be my friend?

 hi
this is the 2nd time i have visited this group and posted in here.
i hope everyone is coping ok in your daily activities?
ive managed to get my weight down to 15 stone...it took me nearly 12 months to do it...naturally it goes up again each day when i eat too much and then i feel a bit downhearted but i just cut back on what i eat and then it goes down again.

apart from sucess in losing weight, i'm failing when it comes to making friends.
and the lonliness i'm feeling  is getting unbearable...i did have a girlfriend but we broke up in august and at the moment my self esteem and confidence is low i dont think i could face socialising at the moment.
and because i suffer from anxiety and am quite shy, i stay at home alot and obviously i feel depressed and bored.
even if i just had someone to go for walks with that would make a difference.
i dont know what to do with myself?
i'm not working at the moment because of my bad nerves, so i have so much time on my hands.
ive taken to going out for long walks in the evening for exercise and to tire myself out so i can sleep at night..but like last night i find myself waking up at 4 in the morning and can't get back to sleep.
i so want to get over this feeling of lonliness and depression and feel happy but its not happening at present.
i really would appreciate a genuine offer of friendship from someone.
thanks for reading.   
 

Trevor!

Yay! I am so glad to see you back with us. I think you have loads to add round here and I look forward to your posts.

Being lonely is brutal. It really is. I understand what that feels like, as I spent MANY years in isolation. I still have to work on that tendency, actually.

It's VERY hard for me to meet people. I may seem outgoing-but I am VERY shy in many ways.

Sounds like you and I both need to figure out how we are going to add in a bit of "social" into our schedules.

So-here are a few ideas I have been thinking about for me-add your's if you have some ideas too:

1.Going to the museum and having a look around. Now I KNOW this isn't a very social thing-but at the same time-you are around others without having to really step OUT. It's a good first step.

2. Going to a church service. This can be ANY type of church or any other group where anyone can attend and sit in. You don't have to have any sort of religion or even BELIEVE in anything. The idea is to allow yourself to sit with other folks and just "BE". Just notice what you have in common. It's a lovely thing to be around folks who are just trying to do the right thing. This could also include any group that meets weekly or monthy to help the community in any way.

3. Do soe work with kids. Hey-kids are NON judgemental and almost ALWAYS need someone who has some time for them. If you are feeling crap about yourself-kids can help. THey live in the moment and they see the world in new eyes. You have time on your hands-it's an idea.

Also-do not try and do a BUNCH of stuff at once. One step at a time. Remember-it's your intent that counts. We all have to start somewhere.

So-do you have ideas you can add? I am not kidding when I tell you that my therapist will be awaiting my visit in two weeks to tell her WHAT I have done that is not in my house! LOL!

Glad to see you

Peace,
T