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(((((Sweetheart)))))),
Oh my goodness! Words cannot truly convey the deep sympathy I have for you, your family and the tragic loss you are all suffering.
Of course, you are all in our thoughts and prayers as you make your way through these dark hours, days and weeks ahead. I'm sure it doesn't seem so now, but the sun will shine again as G-d shines his countenance upon you and your family.
I know how hard it can be to take care of yourself at a time like this, but please be sure to eat WELL and regularly. Take your supplements and be sure to get out of the house everyday. It's really important. If you continue to suffer depression, please seek and obtain medical support. You may need some therapy to deal with the intense and overwhelming pain you are experiencing as you work to keep your head above water and to care for your lovely children. I'm sure that you will see your dear Robert in their smiles, laughter, movements and gestures inthe coming days, weeks, and months... He will live on through them and in your loving hearts and memories.
Wishing you the peace the memories and time will provide.
Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145
Hi Marci,
Welcome to the group. I hope that you will take the time to look at both options. There is no 'best' surgery for everyone, but there will be a best fit for you. When I was looking into the various options, I narrowed mine down to RNY and Lap. Being my somewhat analytical self, I created a table listing the pros and cons of each and weighting them to see what seemed best for me. RNY won out, but not because it is an overall better solution, but because it was a better fit for my personal cir****tances.
A friend of mine that just had DS a couple of months ago seriously considered RNY, but she has some degenerative disc disease, coupled with a signficant family history of osteo-arthritis. She knew that she could be exceptionally compliant with the great number of supplements that DS required and she also knew that she was likely to need NSAIDS to help control her arthritis pain; DS allows her to take NSAIDS and RNY doesn't. There were other factors that swayed her towards DS, but that was the biggest.
I don't know if doing something like that might hel*****t.
I do know that you have waited a long time, but in the interest of making the best decision for yourself in the short and long-term, I hope that you consider both and how they fit your overall health and lifestyle profile and then make the best decision for you.``
Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145
So I went on over the DS forum and read some things...enough to get me interested in looking further. So I called my insurance company to make sure that this form of WLS is indeed covered and lo and behold it is - with the same criteria as RNY and lap band - woot woot! So then I decided to see if there was a surgeon near by, well no such luck. There does not appear to be a surgeon in all of Iowa that performs this surgery. So my two closest options are Chicago or Omaha. I am leaning towards Omaha after looking at Dr. Gary Anthone's website and page on here. I am very impressed with what I see about him. So I call my insurance company yet again and found out that to my luck he is IN network - triple woot woot! So what do I do? I call them to get some info...and am told that their first step is to check with my insurance to make sure that they and the procedure are covered. Ok now I know that getting paid is important, but does it need to be the first bloody concern of absolutely everyone related to WLS? Jesus! So ok, I guess I can deal with that since I already know that my insurance appears to cover both. Next step is of course the dreaded seminar...but I was told that b/c I live so far away that I can come in and watch the seminar on DVD and then immediately meet with the surgeon right after. Cool.. My next question of course was how long is this all going to take to get me a surgery date? She says that is usually takes about 4 months. Well hell, don't really wanna wait another four months. So I tell her that I am basically on track for RNY in Waterloo, and that really all I am waiting for is official insurance approval before I get a surgery date. She asked if I had the psych eval, nutritionist appointment, 6 month supervised diet, sleep study, etc. And I told her that yep I've had all of that done, so she said that considerably moves up my time. Wonderful! So she is sending me info in the mail to get that initial insurance coverage question answered and we go from there.
So here I am trying to make a decision...RNY or DS? My initial instinct is to for RNY b/c I can get that done faster and feel like I have been waiting for so long b/c after I finally made the decision to have WLS and attend the seminar (after fretting for about 18 months) I found that I had to do the supervised diet. Well I did that and am in the home stretch. But on the other hand my rational and adult brain kicked in and told me that I needed to calm down and look at both options and pick which one I think will work best for me. So that's what I am trying to do! But calmness and patience have never, ever, ever been a virtue that I have in my bag of tricks!
So anyone who has any input either way - RNY or DS - I would love to hear it!!
In 2001 I had a adjustable gastric band put in...one year later it had migrated into my stomach and caused an horrific infection. The docs say I almost died.
So I decided to do it on my own.....over the next 7 years, I gained back everything that I had lost plus another 20 pounds.
My doctors encouraged me to have more surgery...my sister had the RNY last March and has lost all her weight.... Finally I said yes.
Last October 10, I underwent surgery, thinking I would have the RNY like my sister. The doctor found some giant deposits of scar tissue and wound up doing a VSG.
I have lost 60 pounds since then. Have regained some of my health, and the doc is now ready to complete the RNY...probably in April.
It is good to be in this group. I need all the support that I can get.
Brenda
I deserve credit for keeping my blood sugar down within normal limits.
I deserve credit for staying away from sugar and soft drinks.
I deserve credit for keeping my crabs low...
I've been drinking my 8 glasses of water per day. I've been sticking to my calorie limit of 800. I exercised twice last week. Even though I get very hungry, I still stick to what I am suppose to eat.
thanks
barb