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YAAAAY I am so glad to see you here!! You are another one of my hero's on this forum.

"I am just over 3 years out and this is that part of the journey for me where I am working my nerve up to really join "life". For many years it was about "The Weight"-then for a good few years it was about "losing The Weight"-and I find that if it is not about "The Weight" I am sort of at a loss! LOL! I was good at that part!!"


Now wait did  you write this or did I just think it...LOL                 

I was just getting down on myself recently for exactly the same thing. When does my life start?! Oh yeah.... 'I' Gotta start it!

"Ghost-Fat" very interesting term, and very true.

I too will eventually have plastics, when I can afford it. I refuse to take out a loan for a set of boobs (but i've thought about it!!)

Your husband sounds like a dear. One day last summer I was complaining about my 'skin' he says to me, don't you look better than you thought you were going to? I hollard at him "NO" "I was supposed to be perfect!"

I do still use visualization at night, of how I want my body to look and feel (healthy), and I have found that my skin is still tightening, as my body turns in to a normal size.

I love your 1-2-3 of weight loss. Good Advice. I am so looking forward to hearing you on here.

I love Ya Girl!

Saara

Hi Krysti and thanks for the reply!

I think -no..I KNOW-no matter where we are in the process/journey-we have something to offer. I am constantly learning new things from old-timer WLS folks and New ones alike!!

I will always be so grateful for this place and for people like you *****ach out and share what they are going through.

Peace,
T

As always Yvonne, you considerately and oh-so-eloquently offer your opinion in a caring, compassionate manner.  Personally, what struck me most was your 'call' for suggestions to rectify the various issues rather than just bickering about it all.  THAT was far more helpful than the back-and-forth garbage.

The theory that if someone doesn't want to share all with everyone, we must be 'ashamed' of ourselves really made me livid.  I am proud of my journey, and will gladly answer questions or share aspects of my WLS--if asked.  However, I chose not to let RNY define me entirely.  When I meet new people, I'm simply Danelle.  I don't say, "Hello, I'm Danelle...two years ago I was morbidly obese but chose to change my life by having GB.  Let me tell you all about it..." nor do I feel the need or desire to tell all the people I went to high school with.

"Some people don't even know about the link to show all previous posts.  It is something that just doesn't fit into the whole social media system.  I foresaw this long ago.  I warned, I begged, I pleaded to please stop the bully stuff and the vitriol because so many would run to facebook.  This is not the solution...the solution would to start banning the toxic trauma drama people.  Now the board is sub-dividing into good groups like ours and bad groups where they are open to say the nastiest possible things."

I couldn't agree more with this statement!  I keep wondering about the various posts I've seen on transfer addictions, or those seeking a way out of an abusive/bad relationship once they regain their self confidence.  Will people be as willing to seek advice or help on these issues now?  What happens if someone, out of pure spite, decides to plaster something LIKE THAT, all over a Twitter page?  [Sure, they could have before--but lets face it, most are too lazy to do the copy/paste of html links--thankfully, now they don't even have to work at it! ]

My understanding is that people cannot link the stuff in groups?  Well, they can, but because membership here is required to view the group---the thread can't be read?  Is that correct?

--D

Girl you stay after them!!
hugs, Y

I'm here for you girlfriend!  I must admit I'm just flabbergasted at some of these responses... HOLY COW....  I'm in shock right now at how people (for lack of a better term) just throw up all over everyone.. The claws are out.. WOW....