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Mourning my husbands shooting death...

kilmarlic
on 4/2/09 10:27 pm - powells point, NC
Oh sweetie - I am so sorry to read this. I know the grief you're feeling right now is absolutely overwhelming. Don't try and do to much right now. Simply do the basics for a while. Make sure you take care of yourself and keep yourself healthy - you'll be no use to your kids if you don't. Your kids need you so much right now. Don't be afraid to let your kids see your emotions. My boys were 9 &11 when their daddy died suddenly. They've seen every emotion that I went through. They knew how much I missed them and it helped them realize that it was OK for them to have a ton of emotions too. 

Sweetie - the sun will shine again. I know it doesn't feel that way right now and you may be wishing that it wouldn't  - but it will. Please, please, please make sure you give yourself time - you need time to grieve and heal. There will come a time when you'll no longer be haunted by your memories but you'll find comfort in them. 

Keep an extra eye on your kids. Maybe enlist the help of a family member or friend to watch them. If at any point you feel that they're becoming overly depressed find a counselor for them. One of the signs in my boys was the youngest wouldn't bring up his Daddy. He'd join a conversation but he wouldn't start it. We also went through seperation anxiety every time I walked out the door. There will be some ups and downs ahead of you but you can do it. You've proven that by reaching out and sharing with us. Feel free to pm me anytime you want to talk. I'm on here most all day long. weekends can be a little sporadic but I promise you that I'll respond to you.

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
- Iris 

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Love2Shop
on 4/2/09 10:54 pm - NC
You and your children are definitely in my thoughts and prayers. I can't begin to imagine how you must feel. I am truely sorry you have had to suffer such an imaginable loss. God will be with you and get you through this. I am praying that He give you strength to get through this time.
Peace be with you.
Kay
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antsissy1
on 4/3/09 4:06 am - FL
God Bless you and your family. you have my deepest sympathies. Please take care of yourself. 


pjwright
on 4/3/09 4:55 am - NC
What a terrible tradegy for you and your precious children to endure. I will keep you all in my prayers.


HUGS
Pam
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Tisipoohbear
on 4/3/09 8:17 am - Richmond, VA
I will be praying for you and your family. I am so sorry this has happened. Please try and take care of yourself, when it gets to hard to talk start writing. I'm here if you need to talk. I will message my number if you want me to.
Rhonda

RHONDA

warrenandbrodysmom
on 4/3/09 12:45 pm - VICTORVILLE, CA
Oh my I am so very sorry to hear about your husband. I dont even know what to say, what a horrible tragedy. You and your 2 babys will be in my thoughts and prayers. Take care of yourself honey those babys need you. We are here for you, dont forget that.
So so sorry,
Robin




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westwalker
on 4/5/09 8:32 am - NC
I am so very sorry for your loss. Please take care of yourself. You have to find some way to eat and take your vitamins. Please find someone to talk to, like a counselor or a pastor, and ask friends and family to help you around the house. You will need a lot of support in the coming days, but you will get through it and the sun will eventually shine again. I will be in daily prayer for you and your precious children. Contact me anytime if  you need someone to talk to.
REDKAT42025
on 4/5/09 2:55 pm - BENTON, KY
There are no words for your tragedy, just know you and your beautiful children are in our thoughts and prayers.  I really hope you have support close by. Take care of yourself please, you need your strength.  I am so, so sorry.

 
FabBy50 .
on 4/6/09 12:29 am - Everett, WA
Im so sorry to hear about your horrible loss. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your children.

With many hugs, Bernadette
P M.
on 4/6/09 11:52 pm - Raleigh, NC
I am so sorry you are suffering through such a horrible tragedy.  I too have lost and even at that, it is so difficult to find comforting words for you.  I can tell you that you will one day smile and laugh when you speak of wonderful memories you have, especially when sharing them with your children throughout the years.  I have you all in my heart and my prayers.
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