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Hello and welcome!

I had actually seen your profile from a post you had made at another time on the main board.  You impressed me then, and you impress me now.  Congrats on your fantastic WL!  I am so proud of you... I agree with your husband, rev up that engine girl!

I am not in your shoes so It is so hard for me to imagine not being comfortable in my own skin after I've lost my weight.   I don't know how i'll handle all that.  Not sure how I will react to all the loose skin.  Right now, it's still just a dream, but I can't wait to make it my reality.  Those of you that have gone through it pave the path for the rest of us.  Though we all suffer our own trials and tribulations and each of us are unique, we are better prepared in knowing what we may be dealing with down the road because of those that went before us and posted their stories for our enlightenment.  Thank you!

Hey there!

Actually, I'm lacking one clearance...

Yeah, that stuff was nasty... 

My kids got the DVD of that movie and I got so sick of hearing it at the time I could have broke the damn thing in half.  And it isn't like it just ended with the movie being over (for the 100th time), they had to go around singing the songs... and repeating some of the lines, like... Good Morning, Starshine, the sun says hello!  Or whatever it was... ~laughing~

HI all,

I wanted to make a little post and say Hi and I am new to this board. I adore Yvonne and love her "positivity" and I know that is exactly what we all need in order to stay on this journey-some hope and friends with something in common.

I am just over 3 years out and this is that part of the journey for me where I am working my nerve up to really join "life". For many years it was about "The Weight"-then for a good few years it was about "losing The Weight"-and I find that if it is not about "The Weight" I am sort of at a loss! LOL! I was good at that part!!

My husband gave me a good analogy the other day. He said "You have done the work, you are a finely tuned car. You have done the work under the hood, you are ready to go! And yet-you sit here in the garage. Why?"

This is So true. I have yet to take the new me for a spin. Whilst losing weight I worked from home most of the time. I did lots of You Tubing and writing-but not much getting "out and about".

I am still not familiar with my new me. I also am having some issues getting comfortable with my new body. This isn't something many of us REALLY consider before surgery-because...let's face it-we KNOW anything is better than the pain and danger of being super morbidly obese.

There are times I feel guilty at the way I see my new body-because I "know" I should be happy with my new health and all the good things  I have done. But-the truth is-there are some parts of my body that are pretty .umm..not-pretty looking!

See, this is when I say to myself "Girlfriend-you lost WELL over 200 lbs!!! What do you expect!!! You ought to be THRILLED!" 

At the same time-I do not think enough research has yet been done on the psychological impact of rapid and major weight loss. I actually use the phrase "Ghost-fat". You know how when someone loses a limb and they can still feel it? It's sort of like that for me still. I still eye chairs before I sit in them -making sure the arms are wide enough-when of course they WILL be fine!

I also catch myself in the bathtub sort of staring at the loose skin...just sort of in wonder.

So-here are the things I know today:

1. I am 100% committed to taking care of this new body and following my plan
2. If and when I can get plastic surgery-I will do so with much research and support with the ONLY goal to be comfort
3. UNTIL that time comes (if ever) in which I have some corrective plastic surgeries-I do what I can in the moment to help and be kind to this body. That means exercise and a bit nicer thoughts about it.

My opinion is that it is of UTMOST importance to at least COME to a place of acceptance about our bodies-even IF we want plastic surgery. It can't hurt and might help our minds and souls a bit.

I also made a recent post to my OH blog about "Who is driving this car?" It's about trusting ourselves in this journey when we come to the place of maintenance and expected small weight gains-such as water retention and HOLIDAYS! LOL!

I will stop rambling right about here and thank you for getting this far!! 

Thanks for listening and Yvonne-thanks for this cool place and all the work you do!

Peace,
T

Aw! Mega-hugs and please KNOW I can relate to all of this. It really wasn't all that long ago that I felt like you do now.

I will tell you what I decided and how I used my thought process. It's just one other way to look at things. Since this WILL be the last big trip you are at this weight-why not use it as a way to be really aware of what it all feels like to you? Maybe take a journal and write it out, you gotta write it with love though, it's really important! 

Think about what that journal will mean to you a year or two from now when you are at goal and can't quite recall what it all felt like. You could use experience-written in detail, to share with MANY others. If you have the nerve, take pictures to later paste into your journal as well.

It's a way to capture something that will soon change, and it's also a way to find a kinder way to talk to yourself. You KNOW we are not being kind when we are talking to ourselves if we are thinking "OMG I am the fattest in the room"!!

On your trip make yourself the sexiest and most glam big girl there ever was, write your feelings down. Maybe this is your send off party for both you and your hubby of the old you!!

Bon-voyage!! LOL!

Hugs,
T

I understand what you are going through... it STINKS!
however, you do know that there IS an end in sight to all this.

You'll have your surgery and start feeling better, looking better.... and then you'll be telling us about your FIRST THIN TRIP!

That is something I look forward to hearing from you! 

You know they say... time flys when you're having fun....

I say it still flys when you're NOT having fun... maybe not as fast but it does still fly...

so before you know it things will be getting better for you!

Try to have as pleasant a time as you can! You both deserve it!