"Perseverance is a great element of success. If you only knock long enough and loud enough at the gate, you are sure to wake up somebody."
– Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

Finding Fulfillment in Life, Not Food

A favorite tool I use with my health-coaching clients is a “future life" exercise where you set aside 20 to 30 minutes — or more, if you like — and take the time to really picture what your life could be like three months and then 12 months in the future. My clients find this can really help them to get un-stuck when they find themselves in a rut.

Start by taking a moment to pause, breathe deeply, and focus your attention away from the things that aren’t and toward the things that might be. In other words, prepare to focus on the positive. Next, spend five minutes letting your imagination run wild and think of anything that might make your life better. Do this without restriction — don’t editorialize or even think about how you will pull it off. Dare to dream! That is the warm-up.

Now your mind is energized and ready to get to work. The next step is to pick up a pen and paper and write your own story. Write about how you can realistically see yourself being healthier and happier in three months' time. You might not have the ideal job, but how could you make it a little more tolerable? You may not have all the support you need right now as you transition to the next stage of your life, but what can you add that will give you a little more support and fulfillment at home? Once you have made a good effort at creating your three-month story, focused on the positive, write your 12-month story in the same way.

Finally, plan out some small steps you can take this week that will help you to realize your new future. Then, each week going forward, sit down and write out how you can enhance your life in the week ahead. Remember, baby steps and persistence will get you a long way toward realizing your “future life."