WLS Success-through Powerful Positive Attitudes
Help!!!
OK Guys,
I know it is time to turn to my friends for help. I am getting caught back in the old mindless eating/binge like habits. I truly feel its starting to get out of hand and I feel like screaming. My hubby is having his issues as well and we are not fighting together on this. Its so much easier when one is strong while the other is weak, not when both are weak at the same time. I haven't gained but I'm still at a stall. I'm losing the exercise momentum. Its been a 1 1/2 weeks since i did a serious workout. I think I may have a touch of the blues because when this occurs I tend to retreat into myself and not keep up with my day to day activities or even hobbies I like. I also eat. Uugghhh I hate this part of me and find it the most difficult to work through. It doesn't help that my town is actually #6 and #10 for the cloudiest and rainiest city in America. This statistic may be a little out-dated but you get the picture. I want to pick up and move south so I can be near my family but that isn't the answer. One) my hubby is not willing to move away form his daughters or granddaughters. I would miss my stepdaughters and grandchildren as well but right now I miss my parents and siblings and I don't know how many years I have left with my parents. Two) job market is not great and starting over after being in one place for 20 yrs is scary but I would love a new challenge. There are alot of other little reasons but I recognize this as me trying to run and not deal with whatever is bothering me. I just have to figure out what is bothering me.LOL
Has anyone else gone through this and what did you do? I don't want to slide backwards into our old habits and I see that happening.
Thanks
Tressa Ü
I know it is time to turn to my friends for help. I am getting caught back in the old mindless eating/binge like habits. I truly feel its starting to get out of hand and I feel like screaming. My hubby is having his issues as well and we are not fighting together on this. Its so much easier when one is strong while the other is weak, not when both are weak at the same time. I haven't gained but I'm still at a stall. I'm losing the exercise momentum. Its been a 1 1/2 weeks since i did a serious workout. I think I may have a touch of the blues because when this occurs I tend to retreat into myself and not keep up with my day to day activities or even hobbies I like. I also eat. Uugghhh I hate this part of me and find it the most difficult to work through. It doesn't help that my town is actually #6 and #10 for the cloudiest and rainiest city in America. This statistic may be a little out-dated but you get the picture. I want to pick up and move south so I can be near my family but that isn't the answer. One) my hubby is not willing to move away form his daughters or granddaughters. I would miss my stepdaughters and grandchildren as well but right now I miss my parents and siblings and I don't know how many years I have left with my parents. Two) job market is not great and starting over after being in one place for 20 yrs is scary but I would love a new challenge. There are alot of other little reasons but I recognize this as me trying to run and not deal with whatever is bothering me. I just have to figure out what is bothering me.LOL
Has anyone else gone through this and what did you do? I don't want to slide backwards into our old habits and I see that happening.
Thanks
Tressa Ü
Hello Tressa,
I have so been here and I am still recovering. Over a 2 to 3 year period I gained back 80 pounds of 280 pounds lost initially from date of RNY. Last year at the end of February I started to take back control of my weight. So I stopped gaining weight in 2009 and actually lost 20 plus pounds last year. I have did many things to get back on track. I started going back to support group meetings. I also do the telephone support group meetings twice a month. I log my food and exercise on myfitnesspal.com. MFP.com has really helped me to stay committed because when I feel like giving up my MFP friends encourage me to keep on keeping on. I also come here but OH.com has come in 2nd because of the lack of people posting. I do believe this is due to the support found on other sites, including the face-books and twitter sites. I still come here because it is WLS specific.
The battle is never over. You are officially out of your honeymoon period now. To lose the rest of your weight will not be as easy as this last year. Read more on my profile page which is public and I just did a post on here also. About every 2 months I update my blog or post to site. So far I have re-lost 40 pounds. Be thankful you have not regained any weight. It is very hard re-losing but I will do it and I am never giving up. What you describe is normal life's ups and downs. We have to learn how to control eating even when life throws us a curve or 2. Be encouraged that you are not alone and that what is happening to you is the norm. But you can get pass this.
You can do it! It will take Perseverance, Patience and being Positive. My 3 P's.......:-) They have served me well.
I have so been here and I am still recovering. Over a 2 to 3 year period I gained back 80 pounds of 280 pounds lost initially from date of RNY. Last year at the end of February I started to take back control of my weight. So I stopped gaining weight in 2009 and actually lost 20 plus pounds last year. I have did many things to get back on track. I started going back to support group meetings. I also do the telephone support group meetings twice a month. I log my food and exercise on myfitnesspal.com. MFP.com has really helped me to stay committed because when I feel like giving up my MFP friends encourage me to keep on keeping on. I also come here but OH.com has come in 2nd because of the lack of people posting. I do believe this is due to the support found on other sites, including the face-books and twitter sites. I still come here because it is WLS specific.
The battle is never over. You are officially out of your honeymoon period now. To lose the rest of your weight will not be as easy as this last year. Read more on my profile page which is public and I just did a post on here also. About every 2 months I update my blog or post to site. So far I have re-lost 40 pounds. Be thankful you have not regained any weight. It is very hard re-losing but I will do it and I am never giving up. What you describe is normal life's ups and downs. We have to learn how to control eating even when life throws us a curve or 2. Be encouraged that you are not alone and that what is happening to you is the norm. But you can get pass this.
You can do it! It will take Perseverance, Patience and being Positive. My 3 P's.......:-) They have served me well.
HW 611 Pre-opW 580 LW 302 GW 238
Molly ,
Thank you so much for the encouragement. I will definitely check out mfp.com. I go to support meetings but I have been very frustrated lately because it seemed to be geared more to people trying to start the process. Our surgeon's office is closing and our support meetings will be going only until August. I hope to find a replacement somehow. What is the telephone support group all about? Is this something local for you or can I get info?
I went to the YMCA this morning. It felt good. I was definitely out of shape do to the lack of exercise. boy do you lose your strength fast. It felt so good to work out and I felt the stress leaving me as I lifted each weight or went to a different machine. I think that is the key to keep the blues away for me.....don't skip exercising.
Well got to run I have to jump in the shower and then head out to a bible study. That is my other key. I have to stay in His word. I noticed when I slacked off reading my moods and temperament changed.
Thanks for being there for me. You are right WE CAN do it!
I like the 3 P's
{{HUGS}}
Tressa Ü
Thank you so much for the encouragement. I will definitely check out mfp.com. I go to support meetings but I have been very frustrated lately because it seemed to be geared more to people trying to start the process. Our surgeon's office is closing and our support meetings will be going only until August. I hope to find a replacement somehow. What is the telephone support group all about? Is this something local for you or can I get info?
I went to the YMCA this morning. It felt good. I was definitely out of shape do to the lack of exercise. boy do you lose your strength fast. It felt so good to work out and I felt the stress leaving me as I lifted each weight or went to a different machine. I think that is the key to keep the blues away for me.....don't skip exercising.
Well got to run I have to jump in the shower and then head out to a bible study. That is my other key. I have to stay in His word. I noticed when I slacked off reading my moods and temperament changed.
Thanks for being there for me. You are right WE CAN do it!
I like the 3 P's
{{HUGS}}
Tressa Ü
Here is the information for Telephone support group: Good job on getting back in the gym today!!
Exercise is good for the blues.....:-) Enjoy your weekend!
Exercise is good for the blues.....:-) Enjoy your weekend!
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HW 611 Pre-opW 580 LW 302 GW 238
Tressa my dear I am so so sorry for not being here sooner. This year I have so many things lined up that I've spread thin. Here's the good news...you know what's going on right now,
You sound like me because I know I am affected by "seasonable affective disorder". I get this way every time the sun goes away for awhile. The trick is finding the attitude of gratitude and being grateful for what you have because we could certainly be in Japan right now.
The first year we lose, lose, lose and we continue enjoying a new high. We replace the food high with a losing weight high and then we get to the end of that and we get stuck. We have to be very industrious. Molly has literally worked her butt off and done things that not many have been able to do. Tressa you've got to find some things in your life to spark your passion. Can you take some dance classes? Art, ceramics? You've come to that part where the excitement has died down and it's hard. I would suggest you go back and read you posts before surgery and especially about going to Vegas. Remind yourself what it was like to be in your old body. I would highly suggest you remove things from your house that allow you to eat mindlessly and make some black and white rules. Weigh every day and fix it now. Send me a message when you are down and I'll support you. If you talk to me you can't retreat and believe me I am the queen of retreating and isolating. That's when I know I'm in trouble. Try to go back and read where you were before surgery OK? If you don't know how to find those posts, let me know. Let's fix this now!
hugs, Y
Find that new challenge so you can get your mind off your addiction. Go volunteer with children or elderly people. Get out of your head. Even if you could move to the sunniest place on earth, you have to take yourself with you and those feelings you are trying to bury will still be there. Do you have any access to therapy to face some of your family of origin issues? It is a struggle right now but listen to Molly. You do not want to have to fight an 80 pound regain. Molly is one of the few that decided to kick butt and take responsibility and do this thing. It's far more easy to deal with it now. Please feel free to contact me.
You sound like me because I know I am affected by "seasonable affective disorder". I get this way every time the sun goes away for awhile. The trick is finding the attitude of gratitude and being grateful for what you have because we could certainly be in Japan right now.
The first year we lose, lose, lose and we continue enjoying a new high. We replace the food high with a losing weight high and then we get to the end of that and we get stuck. We have to be very industrious. Molly has literally worked her butt off and done things that not many have been able to do. Tressa you've got to find some things in your life to spark your passion. Can you take some dance classes? Art, ceramics? You've come to that part where the excitement has died down and it's hard. I would suggest you go back and read you posts before surgery and especially about going to Vegas. Remind yourself what it was like to be in your old body. I would highly suggest you remove things from your house that allow you to eat mindlessly and make some black and white rules. Weigh every day and fix it now. Send me a message when you are down and I'll support you. If you talk to me you can't retreat and believe me I am the queen of retreating and isolating. That's when I know I'm in trouble. Try to go back and read where you were before surgery OK? If you don't know how to find those posts, let me know. Let's fix this now!
hugs, Y
Find that new challenge so you can get your mind off your addiction. Go volunteer with children or elderly people. Get out of your head. Even if you could move to the sunniest place on earth, you have to take yourself with you and those feelings you are trying to bury will still be there. Do you have any access to therapy to face some of your family of origin issues? It is a struggle right now but listen to Molly. You do not want to have to fight an 80 pound regain. Molly is one of the few that decided to kick butt and take responsibility and do this thing. It's far more easy to deal with it now. Please feel free to contact me.
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I am fighting with myself daily so I dont slide. It seems it is a muffin here a cadberry egg there - nauseaus you think I would never do it again - but yet I do!
I am only 9 months out and my weight loss has been slow! which is depressing. I need to get back to the basics of just protein etc. But then I feel so restricted I just bust out and totally mess it up! I also find the support groups are full of new people and I am probably a negative side of the story!! So I havent gone very often. I havent stopped working out - I need it for my sanity...
Just wish I could pull my stuff together... :(
I am only 9 months out and my weight loss has been slow! which is depressing. I need to get back to the basics of just protein etc. But then I feel so restricted I just bust out and totally mess it up! I also find the support groups are full of new people and I am probably a negative side of the story!! So I havent gone very often. I havent stopped working out - I need it for my sanity...
Just wish I could pull my stuff together... :(
I can sooo relate. It is a struggle right now. But I will not give up.... just another speed bump on my journey.
Went to support group tonight. It was good but we are only have 4 more meetings left. The surgeons office closed and they will discontinue the support groups as well. I will really miss this. They are trying to come up with a back up plan but none so far. August will be our last one.
I stopped exercising for a bit and now have gotten back on track and boy does that really help me emotionally. I cant believe the difference in my moods. I agree I need it for my sanity.
I did decide to not run in the 5k in May. My knees are really bothering me when I run and I dont want to risk an injury. Fast walking and the elliptical are fine for me. Besides I really dont enjoy running on pavement. At first I had guilt over this and was thinking I was giving up and being a quitter. But since I decided to not do the 5k I have actually done more exercising. I think mentally I was pulling back from the gym because of the guilt and anxiety over this run. I have walked 2 5k's and I feel that I am just changing my goals. I rather be healthy and mobile than to be able to say I did a 5k and be headed for knee suregery.
Went to support group tonight. It was good but we are only have 4 more meetings left. The surgeons office closed and they will discontinue the support groups as well. I will really miss this. They are trying to come up with a back up plan but none so far. August will be our last one.
I stopped exercising for a bit and now have gotten back on track and boy does that really help me emotionally. I cant believe the difference in my moods. I agree I need it for my sanity.
I did decide to not run in the 5k in May. My knees are really bothering me when I run and I dont want to risk an injury. Fast walking and the elliptical are fine for me. Besides I really dont enjoy running on pavement. At first I had guilt over this and was thinking I was giving up and being a quitter. But since I decided to not do the 5k I have actually done more exercising. I think mentally I was pulling back from the gym because of the guilt and anxiety over this run. I have walked 2 5k's and I feel that I am just changing my goals. I rather be healthy and mobile than to be able to say I did a 5k and be headed for knee suregery.
