The Loser's Bench

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Barbara C.
on 9/3/11 6:25 am - Raleigh, NC
Topic: Exercise...

I have to say that I'm not, have never been and am not likely to be one that likes to exercise. That said, I recognize that it's necessary to support my new life;

- It helps me build muscle so that I'm more toned and my body's metabolism allows me to enjoy more of the foods I'd like to have.

- It helps me build bone density that helps me fight osteoporosis.

- It helps me manage my my emotional eating by providing an effective distraction and elevating my mood.

So while I'll probably never be a 'Gym Rat', I've found ways to incorporate it into my routine. Since, I'm not so good at 'exercise', here are a few things that I do to support my health and well-being: 

* Wear a pedometer - it helps me remember to move my tail as I work to make sure that I'm getting in at least 10K steps a day. It prompts me to park farther away from my destination, take the stairs, etc... so that I can rack up those steps. 

* Dance - I never really equate dancing with exercise, so even though I'm no Ginger Rodgers, I will crank up the music in the house and dance while I do my household chores, enjoy a Zumba or Jazzercise class or go dancing. It gets my heart rate up and I feel wonderful while doing it. 

* Gardening - I have never really liked getting dirty or sweaty, so gardening was something I always hired out or got someone else to do, in part because I didn't like doing it and in part because it was just to hard to do. Now, I still don't 'like' doing it, but I love the result I see in my garden and my body, and absolutely LOVE that I can do it. 

* Swimming - Swimming was one of the few exercises I enjoyed even when I was heavy. I used to be somewhat concerned about what I looked like in a suit when I was heavy and I still have concerns now that I'm slender, but it's an activity I enjoy so I do it when I have the opportunity.

What do you do to get moving and how does it impact your life?

Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145

Barbara C.
on 9/2/11 8:21 am - Raleigh, NC
Topic: Raleigh Area Support Group Meeting Saturday 9/3

I host peer to peer Weight Loss Surgery (WLS) support groups in Raleigh NC that are open to anyone who has had or is considering any type of WLS, regardless of where.

Saturday morning we will have our General Meeting from 10am to noon.

If you would like to attend, please get the details and RSVP here!

I look forward to seeing you there,

Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145

Barbara C.
on 8/29/11 4:33 am - Raleigh, NC
Topic: RE: 8 days post op

Congratulations!!!

While I cannot deny that I love being a smaller size and enjoy all of the quality of life benefits that come with it, I have to tell you that getting the diabetes and hemochromatosis under control are the REASONS I did this. It sounds like you are off to a wonderful start to a fabulous, life-changing journey.

Wishing you continued success,

Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145

Barbara C.
on 8/29/11 4:31 am - Raleigh, NC
Topic: Mindfulness

I have found that being 'mindful' has proven to be a powerful tool too help me take care of myself. It requires me to be focused and present. It also helps me be aware and accountable. I am not always as 'mindful' as I'd like to be, but more so now than I was before I had my WLS. 

To me, being 'mindful' means that I am aware of what I'm doing and accountable to myself for my actions. Everyone needs to find their own ways of doing this, but I think that we all need to do this in order to be successful in the long term.

*  Being mindful mean I get on the scale daily so that I am aware of my weight and am able to make corrections when they are still minor.
*  Being mindful means logging my intake and activity if I notice that my scales are 'swinging' more than the 7 lb range that seems normal for my body -- basically, up or down 3 lbs from my 'sweet spot'.
*  Being mindful means thinking about what I'm eating and if it is something that 'fuels' my body.
*  Being mindful means leveraging my tool and 'taking care of business first', so that I start my meal with protein, move on to colorful carbs and then indulge in whatever else I want with whatever room I have left over.
*  Being mindful means being aware of how I'm 'feeling' when I'm eating

What does being mindful mean to you?

Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145

msopen
on 8/25/11 1:34 am - KY
Topic: 8 days post op

bs sugar 96, ive lost 8 ilbs since surgery! so excited!

            
doingit4myself
on 8/24/11 4:37 am - kitchener, Canada
Topic: RE: Successes and Struggles
SMALL SUCCESS!!!

I got approved by my family doctor today to have surgery, sent off my forms to OHIP!!
             
doingit4myself
on 8/22/11 9:14 am, edited 8/22/11 9:15 am - kitchener, Canada
Topic: RE: Successes and Struggles

Hello Everyone! I am awaiting surgery. After a few botched attempts at clinics to have the paperwork done properly, I have FINALLY found a family doctor!  I see him wednesday to discuss me having the surgery.

I am 36 years old and a single mom of three kids. I weigh 361 lbs and I have a BMI of 54.9. I suffer from type 2 diabetes, chronic back pain from the weight and the fact that i have had 2 ruptured discs in my back for the past 11 years. I have knee and joint pain. I suffer from high blood pressure, depression and anemia, stress incontinence. I have found that the older I get the more issues I am having.

Ten years ago I was booked to have this surgery in Toronto. Two days before my consult, I could not get ahold of the office for the surgeon and when I called my family doctor, He said that the office had been closed for malpractice. Needless to say, that scared me off for sometime.

Two years ago I went to Barix in Yipslanti for my consult, and they agreed I needed it.. It was a light to my darkness.. but then the doctors at the clinic totally botched my attempts and OHIP closed  my claim as the paperwork was never returned to them.

I was born a tiny baby, weighing just over 5 lbs. When I was 5 yrs old everything changed. I had my tonsils removed and drastically began gaining weight. My poor mother, bless her heart, tried everything from seeing a doctor to diets to not allowing me any sweets, and still I ballooned. I cannot remember one expirience my entire life, where shopping fir clothing was a joyful experience. As a child I grew up at the mercy of the cruel jokes and comments. And to make things worse, I have 4 of the best looking siblings in the world lol.. Not a one of them ever struggling with weight. I had family members offer to pay me, " if i would just lose weight". I have missed out on so much, trips with my sisters, going to clubs and bars with my siblings because they were embarrassed of me. My one sister telling me I could not go to the club and dance, because I would be laughed out of the building, I was 19 years old. And the beginning fo me avoiding everything social. I would go out occasionally.. but when men smiled or made comments I always heard ridicule. The saddest thing, I look at pics now and I did not weight even 200 pounds at that point. Had I joined a gym, I would likely be ok now. I have tried everything, weigh****chers, jenny craig, pills potions, soups, diets, I have joined the gym.. I have lost 70 pounds, 100 pounds.. just to have ti seem to appear again overnight.

So Here I am .... what I feel is well educated. But still nervous. Scared that i will go to the doctor and He will tell me I cant have surgery. For me this feels like my last chance. I am missing out on life. On my kids, On family events. I want to hold my head high and be proud of accomplishing this goal in my life. I want my kids to be proud of me. I am terrified of what I will feel if I am denied. Of having no one close to me understand, and toss me the typical line " join a gym, stop eating crap" .. I wi**** were that easy.

So that my fluffy , and no longer fluffy friends, is MY struggle today.

             
Brenda C.
on 8/22/11 9:03 am
Topic: RE: Successes and Struggles
Successes for me would have to be my keeping my exercise routine going.  It takes three weeks to make or break a habit, which I firmly believe in.

Struggles are still dealing with Head Hunger and NOT eyeballing portions.  Measure twice, cut once, ha ha ha!  

How I keep myself accountable has been by blogging here on OH and attending three different support groups monthly.  Support is what I need - to give to others and to get from others.  If you try to build a house all by yourself, it will take you a whole lot longer than if you accept help from others -- that is what I call a Brenda-ism!

Brenda  : )~
R. Brown
on 8/22/11 4:28 am
Topic: RE: Successes and Struggles
Mine would be I struggle with eating solid foods I am 5.5 months post op.
            
Barbara C.
on 8/22/11 3:58 am - Raleigh, NC
Topic: RE: Successes and Struggles

Successes - I think being active in my support groups have been a major success for me. They help me stay focused on doing things to take care of myself. 

Struggles - I have been struggling to remember all of my supplements. I finally got a 'smart phone' and have downloaded a medication reminder app and I'm trying to use that to help me remember all of the doses. It seems to be helping some. I'd say that I honestly am getting in about 80 percent of my supplements, so I still need to work harder to up that percentage.

Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145

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