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Topic: RE: Weight gain and loss
Hi Paul!
OK, now that I jumped into the middle of your thread with a 'me me me" post-I would like to say that your post gives me Loads of hope!
And I agree-the tool is still there. YES-we are human and we are very likely to dabble in the food. The surgery didn't erase all from our brains. We may gravitate towards familiar places and behaviors.
I know I have done it myself. What is amazing-is the moment I clean it up-WOW-I start to shed those extra fluffy pounds! It's not about whether or not we will stray or even gain some weight. It's about what we DO about it.
Either I can slide into the "Oh-I broke it. I did it wrong..might as well keep on the fail trail"-or "Oh-right..I see the scale inching up-time for action".
YOU win! And congrats!
Peace,
T
OK, now that I jumped into the middle of your thread with a 'me me me" post-I would like to say that your post gives me Loads of hope!
And I agree-the tool is still there. YES-we are human and we are very likely to dabble in the food. The surgery didn't erase all from our brains. We may gravitate towards familiar places and behaviors.
I know I have done it myself. What is amazing-is the moment I clean it up-WOW-I start to shed those extra fluffy pounds! It's not about whether or not we will stray or even gain some weight. It's about what we DO about it.
Either I can slide into the "Oh-I broke it. I did it wrong..might as well keep on the fail trail"-or "Oh-right..I see the scale inching up-time for action".
YOU win! And congrats!
Peace,
T
Topic: Some pics and sharing
Hi all,
I just posted on Paul's thread, but I thought I better post a thread here.
In Paul's thread-I apologized for being missing in action. I have been in isolation mode for a very long time now. I guess I have been despairing that even after weight loss surgery-I still find it difficult to get "out there" in the world.
I can go to work and I can hold global conference calls. I can get up on a theatre stage and do a monologue.
I can do those things. What I find ever so difficult is to be "just me" around "real folks". I am now 46 and I am getting more and more aware that life may very well be shorter on this second half than the first half.
I don't know exactly HOW to change-but I do know change is possible. I suspect this is all about the same type of "walking off a cliff in faith" as I did when I had this surgery.
I wanted to ask you to not give up on me. You have all shared so much of yourself and your experiences and I don't want to lose you to the big world wide web.
My goal for now is to post each and everyday here. Sure-my life isn't very exciting! LOL!-but I am still going to come here and talk about life, weight loss surgery and hope.
I got to go see my grandbaby in August in Alaska. Here are some pictures to share!!!
Love, peace and hope,
T
Grand daughter Bernie!
Grandma, Bernie and Alyson-my gorgeous daughter-in-law
I just posted on Paul's thread, but I thought I better post a thread here.
In Paul's thread-I apologized for being missing in action. I have been in isolation mode for a very long time now. I guess I have been despairing that even after weight loss surgery-I still find it difficult to get "out there" in the world.
I can go to work and I can hold global conference calls. I can get up on a theatre stage and do a monologue.
I can do those things. What I find ever so difficult is to be "just me" around "real folks". I am now 46 and I am getting more and more aware that life may very well be shorter on this second half than the first half.
I don't know exactly HOW to change-but I do know change is possible. I suspect this is all about the same type of "walking off a cliff in faith" as I did when I had this surgery.
I wanted to ask you to not give up on me. You have all shared so much of yourself and your experiences and I don't want to lose you to the big world wide web.
My goal for now is to post each and everyday here. Sure-my life isn't very exciting! LOL!-but I am still going to come here and talk about life, weight loss surgery and hope.
I got to go see my grandbaby in August in Alaska. Here are some pictures to share!!!
Love, peace and hope,
T
Grand daughter Bernie!
Grandma, Bernie and Alyson-my gorgeous daughter-in-law
Topic: RE: Weight gain and loss
Here I am!
Hi all!
First-I have to apologize for my absence. I need to be honest. Just as before my weight loss surgery-I isolate. I find it incredibly hard to socialize and reach out. It seems I have slipped back deeply into the isolation.
I came here this morning with this thought in mind "If I do what I always did, I will get what I always got".
I suppose I can come across as someone who is really social and outgoing. I guess maybe I am an introverted extrovert.
Kate. You are the ONLY person since I have lived in the UK that I have met. I have not even made any friends in my town. I am really embarrassed to share all this, but something tells me I can trust you all and be open.
I have spent my life hiding. I actually have a therapist that I have been seeing since I got to the UK. She is still working on me getting my backside OUT THERE and meeting people.
I came back here also-because I know how hard you all have fought to change your lives and I still believe there is HOPE.
You are the ONLY folks I have shared this with and I am grateful you have not disappeared.
I still cannot answer why it is so hard for me to reach out to people, or to make friends. I suppose there must be some old historical dusty record playing in my head somewhere. LOL!
Please don't give up on me or our UK board.
I am here and my desire to make a very small start and get here each day for a post. It doesn't sound like much-but maybe it's a first step in coming back out of this shell.
Paul, Kate, Binty--all of you-I have SO much respect for you and how far you have come. We will all end up in some dark days, but those are temporary.
Hugs and thanks to you all!!
Love, peace and gratitude,
T
Hi all!
First-I have to apologize for my absence. I need to be honest. Just as before my weight loss surgery-I isolate. I find it incredibly hard to socialize and reach out. It seems I have slipped back deeply into the isolation.
I came here this morning with this thought in mind "If I do what I always did, I will get what I always got".
I suppose I can come across as someone who is really social and outgoing. I guess maybe I am an introverted extrovert.
Kate. You are the ONLY person since I have lived in the UK that I have met. I have not even made any friends in my town. I am really embarrassed to share all this, but something tells me I can trust you all and be open.
I have spent my life hiding. I actually have a therapist that I have been seeing since I got to the UK. She is still working on me getting my backside OUT THERE and meeting people.
I came back here also-because I know how hard you all have fought to change your lives and I still believe there is HOPE.
You are the ONLY folks I have shared this with and I am grateful you have not disappeared.
I still cannot answer why it is so hard for me to reach out to people, or to make friends. I suppose there must be some old historical dusty record playing in my head somewhere. LOL!
Please don't give up on me or our UK board.
I am here and my desire to make a very small start and get here each day for a post. It doesn't sound like much-but maybe it's a first step in coming back out of this shell.
Paul, Kate, Binty--all of you-I have SO much respect for you and how far you have come. We will all end up in some dark days, but those are temporary.
Hugs and thanks to you all!!
Love, peace and gratitude,
T
Topic: RE: Weight gain and loss
Heeeeelllllooooooo. Just like my former self, I am a little bit vanished but still around lol!
I guess I have little to say these days, and don't feel the need for support very much so I haven't made much effort to come on the boards - I used to regularly have a little look around, but so frequently found nothing on the uk board that I kinda gave up a little. I also do most of my surfing on my phone now, and the os site is a little large for it to handle - and I don't seem to get a look in on any of the many laptops my house has to offer (blooming kids) .
I do miss you guys though, glad to see you are both doing well. I'm good, I've been faffing around for the last 6 months and not really lost the last little bit of weight - the problem is that coming from where I have, has made me kinda happy with my size and weight now. I do want to lose the final stone, just to see if I can, and what it would be like, but the drive just isn't that strong. I wear mostly a dress size 14 and some 12s and currently weigh 11st 7lbs, I am a zumba instructor for for between 4-7 classes a week and run a couple of miles a couple of times a week, so I'm nice and fit these days too and fairly toned to boot.
Gosh that all sounds like a bragathon, I guess 1 1/2 years down the line and I swing from it seeming really surreal, to feeling as if its always been this way.
I do love my rny, but if I want to lose weight all the will power has to come from me. And unfortunately I can put on weight really easily too - I get very little dumping symptons so eating badly is just as likely as it ever was. Still I haven't ever put on more than 4-5 lbs though, so no major complaints.
Oh and by the way .......... my surgery is better than yours LMAO :-D
I guess I have little to say these days, and don't feel the need for support very much so I haven't made much effort to come on the boards - I used to regularly have a little look around, but so frequently found nothing on the uk board that I kinda gave up a little. I also do most of my surfing on my phone now, and the os site is a little large for it to handle - and I don't seem to get a look in on any of the many laptops my house has to offer (blooming kids) .
I do miss you guys though, glad to see you are both doing well. I'm good, I've been faffing around for the last 6 months and not really lost the last little bit of weight - the problem is that coming from where I have, has made me kinda happy with my size and weight now. I do want to lose the final stone, just to see if I can, and what it would be like, but the drive just isn't that strong. I wear mostly a dress size 14 and some 12s and currently weigh 11st 7lbs, I am a zumba instructor for for between 4-7 classes a week and run a couple of miles a couple of times a week, so I'm nice and fit these days too and fairly toned to boot.
Gosh that all sounds like a bragathon, I guess 1 1/2 years down the line and I swing from it seeming really surreal, to feeling as if its always been this way.
I do love my rny, but if I want to lose weight all the will power has to come from me. And unfortunately I can put on weight really easily too - I get very little dumping symptons so eating badly is just as likely as it ever was. Still I haven't ever put on more than 4-5 lbs though, so no major complaints.
Oh and by the way .......... my surgery is better than yours LMAO :-D
Topic: RE: Weight gain and loss
I'm not sure why i use boards. Like you, i no longrr feel the need for support. I thi k it is just that I like being around people who understand.
Its a shame MissRedd and Binty vanished. I have met them both and they are lovely people. I hope they are just out their living their lives and feeling slim!
Kate
Its a shame MissRedd and Binty vanished. I have met them both and they are lovely people. I hope they are just out their living their lives and feeling slim!
Kate
Highest 290, Banded - 248 Lowest 139 (too thin!). Comfort zone 155-165.
Happily banded since May 2006. Regain of 28lbs 2013-14. ALL GONE!
But some has returned! Up to 175, argh! Off we go again,
Topic: RE: Weight gain and loss
Thank you Kate. I think I'm probably coming to the end of my need for these support groups, but I will have a look at the address that you gave me. I think I'll give this site until Christmas.... Whatever happened to Binty and Miss Redd?
Topic: RE: Weight gain and loss
Paul, i have just come across what seems like a really good board. The link is for the band but there are boards for all wls types.
www.ukgastricband.co.uk
www.ukgastricband.co.uk
Highest 290, Banded - 248 Lowest 139 (too thin!). Comfort zone 155-165.
Happily banded since May 2006. Regain of 28lbs 2013-14. ALL GONE!
But some has returned! Up to 175, argh! Off we go again,
Topic: RE: Weight gain and loss
I'll keep looking in. It seemed so good Shen it first starte. Might coe back.
Actually I have just joinrd what seems a good UK based board.
Kate
Actually I have just joinrd what seems a good UK based board.
Kate
Highest 290, Banded - 248 Lowest 139 (too thin!). Comfort zone 155-165.
Happily banded since May 2006. Regain of 28lbs 2013-14. ALL GONE!
But some has returned! Up to 175, argh! Off we go again,
Topic: RE: Weight gain and loss
Glad to know that you too believe in a comfort zone.
How long do we try to keep some life in this site? I'm willing to go on a bit longer, how about you? Paul
How long do we try to keep some life in this site? I'm willing to go on a bit longer, how about you? Paul
Topic: RE: Weight gain and loss
Good to know the tool is still there!
I need to drop about 10bs. Don't have to as such as I am still in my size 12 clothes but I feel better just a few pounds less. Also I am not comfortable having no leeway! I need the confidence that comes with knowing I am at the bottom end of my comfort one, not near the top.
Kate
I need to drop about 10bs. Don't have to as such as I am still in my size 12 clothes but I feel better just a few pounds less. Also I am not comfortable having no leeway! I need the confidence that comes with knowing I am at the bottom end of my comfort one, not near the top.
Kate
Highest 290, Banded - 248 Lowest 139 (too thin!). Comfort zone 155-165.
Happily banded since May 2006. Regain of 28lbs 2013-14. ALL GONE!
But some has returned! Up to 175, argh! Off we go again,
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