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Hey I am at the same point as you.

I go for blood gases tommarow and then the Chest x ray and what not next week too.

I started on Oct 3 2011 at 339 pounds. I have a goal of 32 pounds to lose b4 they will do the by pass.

I have already had my psyc eval.

On the 18th I was down to 328. 


My next weightin is 10/31 

 I met with my surgeon first, way back in March. Then followed monthly primary doctor, dietitian, counseling, and physical therapy appts for six months. Because of scheduling stuff,  I didn't finish my requirements until seven months were up, but I was approved within two weeks. I didn't see my surgeon again until I got insurance approval and a surgery date. 

The before & afters are freaking awesome. I've spent hours going through those - still do actually. 

I'm feeling ridiculously good. I was expecting to feel awful for "hell week," but my discomfort is minimal. I'm off the pain meds already. My biggest complaint (which isn't really a complaint) is gas and bloating, but it's tolerable. It is just requiring me to wear jammie pants all the time because I'm so bloated I can't bend over in normal pants. 

The bariatric surgeons in my city are very picky about who they pick, and they require the six-month prep time regardless of the insurance company requirements. If we don't like their requirements, we can go to the other bariatric practice in town, but the results are historically poor. They want each patient to have a good result and to keep the weight off. They say any surgeon can cause someone to lose their excess body weight, but it takes a team of caring professionals to prepare you to keep it off and maintain. Those caring professionals gave me the tools to do this for the long term, but it's up to me to use them. My surgeon specifically said that every time one of his patients fail to keep the weight off, he knows it's because he chose the wrong patient. 

It'll be interesting to see how this plays out with your fiance. How he handles this will show a lot about what kind of husband he'll be. Hopefully he'll be able to be supportive and loving despite his doubts. 

 Is he a reader? My mom was very pessimistic, but she started to feel better after she read Before and After. My husband has read Success Habits for Weight Loss Surgery Patients, and that's given him a lot of peace.

Maybe he could write down a list of concerns he has specifically about the surgery, and you could address them thoroughly until he feels he can cross the of the list. 

How long is your pre-surgery process? Mine was six months minimum, so maybe there's time for him to relax about it. One of the requirements I had was counseling, and I worked out with my counselor how to respond to my husband's and my mother's concerns. It was very helpful. Hopefully there will be time for that. 

One thing you can hold next to your heart is that this is not a fast process. There will be a few spots of "flurry" when you're busy taking care of business to push the surgery process through. But you'll be dealing with your internal struggles and concerns before surgery as well... and those might be even harder to reconcile than your fiance's. We go through this pre-surgery, surgery and post-surgery "stuff" in order to have a longer, more successful life. Take your time to breathe a lot and learn as much as you can... especially about you specifically and what your internal drivers are that caused you to become obese. When your fiance sees you dealing with your own internal struggles, he might flip into supportive role because that's what he sees you need. 

Good luck, Katy!

Bariatric buddy chat session is this evening. Come one, come all. Time for sharing and caring for each other.   We start at 7pm eastern, 6pm central, 5pm mountain and 4pm pacific. Entrance shortcut is http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bariatricbuddy/chat/ .   You may need to update your JAVA if having trouble getting into the chat room. Keep trying. Chat usually lasts about an hour. Any questions, send a PM to KathyB4me, here at OH.     I plan to be there. See (or rather chat with) you this evening. Hugs, Kathy

Hi,

Welcome to the group. I'm a newbie as well. I had surgery on 10/13/11 (SGB = Sleeve Gastric Bypass sorta like the MGB = Mini Gastric Bypass). I feel when you are lighter in weight you have less pressure on your joint so you will definitely see a difference. Good luck and keep us posted.