NEW MEMBERS! Help Introduce Yourself!

I have heard about HCG but I've if you look up Kevin Trudeau you'll see he's been sued a lot.  I want to make some time to talk OK?  It kills me to think you cried and I want you to read the post I wrote about what to do with the negative feelings OK?  PM me and let's talk.
hugs, Y

I'm not sure what you mean by PM you????

Sharon,
       Welcome !!!!   To PM Yvonne all you have to do is click on her name to bring you to her personal home page. You then look to the right of her picture and you will see where you can send her a message. Click on this and you will send her a personal message. Hope this helps. Ü
    

OH honey..please no more tears over weight! You are a beautiful lady and do not need to beat yourself up over some gain. I am totally and 100% with Yvonne on this one. Im in Iowa as well..but in the eastern part..us Iowa ladies got to stick together! I just had my surgery in October and Im afraid because Im having trouble exercising on a regular basis. Just do not seem to have the energy or want to..even though I know that I am supposed to be. So just know that all of us no matter how far out of surgery have things we need to work on. I hope your having a better day today and hoping for no more snow this winter for either one of us. God Bless and Big Hugs..Katie

Hi Everyone! 
My name is Diana - and I am 43.  I have started the process towards wls but I am suddenly getting very scared and nervous about the surgery choice- maybe I have been reading too many negative stories - so I am here for the positives .!  :)   I  have been heavy since I was 6 - and have fought the ups and downs my whole life.  I watched my Mom suffer terribly from cancer and lost her in 2005.  Totally devasted and depressed I ate and slept my way through the next two years.  In 2007 at  295 - I started a liquid fast and lost 85 pds.    However - even with exercising I only kept it off for about a year or so...  And now I am again back to 285.  Very depressing!   

This past September I had a  weird health scare -sudden motor and sensory nerve damage to my legs - causing me to fall several times (breaking my whole right foot) before staying down.  The doctors have no explanation for this paralysis in my right leg.   The thought is maybe I pinched a nerve or something.  But it has gone away which I am very grateful for.  But my thoughts keep drifting to whether my weight is the real cause behind my leg issues - so I  want to do my body a favor and get rid of this weight  - yes  again..

I am married with two young daughters and would like to be a healthy example for them.  I work full time in Boston in Finance and love my job - and try to get to the gym at lunch as often as possible.  I really enjoy weight lifting, yoga, zumba - everything about working out.  However I have noticed it is so much easier and fun when you weigh less!    

Sorry Y   - but I have no furry pets!  I have allergies since I was a baby.  But I do have lizards!  lol   I have a 20 year old tiger salamander named spot, a 2 year old beardie named pumpkin, 3 year old leopard gecko named Nico, and a wacko crested gecko named Crash (and yes because he crashes into the glass cage!!  lol).  

Anyway - I am here for the positives - :) 

Thanks!

I'm so glad you're here!! I reposted your post on the board so it wouldn't get missed.  Sometimes they get buried on this thread so check it out here:
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/yvonnegroup/discussion/4137 547/Welcome-our-new-member-whatachief/

Soooooooooo glad you're here!
hugs, Y

Hi - I'm Diane and I am excited about having a positive place to "hang out". I'm 6 months post RNY - I lost 79 pounds preOp and 65 pounds postOp. It's going slower than I would like, but it's going - and isn't that the whole point? I will be 42 years old tomorrow - the same day my son turns 14. I wish I had had WLS sooner, but I think I needed to be in the right place mentally to make the most of this new tool and I'm not sure I was there before now. I've come a long way on this journey since beginning as a preOp in January 2008 - and I'm not done yet. I am finding that as my body is shrinking (again, anyone else lost far more weight that they have every weighed over the years of losing and regaining?) my emotional being is doing a lot of growing and maturing. The person who used to "give in" and "back down" and be a "people pleaser" is now standing up for herself and doing what is best for me, and strugging to find the balance when I have to factor in the needs of my children, who are the only people's needs I will really consider along with my own. I spent a lot of years sacrificing my health to try to make my ex happy. I'm finding it hard to make myself a high priority in my own life.

I'm in a rough place in my life right now and finding it's tough to stay positive, so I'm hoping to find some strength in this group. I have two teenagers (14 and 19), I'm a single mom with no support from their Dad, financial or other. One kid is bipolar the other has Tourettes. Because of their constant fighting, DSS is now involved and I am fighing neglect and abuse charges because they had a fight the ended up in the older one being charged with assault and I'm to blame for not protecting the younger one - even though technically he caused the issues. It's a lot more complicated than that, but I don't want to dwell on it, just give you an idea of why things are difficult right now. Being broke doesn't help with the needing a lawyer and still being behind on bills from being laid off for 4+ months last year. I know that in the end, I will be ok - but I have also learned that it's OK to lean on people around me and say "I need a shoulder and boost my spirits right now."

I don't mean to sound whiney and negative - I have found the best way to let people know what I need is to be truthful and say "Hey, I'm struggling right now." For a lot of years I put on the pretend positive attitude on the outside while my inside crumbled (and my outside grew to 389 pounds). I am finding be balance between being positive and asking for support and encouragement when I need it.

So right now, I need some support and encouragement. And I have support and encouragement to offer right back - when I look at what I have accomplished in the last 2 years, even through some rough emotional times - losing 145 pounds is pretty great. That's about how much my 19 year old daughter weighs - so I've already lost a person (too bad the extra skin didn't go with that weight!) I wonder if they can donate the skin to burn victims when you have plastic surgery? It seems like such a waste to throw away all that skin - and would you get a discount if you did donate it? (Probably not, but what a nice thought!)

I hope to be adding my 6 month update soon, I have lots to be happy about with my weight loss journey. And I have been lucky enough to find a good job and a great boss who is supportive and accomodating about my need to flex my schedule for legal and counseling appointments. I believe this will be ok - without a supportive family or friends, I hope to find some strength and support here, remiding me that things will be ok. And if anyone has advice on this type of situation, please feel free to send me a PM. I would be happy to receive any advice, information or words of wisedom from anyone.

I'm a good mom who is dealing with a difficult siutation and I'm doing the best I can with kids with tough issues. It's not the black and white situation DSS (or CPS in some stats) would like to make it seem to be.

I hope you have a sense of who I am - and feel free to read some of my journal entries on here to learn more about me, and check out the changes in me so far. An old coworker didn't even recognize me a couple weeks ago. How funny is that?

Nice to meet you!! ~ Diane ~

I'm so glad you're here!  I did do a repost on the discussion board so this wouldn't get lost in the long intro thread so check it out here:
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/yvonnegroup/discussion/4143 557/Another-New-Member-meet-Diane324/

I'll also respond there.
hugs, Y

My name is April and I am new to this group. Molly recommended that join, and I am glad she did.   I have been trying to become a more positive person, and I think this group may be very helpful.  My husband and I have been married for 6 years.   He just got back from Iraq and is having a hard time adjusting to life as civilian again.   We are currently separated because of some issues.   I am trying to live a peaceful life and allow him time to heal. However, it is affecting our children.  We have three children. The oldest two are 6 and 11, and we got custody of them right after we were married, so this has really affected them.   We also have a biological daughter. I don’t normally distinguish between adopted and biological, but it helps to understand why two of them are having a harder time than the other one.    I actually got upset with the census because I had to tell the difference on my children, and it shouldn’t matter. I had WLS on September 9, 2009 and have lost 92 pounds in the past six months.   My kids and I exercise almost daily at the YMCA, and they are really embracing my new lifestyle.   My husband thinks I am self-centered and vain, and that no one could tell if I didn’t them I had lost 90 pounds.   He is so insecure and I am not sure why. I had his full support until it got scheduled.  My WLS journey was a quick one, as I went to my seminar and had surgery less than two months later.   I wasn’t sure what the purpose of it being so smooth was until recently.   I found a lump under my arm. They are running tests on it. My doctor said I wouldn’t have found it, if I had not lost the weight.   I am hoping for the best, but prepared for the worst.   Right now, I am at peace with whatever the outcome is.  I look forward to getting to know the people of this group.

Hi,

My name is Diana and I live in Kettering, OH. I am having my RNY this Monday. I was invited here when  I posted this topic on the main board "Do You Plan for Failure".. I wrote this because so many people were focused on the negative and with complications they had not faced. A big Example "I just spent an hour on the "Failed WLS Forum OMG.  So much doom and gloom.

I am a very positive person. I know the risks but I am armed with knowledge and I do dot spend my time being anxious, nervous or frightened. I have been positive every aspect of my upcoming WLS. I am happy and excited.

I needed something different, something good and welcoming.