OMG summer is coming

So last year I was just in the mid 2's during Summer but this year I am at my goal weight and can wear size 9 great right yeah but the extra skin is a nightmare. i went shopping today for some summer clothes because we I don't have any that fit. OMG everything has arms out dress tops all arms out. My arms are not only big and lose but it is sagging on the arm because I have lost the fat just stretched skin. and swimming I don't even know what to do. My daughter and I go every summer it's like our thing to swim but I can not be seen in a swim suit first my breast are deflated and gone. My inner thighs have the same sag appearance and forget the stomach wow. I wish I could afford plastic surgery but I can not and believe me I have calculated and recalculate to try to afford it but it's not in the budget. My job pays for nothing cosmetic and all of this would be cosmetic because I have no physical aliments just embarrassment. The journey of weight loss is never ending I expected some but not like what I have. I look great in clothes but out omg no way. I am even shying away from dating because I fear getting to the intimate stage. I know we can be our own worst enemy but I know it looks bad my doctor was even shocked.

I would not want to go back to over three hundred pounds but I hate being a skinny girl with fat girl residue. Just my rant I saw so many cute clothes today but I could not buy any. Anything I wear has to skillfully hide my problem areas. I guess I still wish I could be normal.

Hello,

I know it is hard to be positive about the folds of excess skin.  So I copied an inspiration that you should practice and embrace so you can move forward--see below.  I have several friends who have found mates that love them with the excess skin.  I hope this helps and congrats on reacing goal weight!! 

Weight Loss Surgery Support:
Daily Inspiration for March 4, 2011 Katie Jay, MSW

See yourself in a positive light. 

Shar-pei dogs have luxurious folds of soft skin. They're really cute. After WLS, people develop folds of skin as they lose weight, but most don't find those folds cute. To tolerate the folds from an emotional standpoint, it's important to look at things from a kinder perspective.  

Use positive affirmations and self talk to help you accept (and even admire) your new appearance. After all, you're not morbidly obese anymore. Your health is improved. And you have energy and abilities that used to be out of reach. The positive benefits beat the negatives by far--if you look at your situation with nonjudgmental eyes. 

Action for the day: When you look in the mirror today, smile and pick out something you like about the way you look. Don't leave the mirror until you think and feel something positive. 

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Thanks Molly nice way to look at it.

Have you done any weight training?  I have been diligent about it - and I think it is helping somewhat anyway.  You have worked so hard - stop being hard on yourself! 

If you want something bad enough  - god will open a door to allow it to happen...:)

Hello there dear!!  Good to see you post!  How are you?  Your new picture looks wonderful!  Hope all is well with you.

Things are going very good Molly just working hard and trying to live right. How are you?

I am good.  I meant to direct that message to Whatacheif......:-)  But good hearing from you anyways and it will take time to make peace with your new body or maybe you will find a way have some of the excess skin removed. 

Oh yeah I still do weights and other work outs 4 days a week. I lost so much so loose skin is expected. But I am going to give myself time maybe it will improve over time now that I have reached my goal and won't be losing large amounts anymore. Will have to see I am working on patience with myself.

Thanks Molly!

And it sounds great.  I have been faithfully using Nivea firming cream every morning after my shower hoping it will help my skin "bounce" back.  Either way - my skin is the softest it has ever been!!

I too hate the saggy skin and for a few months let it really get to me. I recently started thinking on what I do have. I have clothes now that I like not just what I can find to cover me and available in my size. Yes I have to stay away from some styles but I have worked too hard to improve my health and life to go back hiding from life. I will probably have issues again when I go swimming but I WILL go swimming. I wont let my life go by without me participating. I love the reference to the Shar-pei dogs. They are adorable. Its not what we look like outside that is important anyway. Its the person we are inside. Be proud of your accomplishments and just try your best in picking out styles that work . Its more important in building the relationship and memories with your daughter. So unless I win a million(and I don't play the lottery) I need to accept me for who I am. And right now on my journey I am learning more about Tressa and what kind of person she is and wants out of life.
Congratulations on reaching your goal weight