Buyer's Remorse

 I am very confused by ‘Buyer’s Remorse’ (br).  I have read quite a few posts in the last few months regarding br and I really don’t understand it.  Maybe because I never considered food my friend, I don’t know.  Me mum had wls also.  She didn’t have br either and she admittedly has a stronger ‘bond’ to food than I do.  Has anyone here had br?  If you did or do, what do you think caused it? If you were able to overcome it what did you do to overcome it? I am curious about it, because I do talk to people that are considering wls, and I think it is an important thing to consider when contemplating wls.  And when I talk to someone about wls I would like to be able to offer the possibility of br and why they could have it.  I think the closest I’ve ever gotten to br was sitting in the grocery store parking lot, getting ready to go in, looking at overweight people going in and thinking “Wow” “They can buy and eat anything they want”.  But, that thought was always Very fleeting because it was always  followed by the memory of  guilt and failure after eating what I wanted.

Interesting topic!  Buyer's Remorse was something that I experienced very early out from surgery... for me it had to do with the pain I was having... and then the difficulties I encountered a month to two months out from the stricture.  Once the pain was gone... and the stricture was dealt with....

MY buyer's remorse was gone!

there are other fleeting moments when I may think about overdoing eating something that I used to crave... but not to the point of regretting having this life-saving surgery.

All of us need to do a certain amount of HEAD work... because this is stomach surgery NOT BRAIN surgery....

I agree with JEllen.  In the 1st 2 to 3 months I was like what have I done!  But after the few bumps in the road I had were over I never looked back and I will tell anyone today it is the best give I could have given myself and if I could do it over again the only thing I would change is gaining the 80 pounds I did.  I would be more careful in pushing the envelope.  Other than that it was good for me 100 percent! 

I never had it but then I had no communication with the outside world and didn't know anyone had ever had it.  I have to believe that some food addicts do not do well with taking the food away.  Some of them cross addict.  That first month many feel the withdrawal and it's difficult.  Some people lose the weight and never feel at home.  Some people are never happy...fat, thin...any size...or any place.  We have so many pre-ops that are so sure that losing weight will make them happy.  We all know that's not true but it's a hard  pill to swallow for so many.  I'm sure the reasons are vast but I have to believe it is a lot of the part about expecting life to be perfect.  The ones in particular that surprise me the most are the people that say they would rather be obese.  Just like I can't understand someone that has a really bizarre addiction, I can't understand ever wanting to be obese again.  I'm sorry they are unhappy.   Remember though...so often the squeaky wheel gets the attention.  I truly hope the for the best outcome for everyone.
Hugs, Y

Well I guess everyone may describe the "Buyer's remorse" a bit differently. 

As Yvonne can testify to - I had serious "mental/emotional" issues the first few months after my surgery.  I totally regretted doing the surgery.  I felt totally unlike "myself" - changed if you will.  I even smell different!   Its very weird and I regretted it immensely.  I felt like I took my healthy body that God/Nature had constructed and altered it in a way that could potentially be harmful for me.  At that time, I had the newbie problems of drinking and eating.  But I really never threw up until I was 6 weeks out - so I probably was not the sickest.    It was more in my mind.  These feeling continued strongly for a few months. 

I am now about 9 months out and many days I wonder if I have even had the surgery as I can eat quite a bit at times!  But I have more or less accepted the fact that it is too late to undo the surgery  and I have to live for today.  Dont look backwards and dont look forwards.  Now I am thinking if I went through all of this and I do not get to my goal - I will be mega pissed....lol (I have another 57 to go!) .  Overall I am happier with my body now that I am 86 pounds lighter (66 since surgery)  but mentally I can not dwell on the actual physical changes to my anatomy. 

I have to say I haven't had buyer's remorse. Sure every once in a while I think of a food I use to eat or drink but its not enough for me to turn back. I have been struggling this whole year for some reason or another. I just got sick on a the tiny bit of chicken I had for dinner tonight but still I do not regret having WLS. I do struggle with wanting carbs and that is my new battle but my pre-op life can not compare to my post-op life.