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Although my family isn't angry - they are very unsupportive. Just days before my surgery they were still trying to talk me out of it "you've already lost 79 pounds, just keep dieting". Did they forget about the 140 pounds I lost 6 years ago and then gained back 170 pounds? Clearly just losing weight isn't the problem for me!

Now that I am down 153 pounds, I am almost the same size as my sister (who sees no reason to consider the surgery - though she admits that she is always starving on weigh****chers and can't get off more than 20 to 30 pounds) we can no longer discuss my weight loss because she isn't making progress. No one even asks how I am doing - but people I don't see that often are shocked to see that I look like a different person. Who knew my face wasn't round - it's an oval!

I guess I'm saying that you will always be unhappy "fat" - if the surgery feels right for you - by all means, forge ahead. I have heard that some marriages fail, but it sounds like those marriages weren't too strong to begin with. Keep your eyes wide open and be proactive about your health AND the health of your marriage.

Good luck to you and have a safe, healthy and successful journey!

Do you have to lose a certain amount of weight prior to the surgery - or have you already done that?

Welcome Kristine!!!    Is your husband usually this rough? or is this absolutley out of character for him?  If this is completely out of character for him they I would say then for sure he is scared. While my husband did not react so angrily, he was not really for it in the beginning.  He was afraid that it was some weird fad, that could end up hurting me later.  So I started printing up stuff from the internet for him, and I took him to a couple of the education classes.   Maybe there are some support groups he can go to with you so he can learn about the surgery and the after care, because it seems that actually you can compromise. If you do decide to have your surgery there is no reason the two of you can't join a gym together.

I also feel the need to address what your endocrinologist said.  It is ABOLUTE B.S. that you cannot weigh under 200lbs with PCOS.  I have PCOS, Not only do I weigh under 200lbs I weigh under 150lbs. It is absolutly and Completely possible! 

Thanks, Tressa and Yvonne! You both said some wonderful things. I think he is afraid. Shoot, I'm afraid too. We'll get through this. Thanks so much for your replies.

Congratulations, that is wonderful !