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Goody
on 1/16/09 12:43 am - NC
Topic: RE: Why are you doing this?
Hi Barbara!

I had this surgery because I felt that there are worse things in life than death.  When your quality of life would never be better then it was at that moment and all you had to look forward to was a decline than surgery with any of its complications looks better than not having the surgery.

I continue to work my tool because:

I never want to physically or mentally hurt the way it did "before"

I want to continue to wake up in the morning and look forward to the day ahead

I want to continue becoming healthier and stronger

I love finding new adventures I enjoy that I could not even comprehend doing "before"

Although I still suffer from depression, the bad days are far and fewer in between

I can now fit in an airplane seat and have extra room, not take extra room from someone else

I no longer avoid chairs with arms

I enjoy or am not bothered by stairs or inclines

I like feeling more "normal" then "before".
kathleenann
on 1/16/09 12:07 am - Potsdam, NY
Topic: RE: Why are you doing this?
I am doing this because:

I want to feel better both physically and mentally.

I want to become more active.

I want to regain confidence.

I had to choose - do I want to continue hurting myself? or do I want to start taking care of myself?  I choose taking care of myself.

The way I'm living life right now does not reflect 'me' - who I am.  I'm in here somewhere.  I'm looking forward to rediscovering myself.

 - Kathleen


Barbara C.
on 1/15/09 11:20 pm - Raleigh, NC
Topic: RE: Why are you doing this?

Like you I have my before version of my debit card. I actually had another picture taken because too many people didn't want to accept the card anymore. I have both now, the before photo and the thinner one that was taken last fall ... I guess that one is an 'in progress' photo, but looks enough like me now that people don't hesitate.

I too do it because it reminds me of this incredible journey and as you say it feeling so much better that is the real reward to this journey.

As always, thanks for your input.

Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145

Jennifer P.
on 1/15/09 10:52 pm - Monroe, NC
Topic: RE: Why are you doing this?

I still carry around my debit card with my "fat picture" on it.  I went to the Credit Union and had my picture retaken, but I wanted to leave the fat picture on there to remind me of where I came from and where I do not want to go back to.  I also look at those pictures often.  I have had people in stores not want to take my card because it looks so different, but it is my reminder.  AND until it expires in 2010 I will continue to carry it.  LOL 

 

Of course it do it to remind me of the tremendous journey I have taken.  Looking good is not the ultimate reward of WLS.  Feeling better, being healthier and living a higher quality life are my rewards!  

324/180/149 -  31 pounds below goal!!!
Start/Goal/Current


Barbara C.
on 1/15/09 10:32 pm - Raleigh, NC
Topic: Why are you doing this?

I have a very long list of reasons that I did this, but I have a short list that I keep in my wallet, on the back of a 'fat photo' and on post-its on my mirror, in my car and in my kitchen.

I look at that list everyday and affirm to myself why I'm doing what I'm doing. If I am going to make a choice that is questionable, I review the list and ask myself if temporary pleasure is with the risk.

I'll share my list of why I'm doing this, please share your list of reasons you are doing this.

I am doing this because:

I want to live longer and healthier.

I want to provide a good, healthy example for my daughter.

I want to feel beautiful

I love feeling so much stronger and younger

I don't hurt all the time anymore.

I can fit anywhere and into anything; clothes, airline seats, booths.

 

Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145

kellieb71
on 1/8/09 2:22 am, edited 1/8/09 2:22 am - Raleigh, NC
Topic: RE: Introductions
Hi,

My name is Kellie, and I live in Raleigh NC with my husband, our 2 canine fur kids, and 5 feline fur kids.  (Yes, it's a full house, but we love it that way!)  I had my RNY on 12/8/08 with Dr. Paul Enochs at Rex Hospital, and it's the best thing that I've ever done for myself.  

I was a skinny child, until about the age of 12.  Then, I started putting on weight, and steadily increasing until I hit my all time high of 360.  (The day before my surgery).  I will never see that number again, and I am very glad of it.  I made the decision to have WLS when I had seen a picture of myself taken at a work conference, and didn't recognize myself in the photo.  That, combined with the fact that I am a Type 2 Diabetic (although hopefully not for much longer) had high blood pressure that was hard to manage, and have been diagnosed with PCOS, made the decision that much more important.  

I've been on diets for what seems like an eternity.  SlimFast, Weigh****chers, Atkins, South Beach, just not eating, exercising, etc - it would work for a week or so, and then I'd fall victim to the siren call of the french fry, and it anything I lost would come back, bring friends, and staple itself to my butt.  I thought at first that the LAP band would be optimal for me - just restricting what amount of food I ate, but after a discussion with a LAP band patient, I decided that it wouldn't do it.  I needed to have something in my life that would not 'let' me cheat.  (Yes, I know that even RNY patients can push the boundaries of their tool...but I would much rather not be able to drink a milk shake because I 'dump' - no matter how much I want one.)  After discussing matters with Dr. Enochs, we decided that the RNY would be the best way for me to go.  

So, here I am - 30 days out from my surgery, just getting ready to go back to work, and loving my life.  My blood sugars are lower than they have been in years, as is my blood pressure.  I'm losing weight, and I am never hungry.  I know that last part may change, but for now, I'm just tickled that this is how my life has worked out :) 

I look forward to getting to know everyone here.

Kellie
  Day by Day.
        
Barbara C.
on 1/7/09 7:57 am - Raleigh, NC
Topic: RE: Introductions

Hi Kelly,

It's good to meet and thanks for the geographical reference... I'm a transplant from CA and still trying to get my bearings.

I understand the frustrations with insurance exclusions and wish you all the best as you work to find a way to make it happen. If you haven't accessed the insurance forum, it might be worth checking there to see if anyone has experience or advice that might be helpful.

I look forward to meeing you sometime.

All the best,

Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145

Barbara C.
on 1/7/09 7:54 am - Raleigh, NC
Topic: RE: Introductions

Jennifer,

You rock my friend!

Wishing you continued success,

Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145

Barbara C.
on 1/7/09 7:53 am - Raleigh, NC
Topic: RE: Introductions

Hi Vera,

You have made incredible progress this past year and I'm delighted to hear that you are not having any problems or issues. I understand the frustration with the stall, but I'm sure as you buckle down after the holidays you will continue lose as 2009 progresses.

Thanks for taking the time to share your history and experiences...

Hugs,

Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145

kellysue70
on 1/7/09 12:31 am
RNY on 07/09/12
Topic: RE: Introductions
Hi Barbara!  My name is Kelly and I live in Timberlake, NC (That's north of Durham).  I have began my journey to hopefully have Roux-en-Y Gastric Bypass about a year ago with Dr. Farrell @ UNC.  I have all my requirements, and passed every test but one.... THE INSURANCE APPROVAL!  The surgery (and ANYTHING else related to obesity) is an exclusion on my policy.  I am not ready to give in just yet, though! 

I was a normal sized child until about the age of 7, and I started getting the 'baby fat'.  I realized I had a problem when my Great Uncle started to refer to me as "Fatso".  From there, the weight just came!  I always felt 'different' than the other kids in school (elementary, junior high, and high school).  I have had a couple of weight loss successes (once in high school, I dropped 40 pounds over the summer by taking dexatrim and eating about 1000 calories or less a day) and once with a program called "Diet Enders" (no longer offered) which consisted of weekly meetings, Daily intake of 40 fat grams/1200 calories.  I lost 75 pounds in about 18 months.  After that, I got pregnant, and I never lost back down to my low of 190 lbs.  Currently, I weigh just at 300 lbs, and at 5'2", I have to tell you that my joints hurt if I attempt any kind of regular exercise.  Most commonly, I get shin splints from trying to walk at my local track.  I have suffered from Psuedotumor cerebrei ( a neurological disorder most commonly found in obese women of my age), depression, hypertension, and stress incontinence.  My Mother suffers from diabetes; 4 of 8 of my grandmother's children suffer from it. 

I may want to attend one of the meetings sometime.  I would love to meet more people in our area who are dealing with similar issues.
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