I need to stay off the main board...

I really need to stay off the main board.  The negativity there is just out of control.  I read this thread: http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/amos/4150834/Its-quotINVAS IVE-quot-people-not-quotEVASIVE-quot/ and told the person to FOAD, which is a common abbreviation for "Fu*k Off and Die".  I tried to reply, and even tried to go about it jokingly at first, but said if that were me I'd take that off.  After going back and forth with this woman, another poster appears and says that some don't understand her methods, but she tries to help people!

I am losing my mind.  lol.  I said nothing about anything she has posted in the past.  I just thought telling someone to FOAD was a bit ridiculous over a post on a message board.  I've never even said something like that to my worst enemy, let alone a stranger on the internet.  I tried to go about it jokingly and told her she can even tell me to "Fu*k Off" but I get attacked. 

Oy, I just needed to vent.  I need to stay away from that main board, but something keeps dragging me back in.  I gotta get to physical therapy.  Later.

Ha!  Sometimes I thin****pt going back to read the drama and just laugh out loud!! Tee Hee..


BTW I am SO loving the RNY - Ready for the New You... That rocks...

Yeah.  I honestly try to stay out of drama, and I wasn't going to reply, but I just thought that was a bit much.  I hate it because stuff like this keeps new people from coming to the boards.  I really want to just step away and stop coming to the boards sometimes!  Oh well, I just needed to vent with the good people here.  Being positive is the way to go, in my opinion, thats why I love this group! 

Thanks for the compliment on the signature.  Feel free to use that if you ever want, I made that up a while back :)

I totally agree.  I post there and I will not even tell yo  some of the negative responses I have received.  But it will not stop me from posting.  I just totally ignore negativity these days--like I did not even read your full post.  I just noticed you started off with the main board and negativity.  It is not productive to any of us.  I delete and feel sad for the person who wrote reply.  Try it next time....:-)  Very therapeutic.

Thanks for the kind words.  It is such a cliche, but I just wish everyone could get along.  They will realize one day that life is too short for this non sense.  I mean honestly, in the big picture, was it worth it to talk to someone like that on a message board?  Just because they are unhappy they don't need to bring it on to others.  I really think some of these people go in with the intention of starting a fight, cause they get some sick pleasure out of it.  Oh well.  Thanks for the advice, it was much appreciated! :)

There is this little button that says block...it is a gift from heaven....that user has said many such hateful things to many...she has no boundries...so.."block" and she has become invisable to me...its wonderful

You know, I have been over on the main board for about four months and I think this is the first time I have ever had a run in with her.  It seems pointless to try to talk any sense into some of these people.  You might as well be speaking to yourself.  Thanks for the advice :) 

I spent years there until I was given this option. (A group)  It totally wore me out so I try to drop in and help when a thread is newly posted before it turns nasty. That's often why someone joins this group.   If it turns into a war I'm gone.  You have to realize that some of the bullies have a posse and no matter what the bully says the posse will find ways to take up for them.  That's mob mentality type stuff and is the furthest from reality that you can get.  You never know if you're talking to a troll or a bully or what.  I was totally shocked that someone blocked me and I finally figured out why. It was a total accident that I found out she blocked me because  I apparently  helped one of her arch enemies on a off topic question.  WOW...

There was a part of me that tried so hard to make the main a better place but the bullies will continue until someone with power decides differently.  I watch the lives tick away that could be helped but I can't do a thing about it except be a good example of a giving, supportive member.  The main board is not for the faint of heart.  You were right but some people live for something to jump on and they did.
hugs, Y

Thanks Yvonne, as usual you are my voice of reason :)  I don't know why I let myself get sucked in.  I really don't know though how someone justifies saying that to a fellow WLS patient.  If anything, we should be kinder to each other because of the potential health risks.  I wonder if she would even feel bad if that woman did drop dead.  Its insane.  I cherish life and I cherish my friends and family and I wouldn't say that kind of stuff to my worst enemy.  I would never tell someone to "eff off and die".  But you are absolutely right.  We have talked about it before, and there is a group of people who stand up for each other no matter what the person says.  I am sorry, but if you were spewing hate like these people, I would call you out on it.  Just because we had the same surgery doesn't mean I am going to stick up for you when you are being rude.  I'm of the opinion that there is a place for everyone here, no matter what surgery they had.  It doesn't matter to me.  We are all in the same boat.  I seen one just last night where "people of the same surgery" were coming out of the woodwork to pounce on some pre-op who posted something she heard about "that certain surgery".  They were not just correcting her, they were being downright mean in some cases.  I wanted to say something, but I knew it would make no difference.  I hadn't ever crossed paths with this woman I got into it with, and probably wouldn't have said anything if I knew she couldn't be reasoned with.  If I see that post again, I will send you a link.  It was quite ridiculous and it was totally a mob mentality.       

Next time you see that you can PM the person offering them help and you can also invite them to our group.  I too would never speak to someone in that manner and cannot imagine living in a world where people talk to each other that way.  I have said many times that we are bonded by a common thread....the desire to be freed from our obesity.  Love and support is what we are seeking.  Fortunately now through the groups we can get that.  The situation is so sad.
hugs, Y