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what weight loss didn't fix
the list is long: depression, anxiety, loneliness, inability to earn enough money, poor social skills.
I don't regret it but, shoot, the only thing it fixed is my size. at the same time taking away my way of dealing with (or avoiding) problems.
I feel like I am starting over, now, with almost exactly the same problems. well, maybe that's good. you keep coming back to the same stuff in your life and if you face it, maybe eventually you can go on to something new. gah!
one GOOD thing - weight loss took away my excuse. my all purpose for goodness sake I can't be expected to deal with this excuse for everything.
sheesh, can't you see I'm obese? I have to lose weight, I can't deal with that other stuff now!
welcome to my life: all the other stuff!
I don't regret it but, shoot, the only thing it fixed is my size. at the same time taking away my way of dealing with (or avoiding) problems.
I feel like I am starting over, now, with almost exactly the same problems. well, maybe that's good. you keep coming back to the same stuff in your life and if you face it, maybe eventually you can go on to something new. gah!
one GOOD thing - weight loss took away my excuse. my all purpose for goodness sake I can't be expected to deal with this excuse for everything.
sheesh, can't you see I'm obese? I have to lose weight, I can't deal with that other stuff now!
welcome to my life: all the other stuff!
once upon a time I had a group to talk about Binge Eating Disorder, and later one about Clean Eating.
PM me if you are interested in either of these.
size 8, life is great
Jackie,
You have hit upon my greatest fear. In preparation, I've begun seeing a therapist a good six months prior to my surgery date. Still, the fear lurks. Food has been my solice since I was 12. Until now I couldn't imagine using a different support, but now health and happiness demand I do just that. I am relieved to read that even given the challenges, you do not regret the surgery or the struggles since. Stepping out from behind our weight takes courage. It is that courage that will see us both through to long term success. It is that courage that makes us Warrior Women!
Respectfully, Tamara
You have hit upon my greatest fear. In preparation, I've begun seeing a therapist a good six months prior to my surgery date. Still, the fear lurks. Food has been my solice since I was 12. Until now I couldn't imagine using a different support, but now health and happiness demand I do just that. I am relieved to read that even given the challenges, you do not regret the surgery or the struggles since. Stepping out from behind our weight takes courage. It is that courage that will see us both through to long term success. It is that courage that makes us Warrior Women!
Respectfully, Tamara
hi Tamara
thank you for your kind words. I have no doubt I will succeed, I just procrastinated. unlike most (I think) I had the experience of my weight falling off no matter what I did. I didn't have to "work" the tool and so put off learning the new habits because I could.
so, I'm learning them now!
a good friend of mine said she believes the 2nd year post op is harder than the first and it's turning out to be that way for me. the first year the stress of change is more than off set by the excitement and joy of getting smaller at last.
it's all good. I do not regret he surgery at all and I will learn to - as you say - step out from behind the weight. it's a process, it goes on.
good luck to you!
Jackie
thank you for your kind words. I have no doubt I will succeed, I just procrastinated. unlike most (I think) I had the experience of my weight falling off no matter what I did. I didn't have to "work" the tool and so put off learning the new habits because I could.
so, I'm learning them now!
a good friend of mine said she believes the 2nd year post op is harder than the first and it's turning out to be that way for me. the first year the stress of change is more than off set by the excitement and joy of getting smaller at last.
it's all good. I do not regret he surgery at all and I will learn to - as you say - step out from behind the weight. it's a process, it goes on.
good luck to you!
Jackie
once upon a time I had a group to talk about Binge Eating Disorder, and later one about Clean Eating.
PM me if you are interested in either of these.
size 8, life is great
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on 1/11/10 9:46 am - West Central FL☼RIDA , FL
on 1/11/10 9:46 am - West Central FL☼RIDA , FL
I feel so immensely proud of my weight loss accomplishment but yet I still don't feel "good enough"...
I still don't love myself enough to not settle.
I am still afraid I could end up being all alone.
I still have trouble opening up, sharing my deepest thoughts and feelings, and trusting.
I'm working on these things...it's slow....but I am getting better with it.
I'm glad I'm able to identify the things that used to trigger my bad eating so I can at least keep a close watch on my food choices and calorie intake.
I still don't love myself enough to not settle.
I am still afraid I could end up being all alone.
I still have trouble opening up, sharing my deepest thoughts and feelings, and trusting.
I'm working on these things...it's slow....but I am getting better with it.
I'm glad I'm able to identify the things that used to trigger my bad eating so I can at least keep a close watch on my food choices and calorie intake.
I'm pretty sure I will end up alone but now I know it has nothing to do with my size, it's my inability to bond with people. well, men.
I'm OK with it, although I am open to dating and am even thinking of relocating partially to be somewhere there are more people to meet.
on the other hand I suck at the bad eating triggers, in some ways I am worse than pre-op except my portions are still much smaller. or maybe not, it's so hard to be objective.
I'm OK with it, although I am open to dating and am even thinking of relocating partially to be somewhere there are more people to meet.
on the other hand I suck at the bad eating triggers, in some ways I am worse than pre-op except my portions are still much smaller. or maybe not, it's so hard to be objective.
once upon a time I had a group to talk about Binge Eating Disorder, and later one about Clean Eating.
PM me if you are interested in either of these.
size 8, life is great
