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I am so happy you responded and I want to give you a heads up on some stuff.  First, realize that your wife will need some extra attention because she will see all your friends and family and being a normal human being it will be downright intoxicating to you.....even if you're shy.  She will need some reassurance that she will not lose you and that you will always love her and especially because she was there for you at your heaviest.  Secondly, when you go to support group the women ARE going to hit on you.  Guess what? When you tell them you are happily married and have been for ten years it's like a moth to a flame.  Some of these women will see you as one of the last great catches (even though you are married) and there's another reason men that are post-op get chased so much.  Some of the post-op women haven't dated in years and they figure that a man that is post-op will understand their sagging skin so male post-ops are often open season.  With that being said, please do not let this stop you from attending support groups because they are good for you. 

This is also not meant to slam post-op women.  Some are very confused and vulnerable and are starting to feel attractive for the first time in their lives and it's like letting a caged tiger out after being cooped up for decades.  Here's some good advice.  When you go to support group stuff and you are put in a "party" atmosphere like some of the events we have, make sure your wife is there or don't go.  As a post-op (if you choose to drink at some point) we get drunk much faster and there's a great saying..."If you hang around a barbershop long enough eventually you'll get a haircut".  Please trust me on this one.

I firmly believe that education is key so I want to get you started out right from the beginning and show you where some of those speedbumps are.
hugs, Y

Hi JEllen, it is very nice to meet you!

Hi Brad... welcome to the site... nice folks around here... feel free to post any ole time you like...

Yvonne,  - it is so true about the vultures out there... (that's what I call them).. I've never had so many men speak to me in the grocery store as I have had these last few months. Even if it is just... excuse me- to pass by... they would just push past before.... apparently people don't feel the need to proper manners when dealing with PEOPLE who happen to be obese!

Hello everyone.  I just wanted to stop in and say hello and thank you for letting me join your group.  It actually took me a few to figure out how to post here, but I finally figured out I had to click that "discussion" link on the side there :) 

But I just wanted to stop by and introduce myself.  I think having a positive attitude helps you thru the recovery process and ensures your future success.  Thank you Yvonne for accepting my request to join this group and I look forward to participating in the discussions here.

Take care and talk to you all soon!

Brad T. 

and the story continues....

we'll be here to cyber hold you hand when the time comes.
hugs Y