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Topic: RE: Help!!!
Hello Tressa,
I have so been here and I am still recovering. Over a 2 to 3 year period I gained back 80 pounds of 280 pounds lost initially from date of RNY. Last year at the end of February I started to take back control of my weight. So I stopped gaining weight in 2009 and actually lost 20 plus pounds last year. I have did many things to get back on track. I started going back to support group meetings. I also do the telephone support group meetings twice a month. I log my food and exercise on myfitnesspal.com. MFP.com has really helped me to stay committed because when I feel like giving up my MFP friends encourage me to keep on keeping on. I also come here but OH.com has come in 2nd because of the lack of people posting. I do believe this is due to the support found on other sites, including the face-books and twitter sites. I still come here because it is WLS specific.
The battle is never over. You are officially out of your honeymoon period now. To lose the rest of your weight will not be as easy as this last year. Read more on my profile page which is public and I just did a post on here also. About every 2 months I update my blog or post to site. So far I have re-lost 40 pounds. Be thankful you have not regained any weight. It is very hard re-losing but I will do it and I am never giving up. What you describe is normal life's ups and downs. We have to learn how to control eating even when life throws us a curve or 2. Be encouraged that you are not alone and that what is happening to you is the norm. But you can get pass this.
You can do it! It will take Perseverance, Patience and being Positive. My 3 P's.......:-) They have served me well.
I have so been here and I am still recovering. Over a 2 to 3 year period I gained back 80 pounds of 280 pounds lost initially from date of RNY. Last year at the end of February I started to take back control of my weight. So I stopped gaining weight in 2009 and actually lost 20 plus pounds last year. I have did many things to get back on track. I started going back to support group meetings. I also do the telephone support group meetings twice a month. I log my food and exercise on myfitnesspal.com. MFP.com has really helped me to stay committed because when I feel like giving up my MFP friends encourage me to keep on keeping on. I also come here but OH.com has come in 2nd because of the lack of people posting. I do believe this is due to the support found on other sites, including the face-books and twitter sites. I still come here because it is WLS specific.
The battle is never over. You are officially out of your honeymoon period now. To lose the rest of your weight will not be as easy as this last year. Read more on my profile page which is public and I just did a post on here also. About every 2 months I update my blog or post to site. So far I have re-lost 40 pounds. Be thankful you have not regained any weight. It is very hard re-losing but I will do it and I am never giving up. What you describe is normal life's ups and downs. We have to learn how to control eating even when life throws us a curve or 2. Be encouraged that you are not alone and that what is happening to you is the norm. But you can get pass this.
You can do it! It will take Perseverance, Patience and being Positive. My 3 P's.......:-) They have served me well.
HW 611 Pre-opW 580 LW 302 GW 238
Topic: Help!!!
OK Guys,
I know it is time to turn to my friends for help. I am getting caught back in the old mindless eating/binge like habits. I truly feel its starting to get out of hand and I feel like screaming. My hubby is having his issues as well and we are not fighting together on this. Its so much easier when one is strong while the other is weak, not when both are weak at the same time. I haven't gained but I'm still at a stall. I'm losing the exercise momentum. Its been a 1 1/2 weeks since i did a serious workout. I think I may have a touch of the blues because when this occurs I tend to retreat into myself and not keep up with my day to day activities or even hobbies I like. I also eat. Uugghhh I hate this part of me and find it the most difficult to work through. It doesn't help that my town is actually #6 and #10 for the cloudiest and rainiest city in America. This statistic may be a little out-dated but you get the picture. I want to pick up and move south so I can be near my family but that isn't the answer. One) my hubby is not willing to move away form his daughters or granddaughters. I would miss my stepdaughters and grandchildren as well but right now I miss my parents and siblings and I don't know how many years I have left with my parents. Two) job market is not great and starting over after being in one place for 20 yrs is scary but I would love a new challenge. There are alot of other little reasons but I recognize this as me trying to run and not deal with whatever is bothering me. I just have to figure out what is bothering me.LOL
Has anyone else gone through this and what did you do? I don't want to slide backwards into our old habits and I see that happening.
Thanks
Tressa Ü
I know it is time to turn to my friends for help. I am getting caught back in the old mindless eating/binge like habits. I truly feel its starting to get out of hand and I feel like screaming. My hubby is having his issues as well and we are not fighting together on this. Its so much easier when one is strong while the other is weak, not when both are weak at the same time. I haven't gained but I'm still at a stall. I'm losing the exercise momentum. Its been a 1 1/2 weeks since i did a serious workout. I think I may have a touch of the blues because when this occurs I tend to retreat into myself and not keep up with my day to day activities or even hobbies I like. I also eat. Uugghhh I hate this part of me and find it the most difficult to work through. It doesn't help that my town is actually #6 and #10 for the cloudiest and rainiest city in America. This statistic may be a little out-dated but you get the picture. I want to pick up and move south so I can be near my family but that isn't the answer. One) my hubby is not willing to move away form his daughters or granddaughters. I would miss my stepdaughters and grandchildren as well but right now I miss my parents and siblings and I don't know how many years I have left with my parents. Two) job market is not great and starting over after being in one place for 20 yrs is scary but I would love a new challenge. There are alot of other little reasons but I recognize this as me trying to run and not deal with whatever is bothering me. I just have to figure out what is bothering me.LOL
Has anyone else gone through this and what did you do? I don't want to slide backwards into our old habits and I see that happening.
Thanks
Tressa Ü
Topic: RE: Its Spring fever!
Thanks! You are my inspiration also!!! I am not worried aobut you getting a few pounds off. Just make sure it is only a few......:-)
On another note, I can't wait until April and May roles around!! I am going to put in 30 hours voluteer work in April and 50 in May. We have CO in May so I am good to go. I am doing spring cleaning now so I can gear up for April and May. Good hearing from you dear.
Molly
On another note, I can't wait until April and May roles around!! I am going to put in 30 hours voluteer work in April and 50 in May. We have CO in May so I am good to go. I am doing spring cleaning now so I can gear up for April and May. Good hearing from you dear.
Molly
Topic: RE: Its Spring fever!
Molly... today the SUN is shining brightly as the snow squalls pass through town. somehow that just isn't right... but it IS MARCH....
so... I keep looking for crocus' & daffodils one of these days I WILL SEE THEM!!!
The other day I actually FELT like going for an early morning walk...
perhaps soon I will actually get out of bed and get back on track with those early am walks. The cabin fever has been tough to deal with this winter. So much SNOW ... no place safe to walk.
Today I determined to stop letting myself have so many "treats" ... the scale has been creeping.... in the wrong direction. My early determination has returned with the sunshine and I'm heading back to my goal weight.
YOU are still an inspiration to me ... keep up the fight!
so... I keep looking for crocus' & daffodils one of these days I WILL SEE THEM!!!
The other day I actually FELT like going for an early morning walk...
perhaps soon I will actually get out of bed and get back on track with those early am walks. The cabin fever has been tough to deal with this winter. So much SNOW ... no place safe to walk.
Today I determined to stop letting myself have so many "treats" ... the scale has been creeping.... in the wrong direction. My early determination has returned with the sunshine and I'm heading back to my goal weight.
YOU are still an inspiration to me ... keep up the fight!
Topic: Its Spring fever!
I am so ready today. Spring is in the air. Can you feel it? 
"It's spring fever. That is what the name of it is. And when you've got it, you want - oh, you don't quite know what it is you do want, but it just fairly makes your heart ache, you want it so!" ~Mark Twain
I love seeing signs of spring on the way. New beginnings and time to get ride of those coats so it is time to step it up for me. I need to get some more weight off so I can wear summer clothes hanging in my closet for 2 years now. 
Yes I am losing weight to get healthy but I am also losing weight to feel good about myself and to LOOK 
better also. And I will do it, one day at a time.
My March plan is: To focus on eating healthy and under my calories most days of the month. I am taking a page from WW with their bonus points system. On weekends I will give myself an extra 1000 starting Saturday to be divided however I want to eat them between Sat and Sun.
This will not include exercise either. If I exercise this is additional food I can eat and probably will. This should work well. This will give me wiggle room without going overboard and not feeling deprived for special occasions or events over the weekend. My goal on weekends is to maintain. Eating 500 to 1000 extra calories over the weekend for me will not be a gain with or without exercise.
I will lose more than one pound in March. I am glad I did not go up in February for sure but I want and need more. 
Thanks again for your support! 
It means more than words can say and is so helpful to my journey. You rock! Have a good week everyone and let's do our best to stick to our plans and goals whatever they may be! 
We can do this!!
HW 611 Pre-opW 580 LW 302 GW 238
Topic: RE: Buyer's Remorse
I have to say I haven't had buyer's remorse. Sure every once in a while I think of a food I use to eat or drink but its not enough for me to turn back. I have been struggling this whole year for some reason or another. I just got sick on a the tiny bit of chicken I had for dinner tonight but still I do not regret having WLS. I do struggle with wanting carbs and that is my new battle but my pre-op life can not compare to my post-op life.
Topic: RE: You Don't Have to Be Perfect to Lose Weight
So True.... I've been having some difficulties myself of late.
Need to get back on track. start making better choices again.
Mostly having a problem getting in all my FLUIDS... this cold weather just makes me NOT want to drink my water. Then... I snack instead of filling on water first... then during the night my mouth is EXTREMEMLY dry. Have started to keep a water bottle on my nightstand to help.
I'm learning that KEEPING it OFF is the on-going struggle that it has always been....
But i'm up for the challenge...
Thanks for these articles Molly... and continued strenght to you in your struggles as well...
Need to get back on track. start making better choices again.
Mostly having a problem getting in all my FLUIDS... this cold weather just makes me NOT want to drink my water. Then... I snack instead of filling on water first... then during the night my mouth is EXTREMEMLY dry. Have started to keep a water bottle on my nightstand to help.
I'm learning that KEEPING it OFF is the on-going struggle that it has always been....
But i'm up for the challenge...
Thanks for these articles Molly... and continued strenght to you in your struggles as well...
Topic: You Don't Have to Be Perfect to Lose Weight
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You Don't Have to Be Perfect to Lose Weight
By Katie Jay, MSW, Certified Life Coach
Director, National Association for Weight Loss Surgery
www.nawls.com
Have you tried the Seafood Diet? Actua lly, it's spelled "See-Food." So many of us have tried it. You know the one. You "see food," and you eat it. One of my coaching clients, JoAnn, went on that diet last weekend. She ate anything she saw that looked good to her -- at home (white toast with butter, a handful of chocolate chips, crackers), at a gas station (trail mix), and at a friend's house (chips and dip, corn bread) -- and she was heartbroken about it. Why Did She Do It? Said JoAnn, "I'd like to blame it on my hormones, or on the fact that my life is stressful. I could blame it on my frustrating food addiction, or maybe even on depression. But, honestly, I don't know what made me do it.
And if I don't know the cause, I can't fix the problem." Her unspoken message to herself was: "I will keep making poor food choices until I find out why I do this to myself." It almost sounded like JoAnn had made a decision to stay on the "See-Food Diet" indefinitely.
But "Why" Only Matters if You're Perfect In a perfect world, knowing the root cause of her grazing would be helpful, but today JoAnn doesn't know the root cause. So, that's not information that will get JoAnn back on track right now -- and now is her moment. It's all she's got.
JoAnn's Perfectionism Is in her Way When you go on the "See-Food Diet" it's easy to tell yourself, "Now that I've blown it, I might as well keep eating." JoAnn basically decided if she wasn't going to follow her plan exactly, she was a failure -- and she planned to act accordingly. JoAnn was being so unreasonable in her expectations of herself it's no wonder she felt doomed.
Imperfection Happens I'm sure many WLS patients go on the "See-Food Diet" from time to time. Life happens. But, you can't stay on that diet. And the longer you put off getting back on track, the more damage you will do to your body, mind, and spirit.
To banish your perfectionism, and the all-or-nothing attitude it burdens you with, try these three tips:
1) Allow yourself to make mistakes so you can learn. When you feel anxious or sad for having done something imperfect, switch from the self-critical "giving-up mode" to "learning mode." Instead of berating yourself the way JoAnn did, ask yourself: "What can I learn from this mistake and what can I do differently right now?"
2) Be realistic. Making one mistake does not mean you are *always* making mistakes. When you start to feel like you're a hopeless case, ask yourself: "Is that really true? Realistically, what else can I do?"
3) Lower your standards. Practice making a few mistakes on purpose. Then, practice doing a few tasks less thoroughly than you would have in the past. As you practice you will develop a tolerance for imperfection. And remember, practice makes ... well, maybe not.
You Don't Have to Be Perfect to Lose Weight Let's say you do what you need to do to lose weight and keep it off 90 percent of the time. You'll probably do pretty well. Why don't you give it a try and find out. It sure beats ZERO percent of the time, doesn't it?
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The Weekly Newsletter from:
National Association for Weight Loss Surgery
*****************************************************************
You Don't Have to Be Perfect to Lose Weight
By Katie Jay, MSW, Certified Life Coach
Director, National Association for Weight Loss Surgery
www.nawls.com
Have you tried the Seafood Diet? Actua lly, it's spelled "See-Food." So many of us have tried it. You know the one. You "see food," and you eat it. One of my coaching clients, JoAnn, went on that diet last weekend. She ate anything she saw that looked good to her -- at home (white toast with butter, a handful of chocolate chips, crackers), at a gas station (trail mix), and at a friend's house (chips and dip, corn bread) -- and she was heartbroken about it. Why Did She Do It? Said JoAnn, "I'd like to blame it on my hormones, or on the fact that my life is stressful. I could blame it on my frustrating food addiction, or maybe even on depression. But, honestly, I don't know what made me do it.
And if I don't know the cause, I can't fix the problem." Her unspoken message to herself was: "I will keep making poor food choices until I find out why I do this to myself." It almost sounded like JoAnn had made a decision to stay on the "See-Food Diet" indefinitely.
But "Why" Only Matters if You're Perfect In a perfect world, knowing the root cause of her grazing would be helpful, but today JoAnn doesn't know the root cause. So, that's not information that will get JoAnn back on track right now -- and now is her moment. It's all she's got.
JoAnn's Perfectionism Is in her Way When you go on the "See-Food Diet" it's easy to tell yourself, "Now that I've blown it, I might as well keep eating." JoAnn basically decided if she wasn't going to follow her plan exactly, she was a failure -- and she planned to act accordingly. JoAnn was being so unreasonable in her expectations of herself it's no wonder she felt doomed.
Imperfection Happens I'm sure many WLS patients go on the "See-Food Diet" from time to time. Life happens. But, you can't stay on that diet. And the longer you put off getting back on track, the more damage you will do to your body, mind, and spirit.
To banish your perfectionism, and the all-or-nothing attitude it burdens you with, try these three tips:
1) Allow yourself to make mistakes so you can learn. When you feel anxious or sad for having done something imperfect, switch from the self-critical "giving-up mode" to "learning mode." Instead of berating yourself the way JoAnn did, ask yourself: "What can I learn from this mistake and what can I do differently right now?"
2) Be realistic. Making one mistake does not mean you are *always* making mistakes. When you start to feel like you're a hopeless case, ask yourself: "Is that really true? Realistically, what else can I do?"
3) Lower your standards. Practice making a few mistakes on purpose. Then, practice doing a few tasks less thoroughly than you would have in the past. As you practice you will develop a tolerance for imperfection. And remember, practice makes ... well, maybe not.
You Don't Have to Be Perfect to Lose Weight Let's say you do what you need to do to lose weight and keep it off 90 percent of the time. You'll probably do pretty well. Why don't you give it a try and find out. It sure beats ZERO percent of the time, doesn't it?
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Want to Reprint this Newsletter?
If you'd like to reprint any part of this newsletter,
do so with the following credit, including the copyright
line:
From Small Bites, the email newsletter for the
National Association for Weight Loss Surgery.
Subscribe today and get your F'REE report,
How to Regain-proof Your Weight Loss
Surgery at www.NAWLS.com.
(c) 2010 National Association for Weight Loss Surgery,
Inc. All rights reserved.
HW 611 Pre-opW 580 LW 302 GW 238
Topic: RE: needing info.....
Isn't it nice when all of us put our heads together to come up with a Great answer... all of us are looking for solutions and when we put on that collective thinking cap.
light bulbs start going off!!!!
light bulbs start going off!!!! 
