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I had gotten away from the boards and have recently started reading at least a little each day. Almost 4 years ago my daughter left my grandchildren at the daycare and we had to go pick them up. They are still with us. I can't seem to stay focused on myself. I struggle to get in my water. I think a tub of protein lasted over a year. I am staring to try harder after gaining back about 18 pounds. I did the 5 day pouch test and lost 8 pounds but am stuck there again. I used to go to the gym and work out 3 times a week. But now that I am working days I just can't seem to get there. So much to do in the evenings, so little time. I just recently came to the decision that I have to accept thal my daughter is never going to be responsible for the kids. I think that has helped. just to not be hoping and waiting for her to get her s*** together for them. Every time she has seemed like she wanted to it just was long enough for them and me to get our hopes up an mess up our routines. So I can't wait for my life to straighten out to get back to me. I just got to deal with what I have. I have 3 healthy grandchildren who drive me to the edge of exaustion (and beyond at times). They also bring light to my life. They were 1, 3, and 5 when we got them. their Daddy was in jail he has been out since January and has seen them 2 times. I get to experience Christmas magic again thru them. Can't wait til Santa comes!!!

Susan - I know it's been a while since you posted this but since you mentioned this man in another post today I assume you're still dealing with this.  I don't know if you're a spiritual person or not, but I truly believe that for Spirit to fill our hands with the perfect person or situation that we first have to open them and let whatever may not be working go.  It's the hardest thing anyone will ever have to do.  My advice to you (for you to take or leave by all means) is to send him love, wish him well and then release him from obligations to you.  Who knows.  Maybe he just needs to know he has the freedom and will come running back or if he floats away it's for the best.  People from your past who do not make it to your future don't do so for a reason.   From one broken-hearted girl to another, I send you my full love and support and my confidence that just the right person will show up in your life, but not a minute before the cir****tances are just right.

For me - My "Bridge Out' if you will is how to get to the life I always dreamed of.  The money, the house, the traveling that I'd like to do, but all in the context of having all of that through a calling in life that I'm really passionate about.  To that end, I have NO IDEA what I should be doing.  It's not a matter of not having the courage to do what needs doing to get me on the path for this - It's not knowing if there's a path out there for me at all.  I like what I'm doing well enough but there's nothing that I'd REALLY love to do or dream of doing.  Other than winning the lottery and just traveling around naturally.  I feel blessed to have a job at all, and to have a job working for people who treat me well is stellar.  But to be passionate about doing something 40 hours a week would be extremely exciting for me.  Maybe it's just non-existent as of yet.  Who knows.  

 Take a deep breath......if you weren't feeling a  lot of emotions that would strike me as odd.   I know I was overwhelmed and full of positive anticipation - and inpatient!  I can only say I took it one day at a time......read a lot of profiles on here to stay focused and learn both the good and the challenging and prayed..a lot!   The headache and cramps are likely related to fluid loss and perhaps electrolyte imbalance.  Liquid diets cause a pretty intense flushing of the system and loss of retained water ......and that can throw off your body's chemistry.  Try some gatorade (sugar free) to replace electrolytes......and make sure you're drinking a lot of fluids.  As to crying a lot - I cry all the time - and I've learned not to brush things off anymore.....I used to eat my feelings - and I've had to learn to deal with them - which has been a process in and of itself.   Keep breathing.....and as the date approaches please stay in touch.......let me know how you're doing.......my WLS saved my life.  Will be thinking of you.    Susan

I"m so pleased to see a few new people join the group and I encourage you to either respond to either of the previous discussions or to raise any issues you would like devote some time to.  The holidays present all sorts of challenges to all of us - some food related - many related to family expectations, loneliness, the stress of providing a holiday experience when money is tight etc.   Since any stress can impact our ability to care optimally for ourselves what are the holiday struggles you are facing.  My own is dealing with the fact that I no longer have a family.   In reality I had stopped spending holidays with my parents/sister many years ago but now that they are all gone I feel a level of lonliness that can be overwhelming at times.  We all seem to want to recapture the magic of the holidays we may have experienced as children and it is elusive.   How are each of you doing?    Susan

I think right now my biggest struggle is with trust/friendships. You think you know your friends and the people that are involved in your daily lives. Yet once again I have been disappointed. I have a friend, whom I thought to be like a sister to me. Of course now looking at it in the last few months, I see this friendship is very one sided. Well just last week my oldest daughter sadly had a miscarriage. Of course as well as being worried sick for my daughter I was so very sad over this loss. I guess I was just shocked that when I told this friend what happened, I expected that maybe she would say "oh would you like me to come sit with you" or some sort of reply like that. Well she did say sorry to hear that , but was not really interested in listening or dealing with my problems. 
I know I am a good friend and I give my all into a friendship. I just wished people would understand a friendship is very much like a marriage. A two way street , there to support each other not just when the other person feels like they need you there. I tried to speak to her about my concerns again it was nothing she cared to listen to at the time. I have decided I would just bak away at this time, allow her to resolve whatever it is she may be going through. But after 16 yrs of a friendship it is so diffiicult not to feel hurt, disappointed, and angry.
I`m not sure at this time what the lesson , reason for things in my life falling apart, but 
i sure hope it changes soon.