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Amazing isn't it Paula, how one can play nice and accommodate and endure when it's aimed at us, but, as you say, watch out when someone messes with someone we love. Suddenly we are fierce and courageous. I think it's okay to apply some of that fierce resolve to our own situations too. Still working at it , after a lifetime of being taught appeasement is the proper response.
Thank you my dear!!! And you're right, I usually try to be "nice" to keep the peace....... but every once in a while, watch out! Especially when it comes to my kids, LGBTQ rights and misinformation surrounding those issues!
5' 4" tall, HW: 242, SW:215.4 Weight Loss - pre-op: - 26.6, M1: -15.4, M2: -16, M3: -11.4, M4: -11.2, M5: -12.2, M6: -7.4, M7: -7.8, M8: -2.0 Goal of 130 lbs. reached at 8 months, 2 days post-op!
DD, good luck this weekend with your parents. I'm still telling everyone I know about your mantra: "I don't have to set myself on fire to keep others warm."
ANN 5'5", AGE 74, HW 235.6 (BMI 39.2), SW 216, GW 150, CW 132, BMI 22
POUNDS LOST: Pre-op -20, M1 -10, M2 -11, M3 -10, M4 -10, M5 -7, M6 -5, M7 -6, M8 -4, M9 -4,
NEXT 10 MOS. -12, TOTAL -100 LBS.
WARNING: YOU ARE APPROACHING A RANT ZONE.
Paula, that bit about people thinking, "Oh, you look great ... you're not going to lose any more weight, are you?" makes me want to *****slap them. My take on this bizarreness is that many people don't seem to want others to change in any way. I think those folks are simply bad at adapting and accommodating others who are actively looking for ways to better themselves--or even just exploring how else they'd like to exist. So when they see someone changing in any way they want to stop that change.
I also wish for you that you had more friends around whom you weren't the odd duck in any way. It's got to be hard being "nice" all the time to make others comfortable.
I'm probably out of line to post this, but you seem like such an incredibly nice person and do so much for others that I'd love for others to accommodate you for a change.
TLDR, to quote a recent political candidate, folks should mind their own damn business!
ANN 5'5", AGE 74, HW 235.6 (BMI 39.2), SW 216, GW 150, CW 132, BMI 22
POUNDS LOST: Pre-op -20, M1 -10, M2 -11, M3 -10, M4 -10, M5 -7, M6 -5, M7 -6, M8 -4, M9 -4,
NEXT 10 MOS. -12, TOTAL -100 LBS.
153.2, same for the 3rd day in a row. I'll take it! People are starting to ask if I'm at goal and are surprised I want to lose 20 more. I guess at this point, I'm thinner than the average almost 60 year old woman.
Yesterday was busy, selling my scrapbook crap off Facebook Marketplace, Bible study and lamenting the election results.
Today was busy but relaxing as well. Selling more of the scrapbook crap, morning Bible study which I led today and 90 minute couples massage with DH (that was the relaxing part). We will continue with the Lincoln Lawyer this evening.
DS3 coming home tomorrow for probably just one night. Talked with DS2 on the phone! He seems to call me once a week and we are good for gabbing at least an hour. All the kids shared my lamenting because I am the odd duck politically among with people we hang with.
5' 4" tall, HW: 242, SW:215.4 Weight Loss - pre-op: - 26.6, M1: -15.4, M2: -16, M3: -11.4, M4: -11.2, M5: -12.2, M6: -7.4, M7: -7.8, M8: -2.0 Goal of 130 lbs. reached at 8 months, 2 days post-op!
We love dueling pianos! So much fun!
5' 4" tall, HW: 242, SW:215.4 Weight Loss - pre-op: - 26.6, M1: -15.4, M2: -16, M3: -11.4, M4: -11.2, M5: -12.2, M6: -7.4, M7: -7.8, M8: -2.0 Goal of 130 lbs. reached at 8 months, 2 days post-op!
The reason it worked so well for me was that I did not feel like I was dieting. I ate what I felt like. I stopped craving some stuff, didn't want to overeat at meals and didn't feel like snacking.
Liz 5'3" HW: 219 SW: 185 GW: 125 LW: 113 Desired maintenance range: 120-125 CW: 119ish
We had a staff meeting this morning. My hope that the election did not stir up kids was dashed. I'm all for differences of opinions on a wide range of topics. But whether somebody has a basic right to exist is not a difference of opinion. I've worked really hard on the concept of we don't have to like everyone or agree with them, but we have to be civil in the classroom setting, and I have a lot of sweet kids this year who understand this concept. So it's pretty peaceful in my room these days, but my heart hurts for kids who heard some hurtful slurs yesterday in different settings.
I was watching way too much news, or so called news, the last few weeks. I am now on a news diet where I only consume the newspaper and local news at 10pm. Because how can I sleep if I don't get the most up to date weather report?
Tonight we are going to our monthly Pub Night at our Art Center. Music will be lovely. Art washes away the dust of everyday life ~ Pablo Picasso. Tomorrow I go to spend the weekend at my parent's house. It will not be a restful or rejuvenating time, but it must be done. I texted my Mom menus for the various meals, and she asked if I could bring ice cream. Happy to oblige. Everyone should have the treat they want from time to time.
In a few more weeks, Thanksgiving will bring my kiddos home for a few days. My Uncle continues to host our extended family. Every year I am grateful that we are gathering yet again. There will be a day when we don't. But not this year, this year the party goes on!
Maybe you are just fine at your current weight? You've been maintaining it for awhile without undue hardship?
Greetings all
Quick check in before I head off for hair cut. It's a great sunny day and not a cloud in the sky. Probably should get outside. Ditto DH.
Ann its so wonderful that a nice and appreciative family will have your home. Warm feeling. I know I mentioned that a nice family bought my childhood home after my mother died and they fixed it up beautifully after it was in a bad state. It was nice to see new life for the place. You can think of that little boy with the fuzzy throw. All good.
Did some adult stuff today - bank deposit and follow up on leasing. More chores needed. May or may not get to gym. I play mind games with myself and tell myself Ok go and only do five minutes. Of course I always do more.
Liz that golf group sounds like the ticket. Not too serious. Fun.
Kudos to all of you using the new meds. You are all doing so well. I think I can't get myself there because I just don't want to dive back into the dreary world of dieting and deprivation or so I tell myself. Need to recognize that its not a punishment but its for my own good. Baby steps.
So Saturday night we are going to a show at a nearby casino which is dueling pianos. Not sure what to expect. It makes for kind of a late night for this old crone but it will be good for DH to get out. This is our older friend who is tech challenged. When he called at 8;30 am the other day he was driving to the casino. At 8:30 am???!! Is this a good idea?
Not much else. Hamburgers tonight. Diane S
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