get me there? The factual answers to those questions should be what you base your decisions on.
Action for the day: Do something you don't feel like doing today, because you know it will make you healthier (and happier in the long run).
© 2007, National Association for Weight Loss Surgery. All rights reserved. Daily Inspirations are provided by the National Association for Weight Loss Surgery. Get our free report, How to Regain-Proof Your Weight Loss Surgery at www.nawls.com.
Katie Jay, MSW
Let feelings be feelings and facts be facts.
One of the biggest mistakes human beings can make is to base certain lifestyle decisions on feelings. When you are in the process of changing to a healthier lifestyle, you will feel uncomfortable with the change, so you may make decisions to do certain things based on your feelings—like drinking with your meals because you enjoy the flavor of the beverage.
When creating a healthier lifestyle, it is wiser to base your decisions on facts. Exercise, for example, is critical to long-term success. So, not feeling like exercising is irrelevant. You have to look at the bigger questions: What are my long-term goals and what will get me there? The factual answers to those questions should be what you base your decisions on.
Action for the day: Do something you don't feel like doing today, because you know it will make you healthier (and happier in the long run).
© 2007, National Association for Weight Loss Surgery. All rights reserved. Daily Inspirations are provided by the National Association for Weight Loss Surgery. Get our free report, How to Regain-Proof Your Weight Loss Surgery at www.nawls.com.
HW 611 Pre-opW 580 LW 302 GW 238
Topic: Endoscopy
I will be heading off to the gastroenterologist in a few hours to have an endoscopy. I have been having some issues with regards to mucus in my re-engineered stomach. Have any of you with a RY procedure had excess mucus in your pouch? It is causing me to loose my cookies.... Anyway, just wondering if others have had a similar issue.
Thanks,
JB
Thanks,
JB
Topic: Checking in...
Hello positive attitude people!!
My plateau just broke... I've slipped under 230 pounds for the first time in many years (started this journey at 384, 328 on surgery day, Feb. 9, 2010). 155 pounds down since January 2008!! Woo Hoo!
I've just started my third week of regular cardio at the gym. Working on making it part of my lifestyle. It's amazing to me how much progress I've made in just three weeks in terms of how mu*****line I need on the treadmill to get my heart rate up to 140 or 150... time to add some weightlifting to tone this increasingly flabby-flappy bod.
I feel good, enjoying fitting into clothes from wayyyyy back in my closet. But I'm haunted by the negative RNY stuff I read on the interwebs... there are some very vocal very unhappy people out there... some of them post on OH boards, too. We're not all doomed to regain, are we? I'm fortunate that the "head hunger" demon hasn't been too bad and I've largely stuck to my eating plan, getting in tons of protein, lots of liquids, all my vits, etc. My labs were awesome at my six-month appointment with the surgeon. Now that I'm moving again (I was on strike for a couple months, ha ha) I'm really working my program like I'm supposed to. But... I feel fragile in my new behaviors and lifestyle. Does it ever get less fragile? Do you ever feel like you settle into a groove of healthy behavior? How best to get to that place where it all feels "normal?"
Loving that you're all there... thanks for reading!! I'll write again soon about my dear honey-bunny, who had her bypass in August. She's lost 60 pounds! It's great being able to support each other in the journey.
The incredibly shrinking Greg
My plateau just broke... I've slipped under 230 pounds for the first time in many years (started this journey at 384, 328 on surgery day, Feb. 9, 2010). 155 pounds down since January 2008!! Woo Hoo!
I've just started my third week of regular cardio at the gym. Working on making it part of my lifestyle. It's amazing to me how much progress I've made in just three weeks in terms of how mu*****line I need on the treadmill to get my heart rate up to 140 or 150... time to add some weightlifting to tone this increasingly flabby-flappy bod.
I feel good, enjoying fitting into clothes from wayyyyy back in my closet. But I'm haunted by the negative RNY stuff I read on the interwebs... there are some very vocal very unhappy people out there... some of them post on OH boards, too. We're not all doomed to regain, are we? I'm fortunate that the "head hunger" demon hasn't been too bad and I've largely stuck to my eating plan, getting in tons of protein, lots of liquids, all my vits, etc. My labs were awesome at my six-month appointment with the surgeon. Now that I'm moving again (I was on strike for a couple months, ha ha) I'm really working my program like I'm supposed to. But... I feel fragile in my new behaviors and lifestyle. Does it ever get less fragile? Do you ever feel like you settle into a groove of healthy behavior? How best to get to that place where it all feels "normal?"
Loving that you're all there... thanks for reading!! I'll write again soon about my dear honey-bunny, who had her bypass in August. She's lost 60 pounds! It's great being able to support each other in the journey.
The incredibly shrinking Greg
384 | 328 | 244 | 195
highest | surgery day | current | my goal
RNY (proximal--150cm) 5' 8", 55 years old
