Feeling nervous and scared

Hi everyone!!! I am 3 weeks Pre-op and so nervous... My sister just got the same surgery I am getting (RNY) and I see what she is going thru and the pain and all the ups and downs and scares me so much... A thought even crossed my mind like why am I doing this and I reassure myself that its for a better life and new healthy me...  Does anyone have any experiences or tips on how to shake this feeling?

If your a praying person...it works. It worked for me also just to keep telling yourself everyone is different and that "I;ll be OK...this is what I;m determined to do". You can do it

I had mine may 13Th and have lost many pounds and feel great now.

Yes I am a praying person.. I try to pray every day... It's just nerve racking in a way... Thank You so much... Oh wow i wish you the best of luck on your raod to being healthy...

Hi There,

    It's very usual to be nervous and afraid before most surgeries. I agree with Doug that prayer is very helpful. Remind yourself why you are doing this. My surgery was 1 year and 3 weeks ago. I've gone from a 5X to an 18 to 20. I use to be so sick and tired. Now I walk a mile a day (5X's a week.) It's a new, beautiful life for me. I would do it again in a heartbeat. It must be difficult to see your sister recovering. Like Doug said we are all different. We recover differently.
   Take a deep breath. Talk to someone you trust to stand with you on this new journey. You alone can decide if this is for you. There is pain. There are changes. But the pain goes away. The changes become routine. And for me, the new person I've become is here to stay.   Mag    P.S.  I'm still losing.   

You seem to have a great attitude, from your post; that it will be a healtier life. 

I had the RNY about 8 weeks ago, and as I have siad over and over like a broken record haha - it is the best decision I ever made.  I had no idea how precious being healthy was until I lost it.  I now feel alive - like I was born again. 

What I did pre-op was made a list of reasons I want to get the surgery - health reasons, appearance reasons, psychological reasons - be specific; what do you really want in life.

Mine ended up being two pages long! It hangs on my wall now. Whenever I have a moment of weakness, I just read it and I am assured that my life can only get better from here! 

Also, though everyone is different, I had less pain than I thought I would.  They send you home with a few pain killer RXs and I really only used them the first week and a half.  I felt overall it was very tolerable. 

And this seems impossible but after that first week, I felt healthier.  I could breath better, move better, and my joints didn't hurt as much.  And trsut me it gets better and easier and more fun every day that passes!