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Your Mom sounds quite agitated which could signal that she is nearing the last phase of her life. Low oxygen certainly won't help that. The drama may cease as her body and mind give in. She could still have her last days in peace.
Liz 5'3" HW: 219 SW: 185 GW: 125 LW: 113 Desired maintenance range: 120-125 CW: 119ish
Thank you for the good thoughts.
I used to consign my clothes when I was in the big weight loss mode after surgery, so I could use the money to buy new things that fit. I think I built 3 different wardrobes during the weight loss phase of 1 year. Now I donate things of value that I am done with to St. Vincent de Paul. For me, it is a way of saying thank you to the many generous people in my life who have gifted us material things, their time, andnm their love. I think of it as releasing it into the universe to bless someone else.
I was able to pick up BFF at the airport. All tghe schools out by where my parents live were closed today, but not here in the metro, so that was a good clue the roads were okay here. Very, very dense fog, and slippery side streets, but the freeways were fine. BFF's flight left a bit before 6am and arrived here at 8:30am. A lot of flights must have been delayed or cancelled, because I was the only one in the cell phone lot, and there was no traffic in the pick up area. Felt weird, it was so empty. She is here, and taking a nap.
The situation with my Mom has not changed, except she doesn't want the pain killers now. Her oxygen drops whenever she moves ( a reading as low as 79). This is with supplemental oxygen. She can not stand, and is refusing to let anyone change her pjs or depends. She won't use her hospital bed because she says she can't breath in the bed. This makes no sense, since she could sit upright if needed, but i don't think she is, as they would say, in her right mind. Hospice offered a catheter and a lift, which she also refused. I will go tomorrow, travel out that way is not safe today.
Our trip cancellation insurance does not cover illness of a family member as reimbursable. It does if we need to attend a family funeral.
Today, as yesterday, we are continuing to prepare as though we are going on our trip. Clearly, this could change. Each day will tell us more.
I had so hoped that bringing Hospice in would ease her passing and there would be moments of peace. Instead it looks like it is heading where I always knew it would: My Mom will pass with drama and chaos. Maybe even worse than I thought. It did not have to be this way. But as DB told me last night, what is happening right now will not last. There will be an end to her suffering, and ours. Praying for some peace for all of us.
A bright spot: BFF had dinner with DD and her beau while in Boston. She thought he was awesome, and treats DD so well. And she said DD was glowing. My kids are doing fine, and that is the best feeling.
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Thinking about DD and her DH and everything up in the air right now. I pray it all works out and that her Mom doesn't continue to suffer. My eldest DD had to go on IV morphine for the last week or so in Hospice. They don't usually do that but because DD's roommate was a nurse and staying home to care for her full-time, they were willing to order it. Put her out of this world for the most part but at least she wasn't in agony.
Hoping that our sick folks improve. Tough time of year!
Yesterday the only real accomplishment was accepting the china hutch and food shopping, though I did make dinner. Today we need to take the old china cabinet (very small but also very old) to the Habitat Restore. I know a lot of people take their old stuff to consignment shops but I don't really feel I need the small amount of money they are likely to generate and would rather do a donation. We also have a bocce practice at 11 am, then a call with my financial planner this afternoon. He likes to do them in January of every year to plan for the year and before he gets caught up in doing taxes.
DS arrives Friday for most of the month. DH wants me to plan an agenda for every day, but I don't feel the need. He does that with his kids though not with his sisters. I have planned dinner on Friday night, and activities/dinner on Sunday, Monday and Tuesday. Then we leave for 12 days for our cruise on Thursday (DS is staying here with Justice). I think we can wing it Saturday and Wednesday...
Have a transformative Tuesday!
Liz 5'3" HW: 219 SW: 185 GW: 125 LW: 113 Desired maintenance range: 120-125 CW: 119ish
I read about that for sinus infections. Kind of gross but effective.
Liz 5'3" HW: 219 SW: 185 GW: 125 LW: 113 Desired maintenance range: 120-125 CW: 119ish
Agree with Claudia - steroids may be needed.
Liz 5'3" HW: 219 SW: 185 GW: 125 LW: 113 Desired maintenance range: 120-125 CW: 119ish
Good that you have the insurance. I haven't typically bought it but I did for the upcoming year and probably will continue to do so after what happened with SIL in Spain last year.
Liz 5'3" HW: 219 SW: 185 GW: 125 LW: 113 Desired maintenance range: 120-125 CW: 119ish
On BFF - her plane probably won't get in if there is a super bad ice storm, but if so can she take an Uber instead?
The only thing to do about your Mom at this point is to think positive. What will be will be. You will manage one way or another. Hard though to not know what the future is bringing.
Liz 5'3" HW: 219 SW: 185 GW: 125 LW: 113 Desired maintenance range: 120-125 CW: 119ish
I love the sound of tree frogs. Couldn't figure out what was singing the first time I heard them.
Sounds like someone has a good eye for space utilization in the studio. That's a great skill to have in-house.
Liz 5'3" HW: 219 SW: 185 GW: 125 LW: 113 Desired maintenance range: 120-125 CW: 119ish
Hospice is providing some in home care currently, but hopefully they can increase it, especially since they are unable to provide the respite care right now. Hoping there isn't ice for me to deal with tomorrow. Maybe BFF will have to hire a professional driver like Uber. Sadly the light rail doesn't come my way. It goes north to Minneapolis from the airport, but not south out to the suburbs. Public transit is not one of our strong attributes.
on 1/5/26 7:03 pm
My friend was listening to me whine and suggested a neti pot to rinse out my sinuses. So I got this from Walgreens along with distilled water you mix a salt solution into. https://shop.neilmed.com/products/sinugator-cordless-pulsati ng-nasal-wash-blue
It pulses the water into your sinuses and the washout is horrific and fantastic all at once. I'm a new fan for life. Good for sinus infections too it says. I feel like breathing is an option again!

