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I am in this site every day, and use the OH tools to log my food, water and exercise.
I do not cheat... and log in every thing I eat.
I am involved in two support groups in my area and have 5 close friends who have had surgery, they are my support team.
I set a reminder in my phone to eat. I get busy and forget. I am on the 1200 diet pre-op so it is imparitive that I get my last 5 pounds off to I can have a surgery date.
8 weeks out: 219.6. 12 weeks out: 198.
NORMAL WEIGHT REACHED MARCH 2011 (153 lbs.).
Goal BMI: In the normal range, please -- somewhere between 22-24
Clothing size 26/28 (triple X) before surgery in August of 2010.
March 2011 clothing size: 10/12 (large)
Lap. RNY and Gallbladder Removal, Dr. Choi @ Danbury Hospital, Aug. 2010
(((MEE))),
You aren't the first to fall off of the horse and you won't be the last. You can get back on track. I strongly suggest that you consider joining one of my friend's groups called Back on Track Together. Cathy is a wonderful, caring and supportive leader and her group numbers more than 2000 members. Many of the members in her group have gone through the things your are dealing with and can provide help and support to get you back to where you need and want to be. Here is the URL for her group: http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/backontracktogether/
I also wanted to share with you that I lost my own focus and though I had gotten down lower than my own goal, I experienced a regain of about 20 lbs when scared the pants off of me. I wasn't sure what to do. I decided to get back to basics, so I started logging everything I was eating or drinking. I 'knew' that I had been playing with fire before, but when I saw it in black and white, it helped me see what I was doing 'to myself.' I decided to start following the rules I'd been given and lead with lean protein. I still have simple carbs, but I have to 'take care of business' first. This really helped me because I knew that I couldn't/wouldn't stick to a 'diet' where I wasn't 'allowed' to have this or that. But if I could take care of business and still have my cake, I could and would do that. I was able to get back on track. I lost the excess weight and have been able to keep it off. I don't know that this would work for everyone, but has worked for me.
I wish you all the best and hope that you will come back and let us know how you are doing and if there is anything that we can do to help you.
Warmly,
Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145
I am 3 years post op with my RNY. Here are my favorite tools and tips:
* Lead with protein. We all hear that we need to do this, no matter which surgery we choose, but I have to admit that a you get farther out many of us will resort to simple carbs and that can get you in a boat load of trouble, no matter which surgery you had. They tend to go down easier and pack a caloric punch without much nutritional value. While I'm now back down to my lowest weight spectrum, about a year ago or so, I was up about 20 lbs. As you can imagine, I panicked and thought "OMG, I'm going to be one of those people that regains all of the weight lost!" I was afraid that my worst fear was coming true and at the time, it was. I realized through logging what I was eating that I had turned the tables and was eating far more simple carbs than anything else and that I wasn't getting my allotment of protein. I didn't want to 'diet' forever, but could let this go on, so I decided to try to just follow the 'rules.' I lead with 3 to 4 ounces of lean protien, then I have my complex carbs... i.e., vegitables and fruits. If I have room, I have simple carbs. This has allowed me to have my provebial cake and eat too while getting and keeping my weight at a healthy level and I haven't had to 'diet' or give up the things I love.
*Log what you eat. Right after I had my surgery I was meticulous about logging my intake to be sure that I had enough hydration, protein, etc... As I moved forward, I started paying attention to the calorie count to ensure that I got enough calories. I often found that when my weight loss stalled, that if I checked my calorie counts they were dropping below my program's recommended 800-900 calories a day and when I would get it back there, the weight would start to come off again. Once I reached goal, I rarely logged what I ate and if you read the tip above, you will see that I had a regain of 15 to 20 lbs which scared the pants right off of me. It was logging again that helped me 'see' what I was doing and then make a few corrections. When I did that the weight really did come right off and I've been able to maintain it. To be honest, now that I'm more than 3 years post op, I don't log regularly, but do try to do several times a month. Again, it helps me 'see' what I'm eating from a nutritional perspective. I also find that I tend to make 'better' choices when I'm logging. I think in part, it's because I'm not sure I want to enter that extra simple carb, but also because I reconsider if that simple carb item I'm considering is really 'worth it' to me; more often than not, it isn't.
*Get support. I have found getting support online and in person absolutely essential to my weight loss success. Of course, the support is critical during the actual weight loss phase because people that have not walked this path have a hard time understanding what you are going through. However, many make the mistake of getting and using support during the weight loss phase and then abandoning it when they get to goal. I find that support is necessary in the long term, not 'just' in the losing weight phase, but in the maintenance phase as well. We can and do get this false sense of security when we are actively losing and getting close to goal that we have 'got it and will NEVER go back.' However, it is very possible to slip into old habits without the support of others.
*Take detailed measurements before surgery and once a month following surgery. When you are losing weight, the scale provides an important barometer of our progress, but it isn't the only one. Your tape measure you will show you a different view of your progress and help your head to catch up with the reality of the changes your body is under going. Sometimes the scales will not show progress for 1, 2, 3 or more weeks, but you will see progress through your tape measure. OH has a good measurement tracker, but I have to say that my favorite one is at www.thinnerself.com because it is more complete and it also provides a graphic illustration of what your measurements looked like before, during and what it will look like at goal. It really helped me to see the changes in my shape and size.
*Take a photo of yourself in front of a door showing your full body from the front, profile and back before surgery and once a month following your surgery. Much like taking your measurements, this is another tool that will help your head catch up with the phenominal changes that are happening. It's amazing how others can see the progress that we cannot see until we see a photograph.
*The Beck Diet Solution. This is not a diet, but a book and workbook program that was created by Dr. Judith Beck for anyone trying to lose weight, no matter how you are trying to do so. It's not a diet, but a way for you to look at your relationship to and with food and the behaviors that surround that. I think it's a 6 week program, but it took me 6 months to go through it. Now I run a special interest support group that is losely based on the book because I and many others have found it to be such a useful and powerful tool. This works no matter which surgery you have had or are considering because it's not surgery related, but behavior related.
Before I write a whole book, I'd better say goodbye, but I hope to see your tips and tools that are helping you on this journey.
Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145
You may be pre-op, a newbie who has just had surgery and is learning to navigate the waters, someone who is well underway in the weight loss process, but has reach goal or you may have reached goal and are either maintaining or working to get back to it. It doesn't matter where you are in your journey, everyone has some experience and wisdom to offer. With this in mind, I'd like you to share your favorite tools and tips that have helped you get to where you are today; whereever that may be. We all learn from one another, so please share.
Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145
Even though you just started your journey, you are making fantastic progress. Not just with the scale, but by recognizing some of the lifestyle changes necessary to support your long term success.
I wish you all the best as you study the culinary arts. I have to tell you that I was a pretty darned good cook prior to WLS and one of the things that concerned me was not knowing how to cook for my new life. I used to cook 'a la Paula Deen or the Bare Foot Contessa', but now, three years post op, I have learned to modify some recipes to reduce the fat and simple carbs and create new ones that had never occured to me before. I still am a good cook, but I cook much differently than I used to.
Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145
Surgery Status?
Post op
Surgery Type?
RNY
Surgery Date?
June 21
Weight
Highest:
304
Current:
248
Goal:
136
Starting Sizes:
Pant:
22
Shirts:
20
Shoes:
9 W
Current Sizes:
Pants:
16
Shirts:
14
Shoes:
9
How do you feel?
I feel alot better. I am getting alot more done. I didn't realize how much time food took in my life. It is much more relieving to get so much done in a day and not be tired. I was never motivated and now I love to do stuff. I'm working on going to culinary school to be a bariatric chef in hopes to create better recipes for those of us who are picky eaters. I want to help people become healthier in tastey ways.
Any WOW moments?
I always wanted to be small enough to by name brand jeans. I went out and bought some yesterday!! They were the largest size they had.. but hey.. I would have never fit in them before this!
Do you have any concerns?
I work nights which is causing me alot of issues as far as figuring out when I'm supposed to be eating/ taking my vitamins. I've decided that in order to remedy this, I"m gonna move to a day schedule.Teresa,
Congratulations on your many successes, scale and non-scale related.
Wishing you continued successes,
Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145
OK, here goes!
Surgery Status? Post-op
Surgery Type? RNY
Surgery Date? 08/03/09
Weight: 242.8 surgery
Current: 132.0
Goal: 145
Starting Sizes:
Pant: 28
Shirts: 3XL
Shoes: 9.5 or 10
Current Sizes:
Pants: 6/8
Shirts: M/L
Shoes: 8/8.5
How do you feel?
I feel great and have more energy and can out-walk my husband in the mall. I wouldn't change anything that I have done for the world.
Any WOW moments?
I can see and feel my collar bones, amazing, my daughter and I can wear each other clothes (which we both we really surprise when we were trying on clothes and she didn't like this pair of jeans on her but I said they were cute, she said "try them on" and i said "yeah right", but I did to please her) and they fit. . . . . . we both looked at each other and laughed and i bought them. Also being able to bend over and tie my shoes without getting out of breath. It just the little things that other people take for granted that we are not use to doing and for us it's a big WOW moment.
Do you have any concerns?
None yet
Teresa B
Hi Erica,
When I read your highest weight response, I thought how true the statement in the parens was for me and I'm sure many others. I know that the heighest weight I know of was 264. I nearly died when I was at the Dr's office and it said that. Of course, I didn't get back on the scale for a lonnggg time after that and waited until I knew that I had lost weight before I did get back on the scale. I think because I had such a serious case of ostrich syndrome before, I make sure that I get my 'little' tail on the scale daily now. I don't want to not know and then find out that I'm in deep trouble. I had quit wieghing daily when I was about 18 months or so out; I thought I'd let how my clothes fit tell me how I was doing. Well, that didn't work out too well for me. I gained about 12 lbs before I 'felt' it in my clothes. I guess that is the perk/difficulty associated with having my weight so 'evenly' distributed. Since that happened, I get my tail on the scale every day.
Congratulations on your success and wishing you continued success as you move forward.
Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145