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Barbara C.
on 4/16/09 10:25 pm - Raleigh, NC
Topic: Article about getting a handle on emotional eating

Here is a link to an article on emotional eating that I found helpful and thought I'd share. It provides some tips for handling emotional eating episodes... http://www.sparkpeople.com/resource/wellness_articles.asp?id =55

Do you have some tips you'd like to share?

Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145

nadvance
on 4/15/09 2:27 am - Statesville , NC
Topic: RE: I am really struggling (xpost)

It looks like you are using the right tools to get back on track. I am keeping you in my thoughts and wishing the best for you.  You are such an inspiration for so many. You will beat this!! Good luck.

Nicole
 

Barbara C.
on 4/15/09 12:26 am - Raleigh, NC
Topic: I am really struggling (xpost)

As many of you know, I really struggle with depression and it's been gripping me pretty hard lately. To say that I'm under a lot of stress right now is the understatement of the decade and I find myself 'comforting myself with food... A little here, a little there... but it's adding up because I have gained about 8 to 10 lbs since December. I know it's stress, but I have to say that I find it terrifying. I see my old behaviors creeping back in. I'm working on it, but obviously not doing a great job. I know that in the scheme of things my 'bounce back' weight is to be expected and with the minor exception of the tummy that returned, I have to admit that I generally like the way I look and feel, but my concern is this terrifying upward trend. 8 to10 lbs times 10 will put me right back where I was... I don't seem to be able to stem the tide and it really frightens me. 

I'm logging my intake. I'm starting to work on my Beck Book. I'm reaching out. 

I have to tell you that this (trying to maintain my weight loss) is much, much harder than losing the weight. Please don't get me wrong. I don't mean to suggest that the weight loss journey is an easy one... I just find this part of the journey far more difficult and challenging. 

I cannot stress enough the importance of identifying and modifying behaviors while you are losing the weight... When they talk about the 'honeymoon' period, it's not just about the weight loss, but also about the opportunity to make important changes while you cannot eat as much, while your body still yanks you by the short hairs when you make decisions that are not in your best interest.

I do not think that all is lost, but I am really scared.

Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145

FabBy50 .
on 4/13/09 2:23 am - Everett, WA
Topic: RE: 6 wk post op
Im so sorry for your loss, my heart goes out to you. Its good that you are able to stick to your plan for your weight loss. Keep up the good work.

Hugs, Bernadette
Annie B.
on 4/12/09 1:10 pm - Dalzell, SC
RNY on 02/27/08 with
Topic: RE: 6 wk post op
I'm so sorry for your loss! *hugs*

One positive thing about having had this surgery - and being so new post op, is that it''s forcing you to deal with the emotions...instead of stuffing them into food. This is a GOOD thing. Have you considered seeing a counselor? One might be able to help you deal with this without the food that we're so used to having as a way of coping...just an idea.

Sending prayers your way...

~Annie  High 315 / Post-Op 309.2 / Current 149
 

REDKAT42025
on 4/12/09 12:24 pm - BENTON, KY
Topic: RE: 6 wk post op

Thank you.  It is funny, when anything gets complicated or goes wrong...the first thing that goes is taking care of yourself.


 
Barbara C.
on 4/12/09 11:31 am - Raleigh, NC
Topic: RE: 6 wk post op

Hi Kat,

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my father 12 years ago. I found that the searing pain of the immediate loss ebbed with time as warm memories helped to fill the void. Now, I often smile when I think of him and it comforts me.

Congratulations on your weight loss. I'm sure that your father would be so very proud of all of the work you are doing and be so pleased for the improved health and quality of life you are enjoying as you lose weight and regain your health.

Take care of yourself,

Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145

REDKAT42025
on 4/11/09 11:42 am - BENTON, KY
Topic: 6 wk post op
I am 6wk post op (I think)  9 days ago my Dad died, I believe I told you guys and many kind words were said.  I'm doing ok, and I know if this had happened before my surgery, I would have eaten myself sick and put on 30lb. So I guess on some level, I have handled this better.  Now that most of the stuff has been divided among family and the person he wants in the house is there...I guess everything is going to calm down.  I have to concentrate now on eating and drinking enough, and getting some exercise.

 
Annie B.
on 4/10/09 1:05 pm - Dalzell, SC
RNY on 02/27/08 with
Topic: RE: 2 weeks out
Woo-hoo! Congrats! Doesn't it feel GREAT!

In reference to Barbara's comment that a stall will come...if you haven't done so yet - measure yourself. During your stall, you will see inches come off...even if the pounds on the scale do not...if you measure, it will encourage you during your stall.  I'm SO glad I did.  It really does help.


~Annie  High 315 / Post-Op 309.2 / Current 149
 

Annie B.
on 4/10/09 1:01 pm - Dalzell, SC
RNY on 02/27/08 with
Topic: RE: Newbie needs info/thoughts!!!
Hey there!

I had thought about this some before my surgery too - I had to evaluate my reasons for wanting both surgeries. I know FOR ME - I was so drawn to being able to keep eating junk food with the DS. That was MY main drive. I had to stop and think about that...why am I having surgery? To get healthy. This line of thinking is NOT healthy. I want to model good eating for my boys. But I was looking at the DS as a way to NOT have to make healthy choices. I wanted to be forced to some degree to make healthier choices. This is just me - and my process for my decision.  I got the RNY...and am VERY pleased with it - well not pleased with the ulcer I have in my pouch right  now, but hopefully we'll get it taken care of quickly...

My advice? Think about why you want both surgeries...what appeals to you about them, what doesn't. Take a critical look at the list you make, and go from there!

Hope you can easily come to a decision!

~Annie

~Annie  High 315 / Post-Op 309.2 / Current 149
 

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