Prove to yourself that you were right

Hi everyone,
    I subscribe to Flylady.net (organizing one's life 15 minutes at a time) and one of the daily e-mails came from Jonathan  a fitness trainer associated with the site. I found it interesting and thought you might like it as well.



Prove to yourself that you were right!

Jonathan here: I read about the concept of:

Stop trying to prove other people wrong and focus on proving yourself right!

in one of the motivation books I received for Christmas: "Three Feet from Gold: Turn Your Obstacles into Opportunities!" by Sharon Lechter and Greg Reid.

Please read the above powerful statement over again.

There is no shortage of doubters in the world. When friends or family
or whoever say things like:

You can't do that.
You won't be able to get fit.
Is walking or running your first 5K realistic?
Who are you to walk or run a marathon?
Didn't you try to lose the weight before?

they are not necessarily trying to rain on your parade but are probably just speaking from their own insecurities.

It is human nature to try to prove our doubters wrong. But what will happen if you put 100% of our focus into proving yourself right? Your rocket will leave the pad and you will shock yourself with who you become!

You are more powerful than you have ever imagined and the high-energy and healthy version of yourself is within you and is ready to be revealed to the world and I say that you make 2010 the year!

Take small steps each day, make yourself and your health a top priority and follow my lead and you will soon Prove to yourself that you were right!

Wow...I'm about to write a new blog post that's sort of about the same thing.  In fact I have an old blog post about unrealistic expectations and people telling us that we shouldn't expect to be able to do certain things.  NOT!  Here's the post:

http://bariatricgirl.blogspot.com/2008/08/unrealistic-expect ations-is-that-fair.html

If we do not believe in ourselves we will sabotage ourselves right into failure.  LOVE LOVE LOVE your post!
hugs, Y

Here's the new post....hope you like it.

http://bariatricgirl.blogspot.com/2010/02/are-you-anchor-or- motor.html

hugs, Y

Yvonne,
     I love your post on your blog. How true it is. My ex-husband was a definite HUGE anchor. He spent his life hating EVERYONE and belittling many as well. He would put on the old charm to fool you at first  but his hatred would come bubbling up sooner or later. I spent 11 yrs with him making fun of me telling me how dumb I was. He would constantly whistle the tune from wizard of oz "if I only I had a brain". I cant count the times He would moo or oink at me. And when ever I would try to lose weight and meet with success he would knock down my self esteem even more and bring tons of food into the house. I became to believe I was nothing and a loser at life. When he stepped up his abuse finally a light bulb came on..... I was so deep in depression and seem to be always in a fog back then.  I believe marriage is forever but this is not what the Lord intended for us. I found the courage to dump that anchor. I am definitely making progress ahead now. and I realize I have ,if not subconsciously , been trying to avoid the anchors around me. Its not always smooth sailing but I am moving in the right direction. I sooo much rather be a motor.
Thanks Yvonne.

TressaÜ

My darling girl,
It brought tears to my eyes to hear those things.  I know this man will either end up alone and miserable or already is.  I had a couple of bosses like that and an ex-husband.  It amazes me what we start to adjust it and think it's normal.  I also believed marriage was forever but I also know God did not intend for you to live like that.  It actually makes me angry that someone would be so horrible and cruel to you.  Bless your heart.  I hope you know that you NEVER EVER have to hear things like that from anyone ever again and if you do, you just let me know and I'll kick their ass.  (well I'll get Guido to do it). That's a picture of Guido.  It makes me emotional because I allowed emotional abuse for years.  In some way it is far more painful and longer lasting that physical.  I too am not perfect about those anchors because if I was, I'd never ever post on the main board again!    I keep it at the minimum and pick my battles and try to do it with class and dignity and human compassion but I feel like someone has to take up for the people like we were that are being bullied and abused.  I think I can hear your motor running in Texas!
hugs, Y

Yvonne,
    Thank you so much and if I ever need Guido I will certainly let you know.

{{HUGS}}
Tressa