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No way! 

You are right.  This will work perfectly for a support group but you have to participate.  You will also be responsible for monitoring your weight.  The girls are usually more serious about that part and when you get past the honeymoon period we can visit weight accountability again.  It is very very VERY important to address problems when they are small.  It is important to make your lifestyle changes and make them now.   I don't know enough about your journey yet but little things like "I'll just eat one M&M".  Then it turns into 2, 3 and so on.  You can actually make yourself build an immunity.  My trick to cravings is to not eat the stuff I shouldn't eat.  The others have heard my analogy a bunch of times but I'm saying it again.  If you were to tell an alcoholic to just take a sip of a beer to get past the cravings....well you get it.  The sipping (the tasting) keeps the cravings alive.  After a while you won't even miss the thing you thought you couldn't live without.

Part of the reason that I stick around is because it helps me get out of my head and my head can be a very scary place sometimes.  That's what got me in the place I used to be.  Telling you the part about your wife and the post-ops could help save your marriage.  There is entirely too little info out there about this part.  I've seen marriages split because they were never told this stuff and it didn't have to happen.  I've seen people regain their weight and end up being more miserable than when they weighed 300 pounds.  If I can help anyone avoid the crap that messes up your life I'd be here 24/7.   When I look at the keyword searches on my blog and see "wls and suicide" more that once or twice a week it just destroys me.  WLS can truly be a second chance in life but if you don't take it seriously it can mean death too.  When you lose all that weight you kind of have to start over and that first year is the wildest.  I've sat across a table from someone that said "all I want to be is healthy...don't care about trying to look like a model".  Then a few months later I see them drunk and doing pole dancing at a party.  At the moment they first told me that, they really meant it but you never know what's going to happen when you take your new race car out for a ride.  I've heard some post-ops talk about things they did and can't believe it.  Actually I've seen as much as I've heard about!

Stick close to us...there's much to learn.  If you have a chance, check out my blog too.  I started this group because things were getting out of hand on some of the other forums.  We're trying to save our lives here.  I lived in the negativity for years and I'm done.  I've also found the ones that are truly successful at this journey are positive and supportive people.  We have a job to do and that's to stay on the road....heading toward what we want most in the world.  Stopping to fight the bullies along the way only slows our progress.  Surround yourself with winners and you'll be a winner too!
hugs, Y

I am not sure if I know "Chris" or not.  Maybe someone can point me to his profile...

OK, I'm so glad you got what I was saying because I certainly wouldn't want to sound like I'm preaching at you.  And do we have another photographer in our group??? YES!!  OK, can you email your pix from your phone?  Email them to yourself then save them on your computer and then upload to OH.  If that doesn't work, tell me what kind of phone you have and we'll go from there.  I'm gonna get you one more time today.  You are not allowed to say "I'm so slow".  You are one of the sharpest knives in the drawer my love.  I know it seems like a teenie thing but that's an "ANT" (automatic negative statement) so now you must turn around and do a "turn around statement". 
Example: I haven't figured out how to get my pix off my phone yet but the way things have turned around for me lately, it's just a matter of time because I can do anything I put my mind to.  And....if I don't figure it out I'll ask one of my friends on the board ...you know the ones that LOVE you so much.

Nope, you can't call yourself slow without me busting you!  Seriously, I know it seems like a small thing but we have so many years of bad thinking to overcome that we need to start dumping out the negative thoughts and replacing them with turn around statements.  Trust me on this one...it works!

I can't wait to see new pictures!!!!  You made me laugh about the car being clean for 5 minutes.  I have a red car too!
hugs, Y

I SO AGREE!!