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 I was very tiny as a child and remember my parents always encouraging me to eat more so I would not "blow away", but I also remember eating so many speghettios at 3 that I threw up,  sneaking ex-lax at 4 because I thought it was chocolate, and hiding in the closet at 5 because I could not stop eating after just one piece of Valentine's day candy. I have never had a healthy relationship with food.   I do not know why.  My childhood was normal, no trauma and yet the food abuse/addiction started very early. At 3-5 years old I had problems with food and now realize it is a deep seated problem with perhaps biological not psychological roots.   I loved the "sex in a plate" comment because that is exactly what food has been for me for a very long time.
I am one of the few that will say...Food does not need to get right with me....I need to get right with it!!! 


Sure I have gotten myself under control and taken responsibility for my choices, lost the weight, and promised my self never to let myself lose control again (and yep...my food was always boring during those times of success - I think that may be a big key Yvonne). Told others how they could do it too.  I have done it several times and ended up right where I started a year or two later.  I realize I have no control over food and know that surgery is not going to fix that. I am struggling with some of my preop changes and at first I was worried the changes were too easy, not enough, but now its getting hard and that is scary to me.  I know that when I have surgery that I will lose weight but keeping it off is what has me really worried.   I don't want to be a failure and I don't want to be judged as a whiner because I choose to talk about my success, failures, and fears.  I have the knowledge of addiction and cross addiction and there are support groups aplenty and yet I realize, the addiction may still win.  I think that fear is healthy and hope I never lose it completely. 

I have seen longtime veterans with close to 10 years of success or more (like Yvonne) treat those that have regained with respect and offer genuine help and positive support.  Even Vitalady, the real WLS goddess (IMO) has admitted that it is not too hard to slide back into the old ways.  
If you are fortunate enough to break free, thank GOD, celebrate, live life to the fullest you can...but don't hate or berated those that do not have the success you have.   Even if they are whiners or drama queens in your eyes.  They have enough pain and guilt with out you adding to it, even if they are a public figure and the rest of the world feels they are fair game.

 

You're a RockStar Baby!!!