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Welcome to the group Lynn.  Glad to hear that you and your husband are doing great in the losing.  Congrats on your success.  Invite your husband to join the group too. 

Looking forward to getting to know both of you through many posts.  Nice to go through the process with your support person.  Hugs

Hello dear friends,

       Well, I did have my first dumping episode. I knew I was pushing the boundaries for the past week. It was horrid. I was so miserable. The good news is I never what to do that again. Yesterday and today have been much improved, but did not get my water in. Will work on that today. Sleeping well but still more tired than I should be. I will get my labs drawn this week and see if anything is in need of adjustments. I'm going to take a short nap. Then I must clean the kitchen and dining room.   Won't take long. It's just messy.
     Hope you have a glorious day.     Mag    

Checked them out, looking hot.  Congrats!!

Congrats, you have done amazing.  Rocking your tool friend.  Keep working towards your educational goals, the man thing will work out when the time is right.  Have you posted before and after pics?  Love to see the difference.  Hugs

Hi all,

I don't come online that often but just wanted to say hello. I am almost tow years out and have lost 178lbs I went beyond my goal. I am staying at a regular weight now which is good I did not want to be too skinny but I guess I am, down to a 6 or 8 depends on the store. I am pretty tall so I guess I look kinda skinny. I have dealt with a little body dis-morphia and a little depression over hanging skin but not so extreme. I am able to bring reality to my forefront so I don't get lost in my own head. I am very healthy and enjoy the new energy level I have.

I am still focused on getting my degree I have one year left then I am done. I have been considering going to law school but I am still not sure because of the cost. I hope my career will finally advance once I finish my BA then maybe cost wont be such an issue.

I attempted a relationship but it ended and I have to say I was not in love with the guy. I was attempting to do something different try a guy I wound normally not date. I have not had many relationships because of my size I know so now it is very strange for me to socialize with men. Everyone now assumes tall, skinny, and pretty guys are falling at my feet lol. The truth is most guys think I am out of there league so no one ends of asking me out. So I lose all the weight and I am still isolate irony. I am still a little shy myself because I know whats going on underneath my clothes.

I have been feeling a little melancholy after the break up. I wonder sometimes was it because of my body sagging skin and deflated breast that lost his physical interest. Even still I was not mentally interested in the guy and wanted to break up after two weeks. I guess it just tapped into my own fears about my body and someone accepting me. I really don't think my sadness has anything to do with the guy. I guess I have more work to do with accepting myself.

So I guess life has not change much  still working on advancing my career, finding  a love life, and motivating myself. I still workout 3 to 4 days a week and hope the that the weights and cardio will tighten some of the skin. I don't have that much sagging skin but it is enough to make me uncomfortable. I am thankful for my health, job, my beautiful little girl, family, and friends. I definitely don't want to go back to over 300lbs so sagging skin and all I am content with being a smaller size. I did not start this journey to achieve a look or specific physical appearance I really started because of my health concerns. I was pre-diabetic and unable to lose weight. I also had other complication with my morbid obesity like knee and back problems. I think me getting into the dating arena and all the compliments has kinda of sent my objectives in the wrong direction which has been all about physical appearance.

I am not saying anything is wrong with wanting to look nice I just don't want to forget why I began this journey and not become so shallow. Anyway I digress life is no picnic. I know women who are smart, great looking with and without weight issues and still can't  remedy the single issue. I never wanted to be a statistic African American single mother or educated single women but I think I am going to stop looking at the statics and accept my journey.