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Wow! I love your post.
I completely feel the same way!
It's so frustrating to be around the normies. I have kept my surgery very private, and part of it is the normies. (there's also the sabators).
I'm so glad I have my "wls peeps"!!

Hi Jeannie,
   Thank you for posting. It is excellent. I have friends that ask me why I couldn't do it on my own. I've been "outside of normal" just about my whole life. I remember telling my Dad that there was something wrong and different about me. He didn't believe me.  Again, thanks for writing this,   Mag  

Hi Tim,

      Kathy gave you good advice. I just wanted to say I think you are doing great. Asking questions about how to improve is just what you need to do. You can do this. I have faith in you.    Mag   

Wow Jeannine, that was well written.  I am going to read this to my local support group, they all need to hear that others feel this way too. 

You make me blush with reading your last line.  We leaders get so much out of the caring and sharing that happens here.  The group would be nothing if the day to day posts were missing.  I appreciate each and every member.  You are so "normal" among us.

Happy summer to you too.  Big league hugs headed your way.

Hello and Happy Summer all.
It's been a while, I know.
I like to turn to this group, when I get tired of the "normal people".
I don't know if us "wls peeps" have a name for them but you all know who I am talking about.

Your friend who lost 30 pounds just by switching from dark meat to white meat. (Carrie)
Your friend who gave up regular soda and lost 25 pounds. (William)
Your dad who, every time he wants to loose weight just stops eating fast food. (My dad)
Your trainer who eats junk food (I know she's not going to admit it), and doesn't loose an ounce because she says all you need is strength training. (Kellie)
The nurse who is drinking Mona-vie and losing weight faster than I am with wls. (Amy)
I could probably think of a few more if it's wasn't so dang early in the a.m.

These are real people in my life. These "normal" people.
These are also the people that think that their lifestyle and diet changes are going to work for you.
Guess what?    They don't.
They have really great intentions, but are clueless when it comes to dealing with being obese.

I turn to this group because 95% of you know what I'm going through.
You've seen the breakdowns in support group meetings of the obese woman who just wants to be one of those normal people. (I was one of those women)
The man who is on so many meds, he's afraid of dying before he actually gets the surgery.
I've seen women in support group meetings that have lost a lot of weight but their body image of themselves hasn't changed. They still wear the plus size clothing, even though they don't have to.  They cannot comprehend the weight they have lost. They may never think of themselves as normal.

Guess what?  I'm not normal. I'm never going to be normal. I wasn't born normal.
I'm guessing if you've been obese your whole adult life, you're not normal either.

We are so much more than that!
We are so much stronger than normal!
We care about ourselves more than normal!

If there is or was something keeping you (genetics, eating habits, emotions, medical conditions) from being normal, you're not alone.
I've finally realized that it's ok to be just outside of "normal".

Thank you all for being here and your continued support.
You are all such a blessing in my life, especially the group leaders.