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Every 3 months?  Bless your heart sweetie and you do have a point indeed.  Teeth are a bit more important....you can't cover that up can you?  Are you taking your vitamins like a good girl?  We sure don't want your calcium levels going down.  Wow...truly great things come to those who wait and you were incredibly patient and deserving at the same time.  I try to tell new post-ops that they shouldn't keep from dating because of loose skin.  I met my husband with my loose skin and he saw my heart.   I was so very fortunate that he fixed it for me too.  I had never been on a board yet and didn't know that some post-ops would never consider dating because of their skin.  I ididn't know any better! We are capable of so much and we hold ourselves back because of the critical voice that holds us down.

I'm so very happy for you and can't wait for those pictures!
hugs, Y

Thanks Yvonne, I wish every person could do this !  I know it isn't easy.  I actually was planning on having it done two years after my RNY but I found out that summer that my two front teeth were going to fall out.  I had injured them when I was a child and had crowns on them for 40 years and the bone that held in the roots was gone so the teeth were going to fall out.  I didn't want to have a plate so I had to pay for Implants, insurance doesn't cover that either.  So to make a long story short, it took me 4 years to get it all done, my body just didn't want to rebuild the bone for the implants.  When it finally worked last year the dentist was ready to do backflips !  I had to have oral surgery approximately once every three months during that time frame trying to get the bone back, it was a long long long process.  Oh, and expensive.  So since you can cover the skin with clothes but can't stop smiling I had to choose the teeth first.  I don't regret that either. 

Everything in its time !

Pictures to follow in a few weeks !

You know, I've seen those videos!  I was thinking I could put my hair up and hide it under the hat or I could use the brunette wig I used in my video "The stigma against weight loss surgery".  I'll put this on my list!
hugs, Y

OH MY GOD!!!!!!!!!! YOU LOOK GREAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I told you you could do it!!! (Lose the weight and post the pix)

WOOOOOOOO HOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
hugs, Y

I'm SOOOOOOOO glad you talked about wanting to fit in smaller clothes because in my haste of trying to make a very important point I left out another important one.  I have a term for things people say over and over in the boards that may or may not be true but members start repeating them like it's gospel.  One of them is the whole thing about that it's only cool to say "I want to get healthy".  There is absolutely NOTHING WRONG with wanting to be more attractive.  That's as normal as the air we breathe but some people think that's vain.  NOPE!  Part of being obese is that some of us feel ugly so why wouldn't we want to wear normal sized clothes and feel good in them??  It's what you do with your better looking body that counts.  I have been criticized for the pictures of my and my Cello and Guitar but there will always be haters.  Oh...in case you're wondering why you have ***** in some of your words it's because you forgot to put a space in between some words and there was a word in the middle that the profanity filter kicked out.  We have a thread on the Texas Board called "The Nigh****chman" and when you don't put a space in between the night and watch you'll get the filter every time.  I thought I'd explain in case you didn't know.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to give up the "fattest friend" trophy.  You see how our disease has us thinking?  You think it's selfish?  Not at all.  When you make a statement ask yourself if you see any of the following...
blame
shame
judgment
guilt
If it does, rethink it.  Those emotions suck the life out of us.

Regarding Oprah.  I did a post about why Oprah cannot support the surgery.  Here's the link.
http://bariatricgirl.blogspot.com/2009/08/giving-oprah-weigh t-loss-surgery-break.html

And me too on the 4 legged children.  If you read through the top introduction link you'll see we have a lot of members with them.  I never had kids so they ARE my kids.  I have always liked my animals a little more than people because of the love they give.  They never saw my fat and loved my unconditionally.  Thanks for the kind words.  I especially liked the young part and I am young at heart, just older on the outside.  I had surgery when I was 47.  I'm 55 now.

I also have a post about the toxic trauma drama on the boards.  It's here:
http://bariatricgirl.blogspot.com/2009/03/toxic-trauma-drama -at-wls-ranch.html

It makes me very sad when people are told they have a less than surgery...especially when you've already had it or it is the choice you made.  It is so important to believe in your surgery 100%.  It's hard enough to do this thing without feeling like you are "less than" all over again.  The surgery wars are destroying so many lives and I know exactly who you are speaking of and I look at it like this.  I try to be grateful that I don't have to live in any of those people's heads and try to pass on by and continue down my road to success.  When people are miserable they want you to join them.  I just wish there was not so much damage done.  I know people that have failed and succeeded in all types of surgery.  I knew 3 people very closely that have died.  One died because she couldn't get the surgery and had an adult special needs daughter and could no longer lift her because of her obesity.  She and I corresponded for 9 months and we wrote everyone we could.  Famous people, doctors, everyone and no one could help.  She put her daughter and herself in the car in the garage and left the engine running.  It nearly destroyed me.  Another was a beautiful woman that shared my love of animals.  She had a DS and died a few days after surgery.  The last was a fairly long term post-op.  Cross addiction got him in the end.  Another video....this is one I did as a tribute to him:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bV9_G9Xgv5g

Thanks for the kind words and thanks for sharing.
hugs, Y