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JEllen I KNEW you would help! Thank you!
hugs, Y

I think you are absolutely mad and scared.  I remember it so well because I had the worst insurance on earth.  They even called and told me I was approved and I was bouncing off the walls but when I called my doc's office I was told I needed a "certified number".  I called back and after several calls I finally got a person and she tells me that it was a mistake.  I thought I would die.  I asked, cried, begged! How can this be and how can they be so laid back about the reaction of "oops, sorry"?   I think it was a few weeks later that I finally got the call and found out it was truly real.  I know I had to be a freakin' mess during the time in between calls so I REALLY can relate. 

You are doing everything you need to and don't let that multiple call thing hold you back.  I think you were perfect by saying "Sorry about the multiple call but...."  That's the best way to handle it because they are all over worked people and can certainly miss stuff.  No shame girlfriend, you are exactly right and I'm just hoping this is over for you ASAP.  Poor Suzy is struggling too.  Under the thread "denied" is what's going on with her.  I want to wrap my arms around both of you!
hugs, Y

OK Suzy.  Take a deep breath and let's just think about today.  You said that you're pretty sure that you will get it approved but it might take a little longer right?  So right now you are feeling very overwhelmed and I certainly understand.  I can't imagine going through what you've been through with your dad.  How incredibly painful that must have been. 

When we are down there is one place to look and that is up.  I want you to know that we are all here for you and you can whine all you want.  You got it out and it's time for Suzy to be loved and cared for.  I hope your lawyer fights like a bad dog!  I know that feels like you're being violated all over again doesn't it?  Bless your heart.  You are going to be able to get that denial turned around right?  I know it might not be in time for this first date but that's OK!  When I talked about visualizing, I want you to think about getting that approval.  See it, believe it.  Write it out on a piece of paper and address it to yourself.  Sound silly? YEP!  Waiting is the hardest part too.  Does your doc's office have any more info?  I'm sorry I'm sounding all jumbled but I was about to go to sleep but I couldn't go without answering your post.  We love and care about you and it hurts me to see you hurt so we'll just work through this together.  Let me know about the appeal and what they are saying.  Special smooches
hugs, Y

How come I can't do that?  Visualize it.  I just can't.  Sadly, tonight I am finding myself sliding into a deep depression over this.    I got my damn denial letter in the mail yesterday and that was a kick in the gut.  I am pissed. 

I have this horrible feeling that I will denied AGAIN.  I just feel like there is this black cloud over my head.  Like - we file for bankruptcy.  Our debt was killing us - and it was all I could do to keep up my minimum monthly payments.  It was not an easy decision, but once we did it, we were so glad that we did.  .....I have this monthly check that I receive from an annuity that my mom had..  I was the beneficiary - so upon her death I began to receive it - and should get them for the next 7 years.  The annuity was purchased with funds from a 'wrongful death' lawsuit for my father.  He got AIDS from the oral surgeon that removed all his teeth and bone in preparation for dentures back in 1983.

WELL, of course we got one of the tougher trustees to hear our case.  He's suing me for that annuity.  I really hate to sound greedy, but I thought bankruptcy was there for people to get a fresh start.  And it's not just the money, but what that money is a symbol of.  Sigh.  anyhow. that is still looming over my head - my lawyer is making him an offer.  Waiting to hear back on that.  I am waiting to hear back on my appeal.  AND that damn new job in Atlanta for my DH is still in the background.  Hiring freeze right now so we have no idea when or if he'll hear back on that.

I am sick and tired of all this UNKNOWN in my life.   LOL>  OK - winefest over.  Things could be so much worse, I realize that.  But I am taking the right to feel bad about My current tribulations!

Suzy

I agree with Nessa you're being human.  I would like to offer you a suggestion. Use this time to start preparing your mind and body for the change you WILL be going through soon.  I had to wait almost a year to get ok'd.  I have great insurance and was told as long as I jump through their hoops I'll be approved, and it was true.  So I started to teach myself how to eat, smaller and healthier portions. I beleive this has helped me with the success I've had with my surgery.  You WILL be better prepared for your new life than had you been approved right away. And MsFrogDr this just might KEEP you for having a heart attack,  just because your mom did does not mean you will. DH mom had Three bypasses before she was 50 NONE of her THREE children have even had ONE.  I would be PISSED OFF if I was dealing with what you are my friend, so does that make us both horrible?? I don't think so. When SH***Y stuff happens to me I try to give myself a certain amount of time to be PO'd then I try to move forward, of course we all know that ain't always easy.

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