Hello

Thanks Lilitu, do great minds think alike?? I think so!  And...I love your mantras!  It makes me want to make some up for you!  Have you ever read my post about Toxic Trauma Drama?  It's not so much the first part which is about the bad stuff that goes on with forums but I'd like you to read the bottom part about the recipe for life.  I hope you like it!

http://bariatricgirl.blogspot.com/2009/03/toxic-trauma-drama -at-wls-ranch.html

hugs, Y

I would LOVE to hear your mantras!!! Great Minds indeed. 'Toxic' how interesting you use this word. I have used the word toxic to describe people that enjoy stirring the pot and making things negative. We all know these people, we have them in our families, at work, and in our neighborhoods. The thing for me is to NOT be one of these people and spend as little time possible with them.

I read your Recipe, I love it, I put it on my profile.

Yep, toxic indeed.  And then there's toxic shame...what we do to ourselves and that's why I push so hard to try to encourage others to get the blame/shame/guilt/judgment out of their lives.  It took me a little while to learn that toxic people sucked the life out of me.  I kept trying to save them and instead of saving them it burned me every time.  I finally learned to show each and every person compassion and if they are toxic I have to move on and be grateful I don't live in their heads.  Some how I expected it to be different here where we share a common thread but since I cannot change the actions of some, I have made a place for like minded people to come and hang out without fear of being bullied or shamed. 

Please (everyone) feel free to invite those you see in need...in need of a place like this.  There are so many lives in jeopardy and when they come and go because of someone being unkind it just hurts me that they lost thier chance at a good outcome.  Again, I cannot save them all but we've made a safe place here for the meantime.  Thank you all for being here and thank you Saara.  You've made a huge difference just by being here.
hugs, Y