Inferility........

Infertility Hurts..............

Hello PCOS lady........ Infertility.. what a topic huh?

Many Infertility Questions:

Have you got pregnant/before/or after surgery?
Did you use any fertility medication to get pregnant?
If pregnant-or- was pregnant how were your moods?
How did/or/do you feel that it took so long to have a child? or/may not be able to have a child?
Do you blame yourself?
Does it feel like your the only one who couldn't have kids/or/can't have kids?

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LADY'S WHO HAVE GOTTEN PREGNANT FEEL FREE TO SHARE THE GREAT NEWS WITH US, AND SHARE YOUR JOURNEY AND EXPERIENCE..
LADY'S, WHO ARE ON THE ROAD FOR PREGNANCY..ALSO PLEASE FEEL FREE TO SHARE YOUR JOURNEY AND EXPERIENCE ALSO!!



Have you got pregnant/before/or after surgery? NO PREGNANCY
Did you use any fertility medication to get pregnant? i am seeing a fertility doctor
If pregnant-or- was pregnant how were your moods? my moods are all over the place
How did/or/do you feel that it took so long to have a child? or/may not be able to have a child?
Do you blame yourself? i blame myself all the time, i feel broken
Does it feel like your the only one who couldn't have kids/or/can't have kids? ALL MY FAMILY AND FRIENDS HAVE KIDS........................sadly i feel like i'm the only one who dose not have a child.........

MY ROAD HAD BEEN A LONG ROCKY AND EMOTIONAL ONE... I'V BEEN WITH MY HUSBAND 10 YEARS..BEEN MARRIED 6 1/2 YEARS....WE WANT A CHILD SO BAD.. WE TRYED AND TRYED AND TRYED FOR 3 LONG YEARS...ALL WE GOT WAS BIG FAT NEGATIVES...WE SEEN A FERTILY DOCTOR IN 2009, DID PROVER AND CLOMID ABOUT 4 ROUNDS OF IT AND NOTHING BESIDES NEGATIVE...SHE WAS THE ONE WHO MENTION GASTRIC BYPASS MIGHT HELP WITH MY INFERTILITY.. SO I WENT ON THE ROAD TO GET GASTRIC BYPASS.. ONE OF THE BEST THINGS I'V EVER HAD DONE.. LIFE IS SO MUCH BETTER.........SO OVER A YEAR OUT...AND TTC AGAIN............. WE TALKED TO DR.STEWART, OUR FERTILITY DOCTOR..AND I HAVE NOT HAD A PERIOD IN OVER 5 MONTHS... SO SHE HAS STARTED ME ON PROVERA AND I GOT BACK MARCH 1ST FOR A VAGINAL ULTRASOUND TO MAKE SURE MY BODY IS DOING WHAT IT IS SUPPOSE TO BE DOING..THEN SHE IS GOING TO START ME ON CLOMID.. I'M READY TO BE A MOMMA.....I HOPE THIS HELPS AND WORK......

I was lucky enough to get pregnant after having surgery to remove a cyst and ovary.  I have a three year old daughter.  Since then I have tried Met and Clomid without success.  I am waiting to try to conceive until after VSG this summer.  I'd like to suggest to you and anyone in this same situation a really great group of girls.  I am not trying to take away from this board but I have part of this other board for years, they're very friendly and have a lot of information to share!

www.justmommies.com/forums/f149-trying-to-conceive-pcos/

Have you got pregnant/before/or after surgery? Not before...hoping after
Did you use any fertility medication to get pregnant?No I decided to try surgery so I would not have to have a baby using lots of drugs
If pregnant-or- was pregnant how were your moods? n/a
How did/or/do you feel that it took so long to have a child? or/may not be able to have a child? It is very hard to even hold babies.  Makes me very sad.
Do you blame yourself? No I know it's genetic
Does it feel like your the only one who couldn't have kids/or/can't have kids? somedays

I had DS surgery in November.  I chose this surgery after reading multiple success stories.  That is, many women who had PCOS and DS surgery and the symptoms disappeared and they had babies (often before was recommended because they were too fertile).  It's been three months.  I've lost almost 80lbs.  My periods are normal.  I'm off the Metformin and the Spironolactin.  Still getting hair in places I don't want it, having break outs and feeling like a teen going through puberty again.  BUT if I can get pregnant without drugs I'll take it.

Have you got pregnant/before/or after surgery? Got pregnant once before surgery but had a miscarriage
Did you use any fertility medication to get pregnant? Yes, I have done clomid, injectables with IUI, IVM, and got pregnant with IVF.
If pregnant-or- was pregnant how were your moods? wasn't pregnant for long but only thing I remember was being exhausted
How did/or/do you feel that it took so long to have a child? or/may not be able to have a child?
I am terrified that I won't be able to, I've always dreamed of being a mother. I wish that I could go for a time without thinking about it but I can't. Every day I think about it, and think about the baby I lost.
Do you blame yourself? Of course, what if i wasn't so fat, am I a bad person? what could I have done differently?
Does it feel like your the only one who couldn't have kids/or/can't have kids?
very much so. right now everyone I now is either pregnant or has kids already. the one that bothers me the most is my younger idiot cousin who is now knocked up with twins. my 2 sister inlaws have both had oops babies after knowing my brother in laws only for a few months. they weren't my sister in laws at the time, one was a shot gun wedding. I hate what infertility has done to me. I can't stand seeing babies, or seeing baby things. Infertility has made me so incredibly bitter and I wish I wasn't that way and I try not to be but sometimes it just gets the better of me

Have you got pregnant/before/or after surgery? YES
Did you use any fertility medication to get pregnant? No
If pregnant-or- was pregnant how were your moods? Up and down...i'm sure about the same as any pregnant woman  :) 
How did/or/do you feel that it took so long to have a child? or/may not be able to have a child? It was frustrating....seemed like this day would never be here
Do you blame yourself? Everyday
Does it feel like your the only one who couldn't have kids/or/can't have kids? yeah  i always felt like I was alone in the battle to get pregnant. 


I was told I would probably never get pregnant since I was 16 but was never diagnosed with pcos until I was about 26.  The dr put me on metformin to bring down my insulin resistance but it didn't help.  She was going to put me on clomid but due to the metformin not working she decided against it. I then did my research about gastric bypass and decided i would try it in order to get pregnant!  Thank God it worked!!!  I had my gastric bypass on 10/7/2010.  i found out I was pregnant on 4/1/2011 what a birthday present!  I am now 9 weeks and 4 days.  God has truly blessed me beyond measure.  It's been a bumpy ride but luckily everything has turned out good so far.  Good Luck to everyone and never give up hope!

Sorry I've not been around lately...been way busier on FB...that and since I'm an 'old timer' so to speak (7 yrs post op) I don't come around too often...sorry.  Anyway to answer your questions.

Have you got pregnant/before/or after surgery?  Never pregnant before, went through 8 yrs of failed fertility treatments prior to surgery.  I was able to get pregnant twice after surgery very easily...both times the 1st month trying.
Did you use any fertility medication to get pregnant?  Nope...just charted my temps to pinpoint ovulation.
If pregnant-or- was pregnant how were your moods?  both times I was elated...soooo happy. I was in disbelief at first with my first baby...so easy post op!
How did/or/do you feel that it took so long to have a child? or/may not be able to have a child?  I have to admit that after trying to get pregnant for 10 years without luck that I had about given up on ever being a mom.  I do have to admit though that with everything I've been through that I think it makes me cherish my children more...I don't take anything they do for granted ya know?
Do you blame yourself?  No, because while going through all the testing we found that we also had a male factor...minor...but a factor.  I did carry most of the blame though.  No baby if there are no eggs being kicked out ya know?
Does it feel like your the only one who couldn't have kids/or/can't have kids?
  In my circle...definitely.  I'm the only one who struggled with infertility.  All of my friends/cousins/SIL got pregnant 'accidently'...no one tried to get pregnant...it just happened when they weren't really ready.  I felt like a failure more and more with each "I'm pregnant" announcement.  Especially when my BIL got married spur of the moment to my SIL who I'd only met once before and within 2-3 months after the wedding announced that they were pregnant with the 1st grandchild.  That was MY job...I'd been in the family for WAY longer than her and I held a LOT of jealousy.  Of course...I'm over it now...but at the time...well...ya know how that goes.

Have you got pregnant/before/or after surgery? Before- yes, 3 times, all miscarriages, all before the age of 19.

Did you use any fertility medication to get pregnant? Nope

If pregnant-or- was pregnant how were your moods? NA

How did/or/do you feel that it took so long to have a child? or/may not be able to have a child?

I go through phases. I used to not care, then I was depressed and felt very unwomanly and like no man would want to be with me, then I went through a phase of denial, then I forced myself to not want kids so that I wouldn't be upset. I am kind of numb to it now but I hope that I can become fertile after I lose weight. Sometimes I picture myself with a wonderful husband and with a big pregnant belly but I pu**** out of my head quickly because I just don't see it as realistic.

Do you blame yourself?

Absolutely. If I didn't let myself get this size, I wouldn't have this problem, at least not to this extreme.

Does it feel like your the only one who couldn't have kids/or/can't have kids?

YES! I work at a high school and all of these CHILDREN are having babies without even trying and a lot of the times they don't even want the babies and don't have the means to care for them and here I am with a body that doesn't even function. People always ask me when I'm going to have kids and I have to pretend that I don't want them because I don't know what else to say.

Many Infertility Questions:

Have you got pregnant/before/or after surgery? No pregnancy ever :-(  (I am still pre op though)

Did you use any fertility medication to get pregnant? No... did all the testing and found out that DH has a problem too... very low mobility/motility and super low count. Our only options are IVF/ICSI (about $15,000 a time... no insurance coverage) or trying a sperm donor (DH wasn't interested at first)... at my weight I decided not to pu**** that was 6+ years ago. We decided to do foster care and hope to someday adopt while and keep our other options open (I was only 23 at the time).

If pregnant-or- was pregnant how were your moods? N/A

How did/or/do you feel that it took so long to have a child? or/may not be able to have a child? I thank God everyday fo our daughter... she came to us as a foster child when she was 2 days old. We were finally able to adopt her after an unbelievably messy/scary/hard case 10 days shy of her 3rd birthday.  She is amazing and I couldn't love her any more.  I still want more kids, and I haven't ruled out pregnancy... it would be so great to have a baby you get to keep for sure, plus I'd love to have the whole experience, but I am okay knowing it may not happen.  I know that there are other ways to have a family that are equally wonderful :-)  

Do you blame yourself? In some ways, but I have come to the place where I really do believe things happen for a reason...

Does it feel like your the only one who couldn't have kids/or/can't have kids? Yes and no... I mean, I KOW i'm not alone and I spent a lot of time on support boards... I knew since I was 19 that there would be problems, so I had time to come to terms with it.  In the time that we were trying to have a child any way we could my sister had 2 and was pregnant with her 3rd... she was very supportive though... but it was still hard :-(