Being accountable

Hi Mary,

First of all, please let me assure you that I am not SPAMMING you. It appears that there may be some problem for some people that I send PMs to, but this is a technical glitch, not something that I am 'doing'. I have myself on the distribution as well, so that I get everything that is sent out to the group. I am only getting one message, but I got a note from BW indicating that she also got multiple copies of my notes. I will contact OH Te*****al support about this issue to see if they can get a resolution. In the meantime, I can only offer two suggestions; you can hang in there with me and just delete the extra messages you recieve until the OH techinical staff can identify and resolve the problem or if you would like me to remove you from the group, I can do that so that you will no longer get my incoming messages and not have to worry about getting the many multiple copies of any single message I send. I truly apologize for inconvenience and frustration it is causing you. 

I think that the fact that you have already started your journey and that you recognize the fact that the surgery is just one leg of that journey, is PHENOMINAL! It really has you ahead of the game. Many people think that the surgery and resulting weightloss IS the journey..., you are so far ahead of the game and that in itself is likely to help you be very successful in the longterm. Also the early recognition that it's important to be accountable is crucial. 

I think you are going to do very well. 

Again, please do accept my apologies and let me know how you would like me to hand the unfortunate issue of your receiving multiple copies of my PM's to you.

Thank you,

Barbara.
I checked the post on my start page and I think the duplicate post are because you are posting to 12 different forums along with the original  private message to the members.
Because the post are to different forums.

I only got one private message from you so that is working OK.
I was talking about the start page where you see what your friends post. I thought that was what the other person meant too.

And I am sure you will get it worked out.  And if that is the way OH is, so be it. No problem here.
I was not annoyed with the post. I just thought you wanted a some feed back on how things were working..
Glad to be part of your group.

And Thank You for your kind words.


Good Luck.

Hi Mary,

If you are talking about the cross-posting to the various forums, then that is something that I will continue do because I find others who don't post on other forums that find the information helpful. To be honest, it is often through my cross-posts that many become members of my group. I don't do it to 'grow my group' but because I know that many people stick to their own surgery board and when I have a post that i think would be thought provoking across the board, I cross post. 

I really hope that when you see the multiple posts that you'll bear with me, but if it's too much of an inconvenience, I can remove you from my friends and Loser's Bench group so that they won't appear on your start page. I truly apologize for any inconvience it has caused. I hope you will hang in there with me because I look forward to getting to know you as you make your way on this incredible journey. 

 

I keep a Daily Food Journal, of what I eat and drink.

I also weight each morning when I get up.  I also get rid of my larger size clothes, I am now now in a size 6, so all of my 8's and 10's are going, going, gone.

I am a Lap-Bander and I have done very well.  I am i year Post-Op and I have lost as of today 118 Pounds.  I am 3 pounds below my Target Weight.   I am very comfortable being this size and I feel Great.

When my Husband and I go out to Dinner We Share A Meal.  That way I eat my small portion, and then my husband eats the rest.  Bless him, he's my Number One Supporter.

I am featured 3 times this month in the OH Magazine.  Page 10, 30, and 48.  I am so Happy of My New Journey Of Life.

Hi Deborah,

Congratulations on your phenomenal success! You've done a wonderful job with that band of yours. Like you, Ben and I often share a meal... it saves money and calories... LOL.

I'm lucky, as an RNY patient and am able to eat whatever I want and not have any problems, so moderation is the key for me. If I gain a few pounds, I take a look at 'what I'm eating' and find that I'm getting too many carbs and not enough protien. As soon as I reverse it, the extra pounds slide off again. 

I haven't seen the latest OH magazine... I need to get that fixed, but I hope to see a copy of it at the ATL convention and look forward to seeing you there as well.

Wishing you continued success,

 

Barbara
Thank you for such a great post.

1)I get on the boards and read and post. I find that when I'm here with you all I do better.

2)I weigh myself everyday except when I had a slip. Because seeing it go up make it worse. When that happens I get right back on the horse.

3)I eat off a small plate.

I know that support is a major factor in my own success to date and studies have shown that those who are active in support groups are statistically much more likely to reach and maintain their goal wieght. 

We all have to do what works for us re: accountability in general and hopping off and on the scale in specific. I know that I couldn't help but get on daily, but learned to just track my weight once a week as I was losing, but now that I'm maintaining, I find that getting on the scale daily reminds me of where I want to be and what I need to do each day to get there. 

Right before my surgery I bought a whole new collection of dinnerware and they have a beautiful wide border that surrounds most of the edge of the plate. During the first year or so I used the salad/desert plate which had an area about the size of a small saucer that was 'open' and put my portions on that. Now that I'm farther out and eat more to maintain my weight, I actually use the regular sized dinner plate, but the 'open/white' space on that plate is about the size of a small salad/desert plate, so I only put the food on the white space. While I know I'm just fooling my eye, it looks like I'm eating a more normal meal that way. Whatever... it works and I guess that's the point. We have to find something that works for us and it sounds like you have found something that works for you. 

Wishing you continued success,

 You are oh so right. However,we still need others to keep us on track.

Hi Lisa,

For many, the accountability that support groups provide is a major factor in their success. Actually, being active in support groups is one of the indicators of long term success. 

Wishing you all the best, 

I need somebody with understanding, wisdom, and even who has been there before keep me in check as I go on exploring different things in this journey.  Accountability is so important to your success!