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I agree with others, you definitely have to be able to talk about this and verbalize your feelings.  This road will be long and you definitely need his support!  Or at least, that is how I see it.  The ones closest to us really need to be supportive and on board with what we are doing.

Good luck to you!!  *warm hugs*

Hi Tressa,

Oh man. I bet this really bites for you. You two were like best friends and he had his surgery and you are amping up and I suspect he is panicking inside. He knows you as the old Tressa-the comfy shoe..the one that he is familiar with.

In what ways has your hubby changed since his surgery? Ask him that too. What is it that he is fearful of-because I doubt it is anything BUT fear related.

It sounds like he REALLY loves you and is REALLY scared to have the old way of life and the old Tressa be over. See-it doesn't always matter that they have walked down the same road you are about to walk down-some folks just aren't as good as others at putting the shoe on the other foot.

In this case you may have to find ways to illustrate how it feels and he may have to find ways to dig a bit deeper to name those feelings that are causing his less than positive actions.

YOU can do this-regardless of what he brings home. But I do hope you two can work this one out. I put money on the fact that you two CAN work it out. You seem very close to each other.

Hugs-hang in there. It can be emotional at times for real!

Peace,
T

I happen to like that little orange monster...I wish they had not made him cute...I can't take the comercials seriously...its like the baby come back mop...i feel bad for the mop

EEEWWWW I definitely would not touch it from the men's room.LOL. No the coffee shop does offer some little treats which I have walked on by for quite some time. I figure If I don't look I can't be tempted. Although they do have awesome bagels and lattes.

Thanks for the replies. I am going to talk with him again.

Tonight he was great  with our dinner choices.  He loves to cook so he did that but I stayed in the kitchen to prepare some of the food and keep an eye on what he was doing. Sometimes he adds things that are not on my list.,but seriously he was great and very supportive. It will just be once in awhile when he would out of the blue turn into the orange monster from WW and tempt me with food or other activities when I want to exercise. I'm trying to figure out if he realizes he is doing this. He has always been one to give me little surprise treats before I started this journey so maybe he is not thinking and going by habit. I just have to let him know I appreciate he displays of love but I need to do things differently .

Tressa,
I'm so sorry that you had to post a message like this one. It is never fun nor is it right for someone that is so close to you to sabotage your efforts. When I was on a diet my MIL brought over some frosted cupcakes for my kids because she said she knew they would be starving since my husband and I was on a diet. God was I mad but nonetheless I kept with my plan and didn't eat them.

I feel it may be a good idea to have a heart to heart talk with him and look in his eyes so he knows your damn serious. The way he is treating you is not fair. I think if you tell him what he is doing and how it makes you feel may be a lightbulb moment for him. Maybe he's not seeing that what he is doing is sabotaging your efforts? But please have a heart to heart talk with him and get all the feelings out on the table.

God bless and keep up the fight to a healthier life Tressa.

Sharon