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Barbara C.
on 9/26/12 4:55 am - Raleigh, NC
Topic: I used to wonder if I would ever be able to enjoy food again

I'm more than 5 years post op now and I've always been a bit of a foodie. I often joke that I was like a Jewish Paula Deen before surgery. Not meaning to toot my own horn, but I have been a pretty good cook for many years. The thing is that much of what I made was very similar in many ways to the types of things Paula Deen made. When you cross someone who was raised in the south with someone who has a Jewish heritage, you have a recipe... or many recipe that are laden with fats and carbs.

When I was considering surgery, I wondered if I would ever be able enjoy cooking and more than that eating again. Well, more than 5 years after my surgery, the answer is a resounding yes. I have to say that I don't eat or cook diet food. I want whatever I eat to be wonderfully flavorful and not a second rate substitute in terms of flavor or texture. This is a large part of what has allowed me to maintain my weight. I have found ways to eat what I want, enjoy it and maintain my weight. That said, I must admit that I have made a number of changes and adjustments in the ways that I prepare foods. Sources such as Cooking Light have been invaluable to me as I have learned leaner and lighter techniques that allow me to enjoy old favorites as well as broadening my horizons as I've added new favorites to my repertoire.

Below, is a recipe for Breakfast Quiche Bites. They are a great way to get in the protein in a flavorful, yet healthy way. I often tweak it one direction or another, but the premise is the same for them. Consider trying these as a way to enjoy a wonderful breakfast, lunch or dinner. Also know that they travel and reheat well. While they are great for breakfast when you are in a hurry, I often have two of these with a salad for dinner.

http://img4-1.myrecipes.timeinc.net/i/recipes/oh/12/breakfast-quiche-bites-oh-l.jpg

Breakfast Quiche Bites from Cooking Light

Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145

Hvfaith
on 9/22/12 7:47 pm - St Albert, Canada
Topic: RE: Getting back on track... you can do it
Fantastic advice that I can use, thank ou
jad1584
on 9/4/12 7:28 pm - NY
Topic: RE: Where are you now?

My name is Jen.

Surgery Status?
 lost 5% and got my date today
Surgery Type?
sleeve
Surgery Date?
Nov 6, 2012

Weight
Highest: 335
Current:316
Goal: 180


Starting Sizes:
Pant:24
Shirts:3X
Shoes:10.5 wide

Current Sizes:
Pants:24
Shirts:3x
Shoes:10.5

How do you feel? Tired, depressed, scared

Any WOW moments?
When I looked at a current picture and relized how big i actually was. I knew there was a reason I never took pictures of myself.

Do you have any concerns? My concern is what if I gain the weight back once I have the surgery. What if things change between me and my husband. what if i die during surgery? i am also concerned that I will not be able to lose the rest of the weight to get the surgery. i probably wont be able to rest until I have gotten to my goal wight. Then maybe I can stop worrying. Maybe.

Barbara C.
on 6/4/12 9:53 am - Raleigh, NC
Topic: Five years ago today my life changed
Five years ago today my life changed when I had weight loss surgery to resolve my health issues and lose the excess weight I had been carrying since I was in grade school. I am delighted that the health issues I had that led me to investigating and finally having weight loss surgery have resolved and I am maintaining the loss of the excess weight.

My Type 2 Diabetes Melitus (T2DM) has resolved with an HbA1C that runs between 5.1 and 5.3, so I no longer take medications to keep it under control.
My blood pressure which is normally about 100/65 is excellent and had dropped about 20 points.
My LDL and HDL cholesterol is fair, but considering my family history of high cholesterol, I'm delighted.
My Hereditary Hemachromatosis is well managed; I have not had a phlebotomy since my surgery.
My breathing while I sleep is much better and I no longer use a CPAP to ensure that I get enough while I sleep.

My quality of life has really gone through the roof. Among other things:

I can fit ANYWHERE; an airplane seat, booths, turnstiles, amusement park rides, etc...
I can buy clothes in any store, as long as I have enough money in my purse.
I can handle the heat of the summer so much better.
I can work in the yard without passing out.
I can tie my shoes or paint my toenails and breathe at the same time.

During the past five years, I lost all of my excess weight. I experienced a regain. I learned how to leverage the power of my tool, taking off the regain and learning to maintain a stable weight.

My only regret is that I didn't do this sooner. Not only has it improved my health and quality of life, but it has also has had a positive impact the lives of my family members.

I'm delighted I made the decision to do this and would do all over again.

Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145

Barbara C.
on 5/5/12 9:13 am, edited 5/5/12 9:29 am - Raleigh, NC
Topic: Consider who you are talking to...

I recently was watching a show on TV that had a counselor on the show who was addressing self image issues. They had a couple of women write down the things that they tell themselves about how they look. Many of us might be able to relate to litany of comments they made about 'thunder thighs', 'muffin tops', 'bat wings', 'turkey necks', etc... After writing them down, the ladies where then asked to tell the other person that they had 'thunder thighs', 'muffin tops', 'bat wings', 'turkey necks', etc... Each of the ladies were intensely uncomfortable about doing so and when asked why they were so uncomfortable, they said because they wouldn't want to say such mean things to stranger, much less a friend. Then, the counselor asked them why it was okay to be so mean to themselves, when they wouldn't consider being so mean to a friend or stranger? Both women agreed that they might reconsider before making such disparaging remarks to themselves about themselves. 

Next, they asked them to look at themselves as though they were looking at a friend or stranger and then describe themselves from that perspective. They both provided much more gentle, compassionate, and complimentary assessments of themselves.

I think it's important that we consider that what we say to ourselves about ourselves. What we tell ourselves helps to shape how we see ourselves in literal and figurative terms. How we see ourselves also often makes a difference in how treat ourselves and take care of ourselves. 

So consider who you are talking to... and be sure to be gentle, kind and compassionate with yourself.

Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145

beemerbeeper
on 4/12/12 12:03 pm - AL
Topic: RE: Grads Group
Where's the grads discussion?

~Becky


Barbara C.
on 4/12/12 12:02 pm - Raleigh, NC
Topic: RE: Grads Group

Once you move into the maintenance phase of your journey, life creeps back in and it can be harder to maintain the focus that we had when we were in the weight loss phase of our journey. I have found that as we get back to 'real life' it can be harder to deal with the struggles of day to day life without slipping back into the old habits that can undo all of the hard work we've done to get the weight off.  

Okay... So let's start with a success and struggle...

Struggles -- Staying in an Extended Stay hotel for a couple of months without the cooking tools or foods I'm used to having. No scales to check my weight. EXTREME STRESS... and I'm a stress eater.

Success -- At first, I had trouble finding my balance, but eventually I was able to find that I could make and reasonable and nutritious meals most of the time and.... drumroll... I didn't gain any weight. I was sure I would put on some weight with all of the stresses.

So, come on, share some of your struggles, successes and coping mechanisms. 

We all learn from one another... I hope you will share with me.

 

Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145

Barbara C.
on 4/11/12 1:01 am - Raleigh, NC
Topic: Grads Group

I'm hosting a Grad's Group this Thursday 4/12 in Raleigh. The reason that I started this group is that those who have reached or maintenance tend to have some different issues/concerns than those who are in the midst of losing weight. That said, we have people who are still in the process of losing that like to come to these meetings because it gives them a 'window' into what life may be like once they do hit the maintenance phase of their own journey. 

All of this said, I'd like to see if we can start a discussion regarding maintenance. What is it like for you? The good things and the struggles. If you haven't achieved maintenance yet, do you have questions you'd like to ask?

I hope to have you engage in this 'virtual' discussion with me and other members.

 

Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145

Barbara C.
on 4/11/12 12:54 am - Raleigh, NC
Topic: RE: hello

Hey Betty, 

I'm so glad that you have joined our group and I really look forward to getting to know you. I'm sorry that I didn't respond earlier. I have been out of town for a couple of months and haven't  been on as much I should.

I really look forward to getting to know you. 

All the best,

Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145

Barbara C.
on 4/10/12 12:28 am - Raleigh, NC
Topic: Not moving after all..

As many know, my husband and I have been looking into, and were strongly considering a move to CA to be closer to our adult sons and their wives. While being able to be closer to our sons and their wives is still a desire, it's not something that we will be doing for the next couple of years.

I'm sharing this to let you know that I will continue to lead the in person support groups in Raleigh NC. Of course, we will continue to have our monthly general support group and I will see about resuming a number of the special interest groups that I have also run, such as

  • Grads group which focuses on the concerns of those who have entered the maintenance phase of their journey
  • Over 50 which focuses on the issues particular to those who start with very high body mass indexes
  • Making Changes, which as formerly known as the Beck group based on Judith Beck's book entitled The Beck Diet Solution which is looks at and addresses behavior issues associated with emotional eating

I welcome your input and any suggestions that you may have to make the support groups an even more valuable resource to those considering WLS, those who are in the midst of their weight loss, and those of us who have reached our maintenance phase of our journey.

If you live nearby, I look forward to your input and to seeing you soon at an upcoming meeting.

All the best,

Barbara

Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145

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