Ok, ok. I need to explain and get on with the show again!!

Hello all,

 

First, let me start with an apology for being so absent for so long from the boards. I have been having some life drama. I guess we all get to go through it at one time or another! I am a newlywed with a new body and living in a new country. As if that wasn’t enough-my husband’s ex-wife is VERY difficult.

I am sure many of you have been in a similar situation (possibly?).  Hubby has two lovely children 12 and 9. The ex wife is VERY unstable and even though she ended the relationship several years ago-she is NOT happy that hubby is getting on with his life-and she is very threatened at the thought of me as step-mum, even though I have got to be one of the least threatening folks you will ever meet!
 

I am afraid I have had to endure some trauma from a person who is causing trouble I am not accustomed to dealing with. 

It has been hard, but we have lots of support and we just try and focus on the kids and how best to help them along.

This has taken up much time, emotion and effort. I am afraid I have forgotten about taking good care of me.

I know-I have now shared some really personal stuff-but that is life and it is part of my journey. This is a place where I want all of us to be able to talk about life as it is and also as we hope it to be.

I also wanted to explain that there have been reasons for me not really being “present".

So-now with that all out of the way, it’s time for me to step back into MY life and remember that I have GOT to take care of my mind, body and spirit-even during the tough times. I just wanted to commit to being sure to participate in this wonderful group we have here.

I have managed to maintain my weight-with the 5-10 lb shifts up and down. I would really prefer to keep that at a 5 lb shift-so I am refocusing on being healthy and taking CARE of myself!

It's funny-but I do think stress has a way of causing us to be sort of toxic. I just had been feeling so run-down and tired. I know that is because I am not taking care of my mind and getting the support I need from others that understand.

OH is the best place I know for support and understanding. And this UK /Ireland site was built in hopes that we could get a wonderful group together and talking and being healthy!!

I see we have had some folks participating and I want to THANK You for being consistent and not giving up on our board. It means lots to me and I know it will have meant lots to others who are finding their way here.

So-back to my water intake where it should be. Back to getting some WALKING in. I am such a stress-case and I tend to over work (work from home at a computer) as a diversion. Not healthy!! :)

I wish some of you were CLOSE enough to be my walking buddy!! I lived here over a year now and haven't really met any close mates yet. I know it takes time-and I will keep working on that. It would HELP if I left the house occasionally! LOL! :)

Thanks for listening-I just wanted to update a bit.

Cheers and hugs,
T

  (((  T )))). It would be great to be your walking buddy! Shame about the distance between us!

So sorry about your problems. You and DH both seemed very laidback people when i met you  but it must be very stressful for you both.

Kate

Kate, thanks so much! I agree, it's a shame we are too far for walking buddies!!

You know-this is such a stressful time, but I think hubby and I are learning that we have got to find ways to roll with some of these tough things and STILL take care of "us". We are going to try and have a peaceful and nice weekend. Hopefully the weather will be nice enough for us to go for a walk and maybe take some nice pics.

Hope all is well for you!!??

Hugs,
T

So nice to see some movement on here, I'd kind of stopped looking and was a bit disappointed.  The UK market is so different from US, it'll be nice to have you guys around.  (and I might stop picking up all the American terms that I never used to use lol)

LOL! Thanks for the note Amy!

It is VERY different from UK to US. I moved here a year ago and am learning quickly. I have taken lots of notes and just sort of fumble my way through.

I DO love that we have each other here-because it is indeed-"hush hush" in many places about having such a surgery!!

Thanks for being here!!!
Therese