WLS Success-through Powerful Positive Attitudes
So very proud of our Mrsfrogdr
It was this thread:
http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/amos/4112314/How-Much-Did- Carnie-Wilson-Regain/
Post Date: 1/31/10 10:30 am
I was very tiny as a child and remember my parents always encouraging me to eat more so I would not "blow away", but I also remember eating so many speghettios at 3 that I threw up, sneaking ex-lax at 4 because I thought it was chocolate, and hiding in the closet at 5 because I could not stop eating after just one piece of Valentine's day candy. I have never had a healthy relationship with food. I do not know why. My childhood was normal, no trauma and yet the food abuse/addiction started very early. At 3-5 years old I had problems with food and now realize it is a deep seated problem with perhaps biological not psychological roots. I loved the "sex in a plate" comment because that is exactly what food has been for me for a very long time.
I am one of the few that will say...Food does not need to get right with me....I need to get right with it!!!
Sure I have gotten myself under control and taken responsibility for my choices, lost the weight, and promised my self never to let myself lose control again (and yep...my food was always boring during those times of success - I think that may be a big key Yvonne). Told others how they could do it too. I have done it several times and ended up right where I started a year or two later. I realize I have no control over food and know that surgery is not going to fix that. I am struggling with some of my preop changes and at first I was worried the changes were too easy, not enough, but now its getting hard and that is scary to me. I know that when I have surgery that I will lose weight but keeping it off is what has me really worried. I don't want to be a failure and I don't want to be judged as a whiner because I choose to talk about my success, failures, and fears. I have the knowledge of addiction and cross addiction and there are support groups aplenty and yet I realize, the addiction may still win. I think that fear is healthy and hope I never lose it completely.
I have seen longtime veterans with close to 10 years of success or more (like Yvonne) treat those that have regained with respect and offer genuine help and positive support. Even Vitalady, the real WLS goddess (IMO) has admitted that it is not too hard to slide back into the old ways.
If you are fortunate enough to break free, thank GOD, celebrate, live life to the fullest you can...but don't hate or berated those that do not have the success you have. Even if they are whiners or drama queens in your eyes. They have enough pain and guilt with out you adding to it, even if they are a public figure and the rest of the world feels they are fair game.
Open RNY 3/30/01 260lbs - 130lbs Yvonne McCarthy, CLC. Health & Wellness Coach (full time volunteer). I am happy to help if I can. Visit www.bariatricgirl.com and see the Bariatric Girl blog! Also check out my Facebook Bariatric Girl Page. Photography site www.yvonnemccarthy.com .„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨
hugs, Y
Open RNY 3/30/01 260lbs - 130lbs Yvonne McCarthy, CLC. Health & Wellness Coach (full time volunteer). I am happy to help if I can. Visit www.bariatricgirl.com and see the Bariatric Girl blog! Also check out my Facebook Bariatric Girl Page. Photography site www.yvonnemccarthy.com .„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨
That definitely was inspiring. I saw some similarities in our childhood as well. I do feel this is a disease/addiction that will always be there. We just have to put the day to day work in ....one step at a time. We are ALL human and no one is infallible. We should be treating everyone with respect because you never know when we may be walking their same path.
Well done Dawn
Thanks for re-posting Yvonne. I had missed this one.
Awesome, Dawn. Just awesome. And I totally relate to you = I loved food as a young child and lots of different kinds of food. Thanks to my mom I never got fat as a child - she kept a very watchful eye on it (as she was obese). But the demons were there for me early on.
I have to say that I don't understand the desire for anyone here to be mean or nast to anyone else...or say mean things about others.... I guess it's just the nature of message boards - but very disheartening.
There was a posting from someon about Carnie Wilson where the poster referred to Carnie as a "load" and I almost posted something Mean to HER...but I hit cancel instead. It just doesn't make any sense - if you have nothing nice to say - Move on.
Suzy
Start Weight 309
Surgery 301
Current 206
O M G - I am down over 100#.
Suzy, I'm so glad you canceled it because it only brings you down to their level. That person is an unhappy person and the saying "misery loves company" means exactly that. I've used this analogy so many times and please excuse me if I repeat myself but I look at it like we are walking a road toward our goal...not goal weight so much but that's part of it. We are walking toward the thing we want most in our lives and when these little things pop up that are negative and mean you should just walk on by and don't veer off course because you are only allowing them to rent space in your head. They are either looking for a reaction or they are saying something that they believe will make them popular with others. Putting someone down to make yourself look better is never a reason to do it. It is the basis of all prejudice and bigotry. In my recipe for life I talk about that you never know what someone else's journey is until you walk in their shoes. Don't we have enough work to do on keeping our side of the street clean than to put someone else down? Carnie has struggled but you know what? If Carnie hadn't been so public I wouldn't have had the surgery. She saved my life because I was truly on my way to finding a way to check out. The pain was too great. I had lost my mom and she was the most beautiful, kind, gracious and angelic being this earth ever lost and she loved me no matter what size I was. I was angry when she was taken and I took it out on myself and I ate more than I ever did and I didn't care if I lived or died. Thanks to Carnie I am not only alive but thriving and then on top of that I am paying it forward to help others that want to live! She started this little ripple in a pond that became a wave that turned into a tsunami called Yvonne the weight loss surgery advocate.
The other thing is....when people are cruel and nasty, they don't realize that they are sabotaging their success. A mean, nasty, unhappy person stresses their body and guess what that does? It throws your body into starvation mode and it hangs on to every calorie with a vengence. There are a few that are thin that are mean but I think you'll find that many of the more vocal negative post-ops are not successful in any aspect. So when you see the crappy, negative stuff....change channels because the moment you allow it to raise your blood pressure, you will hurt yourself. You can be compassionate by thinking "Thank God I don't have to live in that person's head" and then move on and find a post you can contribute to that is positive. It works I promise!
hugs, Y
Open RNY 3/30/01 260lbs - 130lbs Yvonne McCarthy, CLC. Health & Wellness Coach (full time volunteer). I am happy to help if I can. Visit www.bariatricgirl.com and see the Bariatric Girl blog! Also check out my Facebook Bariatric Girl Page. Photography site www.yvonnemccarthy.com .„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨„ø¤º°¨ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ¨°º¤ø„¸¸„ø¤º°¨