WLS Success-through Powerful Positive Attitudes
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Topic: RE: One last FAT trip
Thank you....that is what I needed.....It is such a BEAUTIFUL idea...it made me cry...I used to keep a journal that I wrote about all of my insecurity and emotional pain...I would go back and read it later and feel the pain again and sometimes realize I had moved on and other times realize I had not...but I lost the habbit
Any way...I have been worried like most ...that I could lose focus and gain it all back....I think a journal such as this would be a huge help...something to look through on surgaversiaires...and being the best big girl I can would give me a reason to really be in the moment instead of just hiding out and marking time....and there sould be some great lingerie on sale right after V day which would be right be fore the trip...that could be fun....and I think I could even get away with a tiara and a feather boa in Vegas...if I have the guts that is....!!!! and at least it is not tank top and shorts weather!!!!
Bon - Voyage it is!!!!
Big Frog Kisses,
DAWN
DAWN
Topic: RE: I'm gonna get flamed, cut up and spit out so help
My darlin' Danelle you cannot imagine how wonderful you have made me feel. I may come across like a confident person but deep down I still suffer from extreme low self esteem and I will still hope to overcome some of it but it is a daily struggle that I deal with. I also don't let it define me entirely but I am as open as possible in hopes that I can make a difference either in someone's impression for the better or give the gift of the possibility of surgery. I totally forget which stories I tell but just because I told a bellman about my surgery he went home and discussed it with his wife that had been begging for 3 years and he said no because he thought it was a bunch of crap. He had tears in his eyes and was sorry he had done that to his wife.
I always loved your posts and was so glad you joined. You are such a sweetheart.
I believe you are correct about linking to anything in groups. The thing is the whole reason that many are running for the hills is because of the mob mentality of toxic trauma drama. Some poor person can say something and get jumped on and never want to post again. To me when we lose someone because of that, we take the chance of them losing their chance to succeed on their journey because they are too afraid to ask a question.
Regardless of what anyone thinks of the OH thing, it's best to contact them and let them know how they feel. It hurt my feelings when some of those people accused OH of doing it only to increase revenue and other hurtful things especially since my friend Jeremy tried so hard to explain it. I certainly understand those that were afraid of having their posts put on FB but we need to come to an understanding like civilized people. It will certainly be interesting to see how it shakes out. The great thing is that we can talk about it here and be among friends. If it hadn't been for JEllen, I wouldn't have realized what was going on.
Thanks Danelle...you too are so special to me. Thank you for taking time out of your day to say something so special.
hugs Y
I always loved your posts and was so glad you joined. You are such a sweetheart.
I believe you are correct about linking to anything in groups. The thing is the whole reason that many are running for the hills is because of the mob mentality of toxic trauma drama. Some poor person can say something and get jumped on and never want to post again. To me when we lose someone because of that, we take the chance of them losing their chance to succeed on their journey because they are too afraid to ask a question.
Regardless of what anyone thinks of the OH thing, it's best to contact them and let them know how they feel. It hurt my feelings when some of those people accused OH of doing it only to increase revenue and other hurtful things especially since my friend Jeremy tried so hard to explain it. I certainly understand those that were afraid of having their posts put on FB but we need to come to an understanding like civilized people. It will certainly be interesting to see how it shakes out. The great thing is that we can talk about it here and be among friends. If it hadn't been for JEllen, I wouldn't have realized what was going on.
Thanks Danelle...you too are so special to me. Thank you for taking time out of your day to say something so special.
hugs Y
Open RNY 3/30/01 260lbs - 130lbs 
Yvonne McCarthy, CLC. Health & Wellness Coach (full time volunteer). I am happy to help if I can. Visit www.bariatricgirl.com and see the Bariatric Girl blog! Also check out my Facebook Bariatric Girl Page. Photography site www.yvonnemccarthy.com .„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨
Topic: RE: New pics and some other happy news!
OK, just in case I pick the wrong ones. Open this post and then open your photos in another tab. Pick the picture you want and right click on it and copy. Hit reply and when you have the post open, right click and hit paste. I'll pick this one for now. You can resize it too. Look at this pretty lady!!!!!!!!!!!!
Open RNY 3/30/01 260lbs - 130lbs Yvonne McCarthy, CLC. Health & Wellness Coach (full time volunteer). I am happy to help if I can. Visit www.bariatricgirl.com and see the Bariatric Girl blog! Also check out my Facebook Bariatric Girl Page. Photography site www.yvonnemccarthy.com .„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨
Topic: RE: What do you do to stop the "negative"
This may sound entirely "cliche" but whether or not people consider it commercial or crap or whatever, it is a short book and full of good info. Go get the book "The Secret". Just trust me. The second part of the solution is that I am a certified Life Coach and if you've got the time I will contribute my time for free. I will offer that to anyone in my group. I want to type a small page from the secret.
Here's the problem. Most people are thinking about what they don't want, and they're wondering why it shows up over and over again.
The only reason why people do not have what they want is because they are thinking more about what they don't want than what they do want.. Listen to your thoughts, and listen to the words you are saying. The law is absolute and there are no mistakes.
An epidemic worse than any plaque that humankind has ever seen has been raging for centuries. It is the "don't want" epidemic. People keep this epidemic alive when the predominantely think, speak, act, and focus on what they "don't want". But this is the generation that will change history, because we are receiving the knowledge that can free us of this epidemic! It begins with you, and you can become a pioneer of this new thought movement by simply thinking and speaking about what you want.
Another part:
If you're looking at a mountain of debt, feeling terrible about it, "I feel really bad because of all this debt I've got". You're just affirming it to yourself. You feel it on every level of your being. That's what you are going to get more of.
The Secret gets a back rap. No matter what you believe...whether you are a deeply spiritual person or a devout Christian you can exchange a few words and get the knowledge offered here. We are particularly bad about throwing the baby out with the bath water. That means that because one statement may not be agreeable to you that you throw out the whole book. You lose so much when you do that.
Here's a simple example. If I were to somehow be able to adjust your scale and make it say 5 pounds less. You would go out into the world and be "up" and glowing and people would pick up on it and would return it to you unless they were in their own funk. The same would be true if I increased your scale. You would go out with your eyes down and would drain the energy from others. I swear this works. Your attitude of gratitude makes the difference. What if you say "I don't feel like be grateful"? Well then you do exercises to find the things you are grateful for. Every morning I visualize me standing in front of that camera the night before surgery...suffocating in my own skin....wanting to be dead. I can come up with a great deal of things to be grateful for. Perspective is important. Imagine being in Haiti right now.
There is a GREAT saying about "acting your way into right thinking" because you cannot "think your way into right acting". If you get up in the morning and say "thank you".....thank you for all the things I have (and not think about the things you don't have) because you attract those things into your life. If you start acting happy, pretty soon it will become easier and easier.
So....I hope I have not turned off any members with this stuff...I know you Saara are a very accepting person to this and I mean it. Let's plan on a talk sometime soon. I could keep on and on and write an entire book but our subconscious is the most powerful part of our mind and simply by doing some tricks, you can control some unbelieveable things. I will choose to explain this another time but I will use this analogy once again:
A one armed man has 2 choices. He can say "My life is hell, I lost an arm, what ever will I do, my life sucks" OR....."WOW, I am sooooooooooo lucky, I may have lost an arm but how fortunate am I to have an arm left!!!" It is our choice....our attitude can make or break us.
My love to all, Y
Here's the problem. Most people are thinking about what they don't want, and they're wondering why it shows up over and over again.
The only reason why people do not have what they want is because they are thinking more about what they don't want than what they do want.. Listen to your thoughts, and listen to the words you are saying. The law is absolute and there are no mistakes.
An epidemic worse than any plaque that humankind has ever seen has been raging for centuries. It is the "don't want" epidemic. People keep this epidemic alive when the predominantely think, speak, act, and focus on what they "don't want". But this is the generation that will change history, because we are receiving the knowledge that can free us of this epidemic! It begins with you, and you can become a pioneer of this new thought movement by simply thinking and speaking about what you want.
Another part:
If you're looking at a mountain of debt, feeling terrible about it, "I feel really bad because of all this debt I've got". You're just affirming it to yourself. You feel it on every level of your being. That's what you are going to get more of.
The Secret gets a back rap. No matter what you believe...whether you are a deeply spiritual person or a devout Christian you can exchange a few words and get the knowledge offered here. We are particularly bad about throwing the baby out with the bath water. That means that because one statement may not be agreeable to you that you throw out the whole book. You lose so much when you do that.
Here's a simple example. If I were to somehow be able to adjust your scale and make it say 5 pounds less. You would go out into the world and be "up" and glowing and people would pick up on it and would return it to you unless they were in their own funk. The same would be true if I increased your scale. You would go out with your eyes down and would drain the energy from others. I swear this works. Your attitude of gratitude makes the difference. What if you say "I don't feel like be grateful"? Well then you do exercises to find the things you are grateful for. Every morning I visualize me standing in front of that camera the night before surgery...suffocating in my own skin....wanting to be dead. I can come up with a great deal of things to be grateful for. Perspective is important. Imagine being in Haiti right now.
There is a GREAT saying about "acting your way into right thinking" because you cannot "think your way into right acting". If you get up in the morning and say "thank you".....thank you for all the things I have (and not think about the things you don't have) because you attract those things into your life. If you start acting happy, pretty soon it will become easier and easier.
So....I hope I have not turned off any members with this stuff...I know you Saara are a very accepting person to this and I mean it. Let's plan on a talk sometime soon. I could keep on and on and write an entire book but our subconscious is the most powerful part of our mind and simply by doing some tricks, you can control some unbelieveable things. I will choose to explain this another time but I will use this analogy once again:
A one armed man has 2 choices. He can say "My life is hell, I lost an arm, what ever will I do, my life sucks" OR....."WOW, I am sooooooooooo lucky, I may have lost an arm but how fortunate am I to have an arm left!!!" It is our choice....our attitude can make or break us.
My love to all, Y
Open RNY 3/30/01 260lbs - 130lbs Yvonne McCarthy, CLC. Health & Wellness Coach (full time volunteer). I am happy to help if I can. Visit www.bariatricgirl.com and see the Bariatric Girl blog! Also check out my Facebook Bariatric Girl Page. Photography site www.yvonnemccarthy.com .„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨
Topic: RE: New pics and some other happy news!
Kathy!
(Pre-op: 5'2", 292/277/148-Highest/at WLS/Current)
Let God's presence settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom
to sing, dance, praise, and love. It is there for each and every one of us.
Sure, Yvonne. You're a doll to offer to do it. I tried, but they only came up as blank frames.
And thanks so much for the nice compliment. Y'know there are some other new ones in the Post-Op Album, too. More put together - less workout outfit.
And thanks so much for the nice compliment. Y'know there are some other new ones in the Post-Op Album, too. More put together - less workout outfit.
Kathy!(Pre-op: 5'2", 292/277/148-Highest/at WLS/Current)
Let God's presence settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom
to sing, dance, praise, and love. It is there for each and every one of us.
Topic: RE: New pics and some other happy news!
I LOVE it that you educated your doc!! And girl you look AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Can I post the pix here so everyone can see them? Do you know how to do that?? WOOOOOOOOOO HOOOO you look GREAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
hugs, Y
hugs, Y
Open RNY 3/30/01 260lbs - 130lbs Yvonne McCarthy, CLC. Health & Wellness Coach (full time volunteer). I am happy to help if I can. Visit www.bariatricgirl.com and see the Bariatric Girl blog! Also check out my Facebook Bariatric Girl Page. Photography site www.yvonnemccarthy.com .„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨
Topic: RE: New kid here! Long!
LOVE YOUR LONG POST!!! First I'd like to share a couple of blog posts that I did as a guest blogger on a Bariatric Doc's Blog.
Here's part one:
http://nicholsonclinic.com/blog/04/yvonne-mccarthy-guest-blo g/
part two
http://nicholsonclinic.com/blog/04/coping-mechanisms-guest-b logger-bariatric-girl/
It made me think of it when you mentioned you "sit here in the garage". My mind is racing with all the stuff I want to say!!
First we are socially the age we are post-op because we have no life experience in "normal people land" as an obese person. It's absolutely true and you will also grow into that "normal people land" quicker than you can imagine. I would love for you to check out my blog for several reasons. Even at nearly 9 years out there are times I am still not accustomed to my new body. One of the latest things was feeling like people were standing on top of me in the grocery store aisles. It was because when I was large, they gave me more room and now I'm normal and they pass by like I am but I wasn't used to it.
Now regarding the parts of your body that are not pretty looking. Even after plastic surgery....there are parts that are not pretty looking BUT with clothes on no one can tell. Just like when I was told that I would have "open RNY" and some people were so against it because of the scar. I told the doc that I had no future plans as a nude dancer so that was cool. You will have a period of time that you will experience the "ghost fat". Just like women going shopping and even though there is a size on the clothes and they know they got in that size before, they will pick a larger size. It is something your brain will eventually figure out. When you go around a set of chairs because you don't think you'll fit....well no one will really know so until you adjust, it will be OK. No damage done you know?
I had plastic surgery and in the bathtub, I have skin that still floats but fortunately nobody has to see it but me and the person allowed in the bathroom. No biggie! You're right!! 200 pounds are gone girlfriend.
Now your list.
1. GREAT!!
2. This is one of the things I want to change in our community. When someone even has WLS and they make sure and say "I'm doing it for my health". There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with wanting to be more attractive. If we didn't we would never wash our hair or wear makeup. When you are feeling more attractive, we glow and we attract people to us that are also glowing. There is no shame in getting plastic surgery (reconstructive surgery actually) and in the meantime fixing some things that can look better. For instance....I was a DDD but the way I was built, I could never wear a tube top. When I had my breasts fixed I got to wear that stuff for the first time in my life. I didn't get DDD of course but I got a D which fits my body well. I can wear clothes I could never wear. If I am getting the surgery anyway there is nothing wrong with doing some things that make wearing clothes easier. There is NO SHAME. We spent so many years living and breathing shame from obesity. It is time to shed those feelings and get rid of the blame and guilt and judgment too. It's time to life your life!! Don't feel like you have to rush...take your time and just know that getting thin never makes life perfect.
3. Absolutely come to acceptance. If you don't you will never be happy. If you always "wait to be happy" you will always be waiting to be happy.
I'm so happy you are here. We have so many special people here....good hearts....good souls and you are one that I have always respected. Thanks for you long post and let me know after you rest thost posts OK? Let me know if saw anything that helped OK?
hugs, Y
Here's part one:
http://nicholsonclinic.com/blog/04/yvonne-mccarthy-guest-blo g/
part two
http://nicholsonclinic.com/blog/04/coping-mechanisms-guest-b logger-bariatric-girl/
It made me think of it when you mentioned you "sit here in the garage". My mind is racing with all the stuff I want to say!!
First we are socially the age we are post-op because we have no life experience in "normal people land" as an obese person. It's absolutely true and you will also grow into that "normal people land" quicker than you can imagine. I would love for you to check out my blog for several reasons. Even at nearly 9 years out there are times I am still not accustomed to my new body. One of the latest things was feeling like people were standing on top of me in the grocery store aisles. It was because when I was large, they gave me more room and now I'm normal and they pass by like I am but I wasn't used to it.
Now regarding the parts of your body that are not pretty looking. Even after plastic surgery....there are parts that are not pretty looking BUT with clothes on no one can tell. Just like when I was told that I would have "open RNY" and some people were so against it because of the scar. I told the doc that I had no future plans as a nude dancer so that was cool. You will have a period of time that you will experience the "ghost fat". Just like women going shopping and even though there is a size on the clothes and they know they got in that size before, they will pick a larger size. It is something your brain will eventually figure out. When you go around a set of chairs because you don't think you'll fit....well no one will really know so until you adjust, it will be OK. No damage done you know?
I had plastic surgery and in the bathtub, I have skin that still floats but fortunately nobody has to see it but me and the person allowed in the bathroom. No biggie! You're right!! 200 pounds are gone girlfriend.
Now your list.
1. GREAT!!
2. This is one of the things I want to change in our community. When someone even has WLS and they make sure and say "I'm doing it for my health". There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with wanting to be more attractive. If we didn't we would never wash our hair or wear makeup. When you are feeling more attractive, we glow and we attract people to us that are also glowing. There is no shame in getting plastic surgery (reconstructive surgery actually) and in the meantime fixing some things that can look better. For instance....I was a DDD but the way I was built, I could never wear a tube top. When I had my breasts fixed I got to wear that stuff for the first time in my life. I didn't get DDD of course but I got a D which fits my body well. I can wear clothes I could never wear. If I am getting the surgery anyway there is nothing wrong with doing some things that make wearing clothes easier. There is NO SHAME. We spent so many years living and breathing shame from obesity. It is time to shed those feelings and get rid of the blame and guilt and judgment too. It's time to life your life!! Don't feel like you have to rush...take your time and just know that getting thin never makes life perfect.
3. Absolutely come to acceptance. If you don't you will never be happy. If you always "wait to be happy" you will always be waiting to be happy.
I'm so happy you are here. We have so many special people here....good hearts....good souls and you are one that I have always respected. Thanks for you long post and let me know after you rest thost posts OK? Let me know if saw anything that helped OK?
hugs, Y
Open RNY 3/30/01 260lbs - 130lbs Yvonne McCarthy, CLC. Health & Wellness Coach (full time volunteer). I am happy to help if I can. Visit www.bariatricgirl.com and see the Bariatric Girl blog! Also check out my Facebook Bariatric Girl Page. Photography site www.yvonnemccarthy.com .„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨
Topic: RE: NEW MEMBERS! Help Introduce Yourself!
Bless your heart and thank you so much for being here!!! First let me say how brave you are for talking about your regain. You are not a failure! You just didn't get the proper education and that's not your fault. Another thing, you were not lazy...you have a disease. We're here to help you and we'll help you get in shape for that reunion OK? There is no better word for us than "accountability".
One thing I would love for you to do is to copy and paste your message as a new topic in the discussion area because sometimes the new posts here gets lost and I want everyone to know your story!!
Have you been involved in any support groups at all? I'd love to talk about this!!
Thanks for introducing yourself and thanks so much for joining!!
hugs, Y
One thing I would love for you to do is to copy and paste your message as a new topic in the discussion area because sometimes the new posts here gets lost and I want everyone to know your story!!
Have you been involved in any support groups at all? I'd love to talk about this!!
Thanks for introducing yourself and thanks so much for joining!!
hugs, Y
Open RNY 3/30/01 260lbs - 130lbs Yvonne McCarthy, CLC. Health & Wellness Coach (full time volunteer). I am happy to help if I can. Visit www.bariatricgirl.com and see the Bariatric Girl blog! Also check out my Facebook Bariatric Girl Page. Photography site www.yvonnemccarthy.com .„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨
Topic: RE: New kid here! Long!
Hey Saara!
Dang it! I wish we could have hung out when I lived there! LOL! The more I know about you the more I realize we have LOTS in common. Well-better late than never. :)
I have really been enjoying your posts as well. I hope things are going well over in your neck of the woods.
Hugs and Peace-sending lots of love back!
Peace,
T
Dang it! I wish we could have hung out when I lived there! LOL! The more I know about you the more I realize we have LOTS in common. Well-better late than never. :)
I have really been enjoying your posts as well. I hope things are going well over in your neck of the woods.
Hugs and Peace-sending lots of love back!
Peace,
T
Topic: New pics and some other happy news!
Kathy!
(Pre-op: 5'2", 292/277/148-Highest/at WLS/Current)
Let God's presence settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom
to sing, dance, praise, and love. It is there for each and every one of us.
I went on a followup visit to my breast surgeon's office today (I had a benign papilloma removed two years ago, and I've been on a crazy round of mammograms ever since - today was just another in a series). Anyway, at the end of the appointment, my doctor confessed that she took the news of my (then) upcoming WLS with an enormous grain of salt. She had real doubts whether I would see any success. But my chart today shows that I am merely overweight. My BMI is below 30. My weight is 161. My blood pressure was 102/78. She expressed her sheer pleasure at seeing me succeed. I admit it, I basked in her praise.
Second - I have new pics on my profile in the "Progress" album. Although the clothes suck - they're just my workout clothes. I try to wear something simple each time I have progress pics taken, so that you can actually see the changes to my body. Forgive the arms - they're awful. They always have been. Someday, I'll get a brachioplasty, and hopefully, they'll be near normal. But I think my general profile is changing!
My next goal is 146 - that's the point at which I will have lost half of my original starting weight. That's just 15 pounds away!
Second - I have new pics on my profile in the "Progress" album. Although the clothes suck - they're just my workout clothes. I try to wear something simple each time I have progress pics taken, so that you can actually see the changes to my body. Forgive the arms - they're awful. They always have been. Someday, I'll get a brachioplasty, and hopefully, they'll be near normal. But I think my general profile is changing!
My next goal is 146 - that's the point at which I will have lost half of my original starting weight. That's just 15 pounds away!
Kathy!(Pre-op: 5'2", 292/277/148-Highest/at WLS/Current)
Let God's presence settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom
to sing, dance, praise, and love. It is there for each and every one of us.
