I need to stay off the main board...

I love it! That's wonderful and yes she has joined and is having surgery on Monday.  WOW Lake Superior!! Now THAT'S a lake!
hugs, Y

You know, I think I get where the negative energy comes from... we have so much "mental crap" saved up from a lifetime of uncontrolled emotional eating... as we change, some of that can't help but get channeled. For example, I find myself less tolerant sometimes. I try to keep an eye on it... am I being more healthy, expressing myself, not just taking the crap from people I used to... or am I being selfish and forgetting my values of being other-oriented? It's a tough tightrope personally, as I believe SOME of my personal issues that led me to turn to food for consolation over the years were due to feeling like I smushed a lot of my personal needs to get along... listened to other people's problems but didn't "burden" them with mine, that kind of thing.

So... I totally get the forgetting that goes on... I find myself sometimes feeling very strongly like slapping someone for their question, which isn't how I used to feel... when it's a subject I've learned about and feel like everyone should have learned about by now. "How could they go through surgery without knowing THAT?" or some such uncareful thinking.

All of this understanding doesn't mean I like reading the crap on the main board any more than the rest of you, ha ha! I get the daily email update of the Q & A, and when I have time I like to answer those questions as kindly as I can if I have something to contribute that others haven't already said. I really do feel the need to "give back" as part of this process. It's funny... I've been sniffing around WLS for over six years, but am only 8 weeks post-op from my own RNY. I'm simultaneously a newbie and also sometimes tired of this subject! 

Thank you all for your good energy... so much appreciated by me.