WLS Success-through Powerful Positive Attitudes
Things are better-scale is moving
Figured I owed y'all an update... mood lightened over the past few days, frustration easing... then stepped on scale, dropped three more pounds in less than a week. So I guess my roller coaster is going in the right direction, ha ha!
Already sensing some irritation on the part of some co-workers... is it jealousy of my good mood? Weird. Most are very supportive.
Already sensing some irritation on the part of some co-workers... is it jealousy of my good mood? Weird. Most are very supportive.
384 | 328 | 244 | 195
highest | surgery day | current | my goal
RNY (proximal--150cm) 5' 8", 55 years old
You are going to go through all kinds of things like that. Are these co-workers large? I have a post about giving away the fattest friend trophy. So many of the members here have seen this but I'll repost it for you.
Be prepared for weird stuff from friends and even family. Some friends will go away because you no longer are the holder of the "fattest friend trophy". Believe me, when you give that trophy to someone else, they will do all kinds of stuff to stop you.
It's a fact. You were always the holder of the trophy but you aren't anymore and believe me, no one else wants it.
So after you give that trophy away, things are going to move fast. People will talk to you that never saw you before. Make sure and appreciate it. Don't go to the dark side and resent the fact that you weren't spoken to while fat. You are part of the reason that happened anyway because you felt so bad about yourself and you were sure no one wanted to talk to you.
Yes it can be jealousy and it might be from someone that isn't even heavy. Sometimes people are in such a miserable place that they are jealous that something good is happening to someone else. The trick is to totally ignore that stuff. I'm going to give you another part of a post that I wrote about "What others think of you is none of your business".
The following is an excerpt from one of my talks so it's written more like I'm speaking than a blog but I'll leave it as it is. Some of the key points are referenced from Jack Canfield's The Success Principles.
If having others believing in you and your dream was a requirement for success, most of us would never accomplish anything. We need to base our decisions about what we want to do on our goals and desires, not the goals, desires, opinions and judgments of your parents, friends, spouse, children and co-workers. Quit worrying what other people think about you and follow your heart. Most of the time nobody’s thinking about you at all! They are too busy worrying about their own lives and if they are thinking about you at all, they are wondering what you are thinking about them! Think about it….all the time you are wasting worrying about what other people think about your ideas, your goals, your clothes, your hair, and your home could be better spent on thinking about and doing the things that will achieve your goals.
So there you go. There's some stuff to think about. It is so normal and I've seen it happen over and over again. That's why I wrote the blog posts. Concentrate on you and your journey and walk around those speed bumps! Congrats on that 3 pounds by the way!
hugs, Y
Be prepared for weird stuff from friends and even family. Some friends will go away because you no longer are the holder of the "fattest friend trophy". Believe me, when you give that trophy to someone else, they will do all kinds of stuff to stop you.
It's a fact. You were always the holder of the trophy but you aren't anymore and believe me, no one else wants it.
So after you give that trophy away, things are going to move fast. People will talk to you that never saw you before. Make sure and appreciate it. Don't go to the dark side and resent the fact that you weren't spoken to while fat. You are part of the reason that happened anyway because you felt so bad about yourself and you were sure no one wanted to talk to you.
Yes it can be jealousy and it might be from someone that isn't even heavy. Sometimes people are in such a miserable place that they are jealous that something good is happening to someone else. The trick is to totally ignore that stuff. I'm going to give you another part of a post that I wrote about "What others think of you is none of your business".
The following is an excerpt from one of my talks so it's written more like I'm speaking than a blog but I'll leave it as it is. Some of the key points are referenced from Jack Canfield's The Success Principles.
If having others believing in you and your dream was a requirement for success, most of us would never accomplish anything. We need to base our decisions about what we want to do on our goals and desires, not the goals, desires, opinions and judgments of your parents, friends, spouse, children and co-workers. Quit worrying what other people think about you and follow your heart. Most of the time nobody’s thinking about you at all! They are too busy worrying about their own lives and if they are thinking about you at all, they are wondering what you are thinking about them! Think about it….all the time you are wasting worrying about what other people think about your ideas, your goals, your clothes, your hair, and your home could be better spent on thinking about and doing the things that will achieve your goals.
So there you go. There's some stuff to think about. It is so normal and I've seen it happen over and over again. That's why I wrote the blog posts. Concentrate on you and your journey and walk around those speed bumps! Congrats on that 3 pounds by the way!
hugs, Y
Open RNY 3/30/01 260lbs - 130lbs 
Yvonne McCarthy, CLC. Health & Wellness Coach (full time volunteer). I am happy to help if I can. Visit www.bariatricgirl.com and see the Bariatric Girl blog! Also check out my Facebook Bariatric Girl Page. Photography site www.yvonnemccarthy.com .„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨
I will be start applying some of these principles in my life. 
