Personal Matter?

I just found out tonight that my husband has told everyone about my surgery. His father called tonight and was casual about the whole thing. I did not want too many people to know, and honestly I wanted to tell them myself, when I was ready. He just blurted it out there and acted liek this surgery is no big deal. Then later tonight, one of his soldiers( husband is in the army) told me to take care of myself after the surgery. I told him I would and then he proceeded to tell me that i would need alot of pain meds for the type of surgery. So right there tells me my husband told him. I asked my husband if he has been telling people what surgery I am having and he responded with a yes.

Now dont get me wrong, I love that Im doing this, but shouldnt it be my decision on who I want to know and when I want to tell people!? Am I taking this to extreme? Anyways I just needed to vent because he did kind of hurt me, and my husband doesnt understand why its such a big deal! 
UGHH men sometimes...

Anyways Goodnight!

  I think everyone looks at it differently. I dont care personally who knows. Thats just me though. Im prod that I was am and did do something to help me be a healthier happier me. BUT, hehehe I do see where you want your personal private stuff just that, private! Its sad your hubby decided to tell everyone and didnt give you the chance to do it. Im sorry for you! And sometimes, I think people dont realize how private something like this can be! I have friends who have had wls and dont tell anyone, ever! SO I understand!

Oh yea that kind of sucks.  my mom has been doing the same thing... but not my husband.  And I really don't care about my mom's friends knowing, but they are a little removed from me you know what I mean?  I'm glad my husband is sensitive enough to know this is for me to tell.

I think wls is much bigger to the person going through it than anyone else. My family and friends are all very casual about it. And that actually makes me feel more comfortable. But I don't think they would understand if I was more private about it. Because other people don't get it - they can't get it. Perhaps your husband is looking for support from others? I know it can be a life altering change for spouses too.

I have taken a very open approach to my surgery and am glad I have. Perhaps this is a blessing in disguise? But I do see why it upset you.