This weeks Topic....Compliments.......

Hello Everyone..............Wow can you belive is Auguest all ready..where has time gone???


This weeks topic- Why do we have such a hard time acepting compliments??

I went out this weekend to a town dance...and there were tons of people i have not seen since surgery  i got many many many compliments... however...i'm not use to them...makes me fell kinda strange.....i dunno.......anyone else have an imput or ideas?!

I think we as a society have become critical of ourselves.  Parents especially seem to role-model being critical.  It is so much easier to look at ourselves and think about the things we need to fix.  I tell the girls I work with all the time that they should think of at least one positive thing about themselves everyday.  I think another thing is the worry that you will start to sound vain if you are spending a lot of time being positive about yourself and your appearance.

I agree with the above poster...but also being 'fat' for so long, we're used to being invisible, but as thinner people we're less invisible and it a big adjustment and takes a while for us to become comfortable with compliments. It takes a while but you'll get used to them.

I know that even for me at 6 yrs post op I still have a hard time accepting compliments...