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Topic: RE: what weight loss didn't fix
hi Tamara
thank you for your kind words. I have no doubt I will succeed, I just procrastinated. unlike most (I think) I had the experience of my weight falling off no matter what I did. I didn't have to "work" the tool and so put off learning the new habits because I could.
so, I'm learning them now!
a good friend of mine said she believes the 2nd year post op is harder than the first and it's turning out to be that way for me. the first year the stress of change is more than off set by the excitement and joy of getting smaller at last.
it's all good. I do not regret he surgery at all and I will learn to - as you say - step out from behind the weight. it's a process, it goes on.
good luck to you!
Jackie
thank you for your kind words. I have no doubt I will succeed, I just procrastinated. unlike most (I think) I had the experience of my weight falling off no matter what I did. I didn't have to "work" the tool and so put off learning the new habits because I could.
so, I'm learning them now!
a good friend of mine said she believes the 2nd year post op is harder than the first and it's turning out to be that way for me. the first year the stress of change is more than off set by the excitement and joy of getting smaller at last.
it's all good. I do not regret he surgery at all and I will learn to - as you say - step out from behind the weight. it's a process, it goes on.
good luck to you!
Jackie
once upon a time I had a group to talk about Binge Eating Disorder, and later one about Clean Eating.
PM me if you are interested in either of these.
size 8, life is great
Topic: RE: what weight loss didn't fix
Jackie,
You have hit upon my greatest fear. In preparation, I've begun seeing a therapist a good six months prior to my surgery date. Still, the fear lurks. Food has been my solice since I was 12. Until now I couldn't imagine using a different support, but now health and happiness demand I do just that. I am relieved to read that even given the challenges, you do not regret the surgery or the struggles since. Stepping out from behind our weight takes courage. It is that courage that will see us both through to long term success. It is that courage that makes us Warrior Women!
Respectfully, Tamara
You have hit upon my greatest fear. In preparation, I've begun seeing a therapist a good six months prior to my surgery date. Still, the fear lurks. Food has been my solice since I was 12. Until now I couldn't imagine using a different support, but now health and happiness demand I do just that. I am relieved to read that even given the challenges, you do not regret the surgery or the struggles since. Stepping out from behind our weight takes courage. It is that courage that will see us both through to long term success. It is that courage that makes us Warrior Women!
Respectfully, Tamara
Topic: specific food goals
I don't want to call the New Year's Resolutions since I don't want them to fade away in a week!
current food goals:
decrease coffee
increase produce of any kind
find and make a healthy CRACKER recipe (I am so sick of paying a mint for store crackers and they are always too sweet if they are some version of "whole grain")
continue to look for a source of Grass Fed meat
find people (a GROUP would be nice) who are knowledgeable about healthy eating and can answer questions and provide good role models!
Raw Foods?
Clean Eating?
Whole Foods?
current food goals:
decrease coffee
increase produce of any kind
find and make a healthy CRACKER recipe (I am so sick of paying a mint for store crackers and they are always too sweet if they are some version of "whole grain")
continue to look for a source of Grass Fed meat
find people (a GROUP would be nice) who are knowledgeable about healthy eating and can answer questions and provide good role models!
Raw Foods?
Clean Eating?
Whole Foods?
once upon a time I had a group to talk about Binge Eating Disorder, and later one about Clean Eating.
PM me if you are interested in either of these.
size 8, life is great
Topic: RE: What did you weight loss not fix?
wow, you have moved on quickly - no dust on you. brave!
congratulations on the moving forward no matter what - it's inspirational.
Happy New Year back!
Jackie
congratulations on the moving forward no matter what - it's inspirational.
Happy New Year back!
Jackie
once upon a time I had a group to talk about Binge Eating Disorder, and later one about Clean Eating.
PM me if you are interested in either of these.
size 8, life is great
Topic: RE: Choice
I love your statement about fake clarity.....the warm glowing optimism that means you are starting to feel the wine......perfect way to capture the struggle.
I have issue with money as well.....I've not worked full time in some time....and while I"ve pieced together enough to keep going I've been job searching for months now and things aren't looking very promising. My issue is that I don't live with that reality......and should be far more careful than I am these days. I'm looking at January as a time to refocus on that very issue. For the 2nd year in a row I'm not focused on loosing weight - maintaining weight......maintenance is a daily focus.....but I feel like I have the alchemy to keep that in check. I need to get the rest of my life into balance to avoid upsetting this careful equilibrium. Interesting insights. Thanks for raising them! Susan
I have issue with money as well.....I've not worked full time in some time....and while I"ve pieced together enough to keep going I've been job searching for months now and things aren't looking very promising. My issue is that I don't live with that reality......and should be far more careful than I am these days. I'm looking at January as a time to refocus on that very issue. For the 2nd year in a row I'm not focused on loosing weight - maintaining weight......maintenance is a daily focus.....but I feel like I have the alchemy to keep that in check. I need to get the rest of my life into balance to avoid upsetting this careful equilibrium. Interesting insights. Thanks for raising them! Susan
Obesity Help Support Group Leader - The Woman Warrior
286/170/131 (starting/goal/current)
LBL - 10-30-08, brachioplasty/augmentation 2-26-09, medial thigh lift 3-16-09
Plastics - Dr. Joseph Fodero
286/170/131 (starting/goal/current)
LBL - 10-30-08, brachioplasty/augmentation 2-26-09, medial thigh lift 3-16-09
Plastics - Dr. Joseph Fodero
286/170/140/131 (starting weight/goal/surgeons goal/current)
LBL 10-30-08 - Joseph Fodero
Brachioplasty/Breast Augmentation - 2=24-09
Topic: RE: What did you weight loss not fix?
I assume you mean with Sky......wish I could have something better to report...but we haven't spoken in over a month......his last contact was an email a few weeks ago acknowledging that he was sure I was having a very difficult time with this, but this is the way he is.....he walked away from his business (his partner is holding down the fort) and went to the desert for a few weeks....he goes back to nature when he faces struggle.....it's the Indian thing to do........and takes no form of communication with him...no laptop...no phone.....and while I respect his traditions and acknowledge the differences in our culture...I've found this situation to be impossible to deal with. So I started to date again.....I've met several really nice and interesting men...and I"m just trying to take things slow....no more long-distance relationships with me. Anybody who has ever had one warned me how difficult it would be....but I somehow thought I would be different. When I think back to the many New Year's Eves with my husband...where we barely acknowledged each other or struggled to get through a romantic dinner.....it's nice to have a wonderful dinner with a terrific guy to look forward to. Unfortunately he's a bit of a foodie.....loves to cook etc....so we'll see how he deals with the limits of my lifestyle......but he's very health conscious and I think we'll figure it out.
Always moving forward......no matter what.....I'm grateful for health.....and loving friends. Happy New Year to you.....and those you love. Susan
Always moving forward......no matter what.....I'm grateful for health.....and loving friends. Happy New Year to you.....and those you love. Susan
Obesity Help Support Group Leader - The Woman Warrior
286/170/131 (starting/goal/current)
LBL - 10-30-08, brachioplasty/augmentation 2-26-09, medial thigh lift 3-16-09
Plastics - Dr. Joseph Fodero
286/170/131 (starting/goal/current)
LBL - 10-30-08, brachioplasty/augmentation 2-26-09, medial thigh lift 3-16-09
Plastics - Dr. Joseph Fodero
286/170/140/131 (starting weight/goal/surgeons goal/current)
LBL 10-30-08 - Joseph Fodero
Brachioplasty/Breast Augmentation - 2=24-09
Topic: what weight loss didn't fix
the list is long: depression, anxiety, loneliness, inability to earn enough money, poor social skills.
I don't regret it but, shoot, the only thing it fixed is my size. at the same time taking away my way of dealing with (or avoiding) problems.
I feel like I am starting over, now, with almost exactly the same problems. well, maybe that's good. you keep coming back to the same stuff in your life and if you face it, maybe eventually you can go on to something new. gah!
one GOOD thing - weight loss took away my excuse. my all purpose for goodness sake I can't be expected to deal with this excuse for everything.
sheesh, can't you see I'm obese? I have to lose weight, I can't deal with that other stuff now!
welcome to my life: all the other stuff!
I don't regret it but, shoot, the only thing it fixed is my size. at the same time taking away my way of dealing with (or avoiding) problems.
I feel like I am starting over, now, with almost exactly the same problems. well, maybe that's good. you keep coming back to the same stuff in your life and if you face it, maybe eventually you can go on to something new. gah!
one GOOD thing - weight loss took away my excuse. my all purpose for goodness sake I can't be expected to deal with this excuse for everything.
sheesh, can't you see I'm obese? I have to lose weight, I can't deal with that other stuff now!
welcome to my life: all the other stuff!
once upon a time I had a group to talk about Binge Eating Disorder, and later one about Clean Eating.
PM me if you are interested in either of these.
size 8, life is great
Topic: RE: What did you weight loss not fix?
Hi Susan
I think I'll start a new thread for my struggles - what is happening with your relationship?
can we get an update?
you say there is nothing to be done but looks like you did a lot - you started this group, yes?
could put a lot of ripples in the pond....
I think I'll start a new thread for my struggles - what is happening with your relationship?
can we get an update?
you say there is nothing to be done but looks like you did a lot - you started this group, yes?
could put a lot of ripples in the pond....
once upon a time I had a group to talk about Binge Eating Disorder, and later one about Clean Eating.
PM me if you are interested in either of these.
size 8, life is great
Topic: RE: Choice
It seems when one thing goes wrong everything falls apart all at once.
Oh, boy, is that true. it's feast or famine, seems like.
you are early enough post-op that you need to expect to have roller coaster mood swings for awhile. I mean, aside from any mood issues you normally have or that may come up due to age, for example.
I've heard it said the second year post surgery is harder than the first - the thrill of it is wearing off and you still have all these problems to deal with! the good news is, you get to deal with them at a smaller size and that is very, very nice.
how is your depression now? is it new for you or have you always had it?
depression is a tough thing to keep track of, things tend to slide downhill so slowly you don't notice it until suddenly - seems like - you can be in a very deep hole.
Oh, boy, is that true. it's feast or famine, seems like.
you are early enough post-op that you need to expect to have roller coaster mood swings for awhile. I mean, aside from any mood issues you normally have or that may come up due to age, for example.
I've heard it said the second year post surgery is harder than the first - the thrill of it is wearing off and you still have all these problems to deal with! the good news is, you get to deal with them at a smaller size and that is very, very nice.
how is your depression now? is it new for you or have you always had it?
depression is a tough thing to keep track of, things tend to slide downhill so slowly you don't notice it until suddenly - seems like - you can be in a very deep hole.
once upon a time I had a group to talk about Binge Eating Disorder, and later one about Clean Eating.
PM me if you are interested in either of these.
size 8, life is great
Topic: RE: Choice
clarity! it seems to be a moving target, either that or the clarity I sometimes think I've found is a fake one - like that warm glowing optimism that means you are starting to feel the wine.
as to the How To Proceed - I am forever making lists of plans and then never acting on them.
I struggle with a lot of issues but one that keep resurfacing is my underearning - no matter what else happens in my life, the moment I have enough income I sobotage it, and any extra savings then gets eaten up in daily living. this is so self destructive! I am 48 and, once again, almost broke.
once I wrote on a legal pad in giant letters
you can't THINK your way out of this you have to ACT.
as to the How To Proceed - I am forever making lists of plans and then never acting on them.
I struggle with a lot of issues but one that keep resurfacing is my underearning - no matter what else happens in my life, the moment I have enough income I sobotage it, and any extra savings then gets eaten up in daily living. this is so self destructive! I am 48 and, once again, almost broke.
once I wrote on a legal pad in giant letters
you can't THINK your way out of this you have to ACT.
once upon a time I had a group to talk about Binge Eating Disorder, and later one about Clean Eating.
PM me if you are interested in either of these.
size 8, life is great
